My DP and I are both mid-40’s. Previously divorced and each have our own kids ( all teens). Don’t live together and no plans to.
We get on really well most of the time. He’s a great partner in many ways, but he does something that drives me round the bend.
it is almost impossible to have a mature,
emotional conversation with him about anything. Any kind of question that relates to his values, feelings etc is deflected with some lame joke, or ridiculous answer.
I’ve found it really hurtful in the past when it’s been about his feelings. I still have to prise an ‘I love you’ out of him. Can’t remember the last time he said it to me which wasn’t in response to me saying it first.
In a way, I’ve got over that a bit because he is very kind and caring.
but I’m frankly getting a bit pissed off with never being able to ask him a serious question about anything. It’s all just glossed over with a lame joke. One example is that I’ve never heard him say anything about how his divorce affected him emotionally. ( it’s not raw- we’ve both been divorced 8 years)
and before anyone suggests it, I’m not someone who wants deep, meaningful conversations all the time. Far from it. But sometimes, it comes up.
i feel like I don’t know him very well even though we’ve been going out 3 and a half years.
aibu to consider ending what is otherwise a good relationship?