I haven't read the whole lot but something on the first page got me going.
The phrase "elective caesarian" is misleading. NHS don't give caesarians on patient choice. They call them "elective" if e.g baby is breach, (can't think of any more medical terms) erm wonky or whatever. Elective CS are elected by the consultants, not the women having the babies. They are for medical reasons.
I had an emergency CS with my PFB. I was induced and it was awful, then foetal distress, me in a dreadful way, then they whipped her out and it was fab. I found the recovery easy and the bleeding very light. Got the baby on the breast in recovery room and still BF at 11 mo.
The procedure itself was wonderful, going from a midwife who told me I had a low pain threshold to a sympathetic and professional anaethethetist and surgeon. And when they put the spinal block in, aaahhhhh.
Yet apparently I wasn't labouring enough for the midwife, I was offered no pain relief at all, not even gas and air, and they looked at me like I was weird every time I jumped up onto tiptoes and vomited at each (non) conraction.
Next time, what to do? I would like a natural birth, but do not under any circumstances want to be induced, ever again. I could prob ask for CS, but that would be at 38 weeks or something, which doesn't feel right, getting them out before they're ready, or wait and hope, but I get the feeling my babies liked to be cooked for a very long time, and they will want to induce me again... arrrgh!