Oh God, the "unlucky" argument boils my piss no end.
I'm "unlucky"
My DF was a nuclear test veteran, which likely has an impact on genetics and may have impacted me and my son. Can't get it proven because the DOD doesn't recognise it as a legitimate concern, so am blocked from investigating further.
I was accused of child abuse of my son when he was 6 weeks old (5 weeks prem) and fought tooth and nail to prevent forced adoption for 18 months. That centred around medical controversy too, hence my interest in this case.
My 14 year marriage to my DCs step father easn't great and concluded with me suffering a drug induced psychotic break for which I was sectioned. Am stable and have been for 15 years, I did not take any drugs voluntarily.
In the last 6 years I have lost my DM, my DH (both to cancer) and last year it was my DF, my MIL, and my last close Uncle in a three month period.
Following my DHs death, I lost my business, the rented home we shared, my finances are in the toilet and I have been ostracized from my community due to the actions of a former friend which I can't talk about for legal reasons and which have been given a free pass by said community if they know anything.
Some of this is indeed "bad luck" but some of it is a domino effect of cause and consequence, and the majority of it has been out of my control, yet I have often been given the side eye like a Typhoid Mary because disaster follows me around. And now at 57 I'm hamstrung and paralysed by it all.
I'm definitely not posting for sympathy, but to show that truth is often more complex than fiction.
On multiple occassions while advocating for my son, and more recently for my elderly parents, I have come up against various health service agencies. While some individuals have "done their best", collectively I have witnessed lack of basic care, a disregard for safeguarding which contributed to my Dad's death and a host of stuff which bureaucracy makes it nigh on impossible to address. And there is a tendency for professionals when challenged to deflect issues and make it "all about you" when it really really isn't.
Yes, sometimes people are just "unlucky" and there are "professionals" out there who claim I am a liar aggressive and delusional for challenging them So I can well believe that in the working environment of the NHS scapegoating does occur.
Takes me back to that old chestnut "What's the difference between God and a doctor?" "God doesn't think he's a doctor".