AIBU to think people on MN should stop directly engaging with you once you’ve asked them to?

[ThatJadeLion]

I find it utterly baffling that some people cannot accept that others may hold a different view on Mumsnet and similar platforms.
Of course it’s a discussion forum, and people are entitled to disagree, continue the wider conversation and express their own opinions. But once somebody has clearly said, “We have different views, I don’t wish to discuss this with you any further,” I think that boundary should be respected.

Some posters continue quoting and directly responding to the same person again and again, becoming increasingly argumentative or aggressive, even after being asked to stop. At that point, it no longer feels like a normal exchange of views; in some cases, it can begin to feel like someone is being deliberately hounded.

AIBU to think there should be a way to prevent another poster from repeatedly quoting or directly engaging with you... or at least a point at which they are expected to let it go? They could still continue the general discussion, just without persistently coming back to somebody who has made it clear they no longer wish to engage.

If a poster keeps poking me with a stick although I’ve been previously polite I just dip out. I’m not overly invested. Can’t be bothered. Life is short. We don’t all agree.

And you are wrong @ThatJadeLion

HTH

Of course, the name change facility makes avoiding posters slightly more awkward

Actually that's a good point. If I only blocked one user and they changed username, would that new name automatically be blocked? Because if so, it would be easy to block one person to track their usernames and then unblock and you would be able to link all their posts, which goes against the whole point of being able to change names for extra privacy, etc.

You don’t “own” this thread! It’s a public forum.

I hadn't thought of it from that point of view, I admit. Yes, I agree with you.

I just ignore them. You cannot block here but you should be able to prevent people from “@ing” you.

This is a general question. Not about me or anyone! If you want to continue to derail and turning this into a thread about a thread, fair enough.

When someone keeps needling you, you need to remember a few things. You're under no obligation to reply, some folks love having the last word. That's OK, just let them. Usually their behaviour says more about them than about you. You can get up and walk away from a thread at any time. There's no obligation to post right away, or at all. You can hide threads if they're getting to you. It's a vital skill to learn, not easy but once you learn to just step away and ignore you'll feel a lot better, and feel a bit sorry for those who keep trying to drag others into arguments! What a petty life they must have!

Name changes have proved to be vital in the past to prevent doxxing. MN gets targeted regularly. MRAs even sent a SWAT team to Justine's house. I have a separate email just for mn that is not linked to anything else and change name when I need to.

On a site like this, one of the only sites in the world that is predominantly female and allows women to have a voice, I would say protecting your identity is paramount.

But once somebody has clearly said, “We have different views, I don’t wish to discuss this with you any further,” I think that boundary should be respected.

Just stop responding to them and they'll soon get bored with the lack of response.

I don't think there should be some way to enforce that 'boundary', if that's what you're suggesting.

I do think there should be a block or mute poster facility on MN though. Not to stop anyone posting on your thread or replying to you, just so that you don't have to see t.

It's a forum, not a sounding board, you invite opinion and discussion. Some you might not like, some might go in different directions that you had in mind.
You are in the wrong place if you think you have some kind of right to become a thread police.

There's no need for anything, no need to block. Just ignore the posts you don't want to reply to.

If you are done with someone, why on earth would you keep replying?

Is it not possible that people get inspired to ask questions based off other threads and general observation on here?? I'm asking a general question with a poll that's not particularly related to any thread.

If you don't like how a thread is going just hide it and move on with your life. It's just mumsnet, it's not that deep. You can only control your own behaviour not anyone else's.

I prefer not to have a block function because I don't think speech should be policed just because you don't like what someone is saying.

If they are actually breaking guidelines you can report and MN will take a look but I generally like the way they allow robust discussion. And of course you don't need to block anyone, you can just ignore them.

It's possible ... but not usually in cases where the OP has got into it with another poster on a different thread that very same morning.

Starting butt-hurt "oh why is Mumset/other posters so awful???" threads after a tussle with another poster, but framing the thread as a supposedly general comment, is a reoccurring theme on here.