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To think the menopause makes no sense evolutionarily speaking

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CurdinHenry · Yesterday 22:15

Sure maybe it makes sense that women evolve into a new phase of wisdom and a role that's different from child having and of that. But how come we all seem to run out of the basic chemicals needed to keep our pelvic floor from collapsing? How can we be evolved to be almost certain to get very unwell across time (in our longer years on this planet) if we don't take supplements that have only existed for less than 100 years????

Feel a bit stressed about it.

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JustPlainStanfreyPock · Yesterday 22:48

I imagine that menopause would have come as a relief to those women in my family tree in the 19th and early 20th centuries who were having a baby every other year from the age of 18/19.

I'm on the far side of menopause having had an early one and no HRT due to chemo & oestrogen positive cancer, and despite having osteoporosis (medicated and no fractures) don't feel that menopause is quite the total doom-laden horror that seems to be being portrayed here. I'm quite happy not having periods or the monthly hormonal roller coaster ride and after 22 years post-menopause, am not yet 'very unwell'.

Don't be stressed, it's not that bad. Also evolution doesn't always have to make sense.

PollyBell · Yesterday 22:48

Neither does our appendix but yet here we are

GreenSingingFrog · Yesterday 22:48

Both menopause and long childhoods/child rearing years are human traits but not present in most animals. The two are often believed to be linked - if a woman is fertile until the end of her lifespan she’ll die leaving young babies behind. We’re meant to raise our children for many years before they ‘fly the nest’. Menopause ensures we stop breeding before ‘old age’ and live long enough to raise our youngest children to adulthood. Added bonus of grand mothering as well, supporting child rearing and passing on wisdom etc.

NullaEffugium · Yesterday 22:49

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · Yesterday 22:34

In a way, that is kind of even more depressing up to a point - if you went through the menopause early, you might be dead by 50! 😳😢

It would be depressing if remotely true. We didn’t die by 50 due to old age. It was usually due to infectious diseases carried by contaminated water or food, poor hygiene and parasites- most of which modern medicine and public sanitation and food/water regulation have solved.

thereisnomeaning · Yesterday 23:08

Nature doesn't have emotions or sentiment. All nature really wants us to do is reproduce. It will do that at the expense of the mother if necessary. Once you've replicated the species, you've done your bit.

nolongersurprised · Yesterday 23:08

NullaEffugium · Yesterday 22:46

Well, I’m not sure the dwindling estrogen hypothesis makes any sense at all as I’m in chemically induced menopause with aromatase inhibitors (thank you ER+ breast cancer). I have had zero estrogen for over a year, it’s lower than a 90yr old who is 40 years past menopause. No issues with my pelvic floor or incontinence.

It’s not a “hypothesis” that oestrogen is protective of the pelvic floor. It strengthens the pelvic floor muscles and connective tissues. Topical vaginal oestrogen for post-menopausal women with urogenital symptoms is very usual treatment.

We’re seeing low oestrogen causing weak pelvic floors play out with younger women who have never had children who take exogenous testosterone (transmen) where pelvic floor dysfunction is pretty much ubiquitous.

potterspot · Yesterday 23:12

I’m astounded that people think women died at 40 a few generations ago!

Dontgetstuckinthepast · Yesterday 23:12

Orcas and Belugas go through menopause too.

RaininSummer · Yesterday 23:19

Evolution wise I think we're are supposed to die once our offspring are capable of surviving.

crackofdoom · Yesterday 23:33

I can tell you one thing for free- women entering menopause are not evolutionarily designed to jump up and down right in front of the stage to their favourite band for a solid 90 minutes.

Thank God I was wearing dark coloured trousers, but it wouldn't have happened if I'd stayed home with my knitting.

RiotNotDiet · Yesterday 23:45

I saw a video recently (on Instagram, not yet fact checked it) that said after menopause, the ovaries don’t just dry up or become useless organs, they begin to instead develop/secrete more antibodies and anti inflammatories to keep women healthy past fertile age. So possibly in evolutionary purposes then once women had procreated that was one job done, but nature still needed older women around but not producing too many children, if they were healthy then women could continue contributing to other jobs such as raising the children, hunting, gathering, caring for younger expectant mothers etc.

KnickerlessParsons · Yesterday 23:52

AllJoyAndNoFun · Yesterday 22:17

I kind of think this “evolving to a new but vital stage” is kind of bullshit and the answer is that it didn’t really matter if women pissed themselves frequently or had sweats and generally felt shit because by that stage they’d served their evolutionary purpose.

We were never intended to live as long as we do. Most people would have been dead by about 40 so menopause would never have been a thing.

Persephonia1966 · Yesterday 23:53

Tauranga · Yesterday 22:30

I think many women who transition to menopause without pain or stress are probably more than the number who need help. They probably keep quiet!

Also, now many women drink, eat sugar, eat less whole foods and are overweight which definitely makes everything a thousand times worse.

Being overweight is a big part of it, but one of the things menopause does is make it much much easier to put on weight. In modern times that's a problem because we have access to a lot of fatty, sugary food and starvation (at least for people in the UK) isn't a big threat. So it's something that risks making you less healthy, and that exacerbates some of the other potential health issues that come with menopause.
In past times, when famine was a really big threat (and even in parts of the world today sadly) being able to keep on weight increased your chances of survival..when famine hits, usually its the old and babies who die first, then small children and active young men. Post menopausal women live the longest in those conditions.

So something which was once an evolutionary benefit becomes a health risk due to the world changing.

mulberrymilk · Today 00:12

KnickerlessParsons · Yesterday 23:52

We were never intended to live as long as we do. Most people would have been dead by about 40 so menopause would never have been a thing.

This really isn't true. People have as a rule been living to 60 and 70 since recorded history, and of course all the old sages of past centures were much older again.

mulberrymilk · Today 00:16

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · Yesterday 22:30

I always thought there was the "grandmother" theory (evolutionary speaking theory), as in the older women survive to support the younger generation with child rearing, and being part of the "village" needed to raise a child.

I could be totally wrong here though lol 😆

I do agree with you, menopause is utterly crap. I look back at the prime of my life health-wise before perimenopause started aged 39 and feel sad to think I will never feel so well again. The thought of 30 odd years of feeling awful really is a bit depressing 😕

Post-menopause for the vast majority is a major improvement on peri. You will be living the majority of your life in a post-menopausal state, where the hormones have settled to a new steady basline and where if you take care of yourself your adrenals will take over providing a certain amount of oestrogen.

The ovaries still produce some oestrogen post-menopause, they don't as people say, completely "dry up", and being a little plump as opposed to too thin means fat cells also contribute to overall healthy oestrogen levels - much the same levels at which we thrived as prepubescent girls.

PenelopeJoanSterling · Today 00:19

CurdinHenry · Yesterday 22:15

Sure maybe it makes sense that women evolve into a new phase of wisdom and a role that's different from child having and of that. But how come we all seem to run out of the basic chemicals needed to keep our pelvic floor from collapsing? How can we be evolved to be almost certain to get very unwell across time (in our longer years on this planet) if we don't take supplements that have only existed for less than 100 years????

Feel a bit stressed about it.

i had to use google ;

Menopause evolved not as a design flaw, but to shift older females from direct reproduction to nurturing descendants the Grandmother Hypothesis. However, evolutionary lifespans originally matched this reproductive shutdown. Our bodies age with the expectation of a shorter post-reproductive life, making modern pelvic health challenges more pronounced

so it seems humans were genetically created with a use by date

PenelopeJoanSterling · Today 00:19

mulberrymilk · Today 00:12

This really isn't true. People have as a rule been living to 60 and 70 since recorded history, and of course all the old sages of past centures were much older again.

not in general in medieval times

Spidermandino · Today 00:24

I don’t agree that women have only in the ost few generations have been living till menopause. It’s a very western way of thinking. Women have been reaching old age across the world for centuries. It’s documented.

mulberrymilk · Today 00:31

PenelopeJoanSterling · Today 00:19

not in general in medieval times

Not in general during the Black Plague, perhaps? It is well documented going back to Ancient Greece, in the Bible, and in many ancient texts from other civilisations going further back.

Psalm 90 in the Bible, for instance, states:

"The days of our years are threescore years and ten [ie, 70]; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years [ie, 80], yet is their strength labour and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away."

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · Today 00:34

PenelopeJoanSterling · Today 00:19

i had to use google ;

Menopause evolved not as a design flaw, but to shift older females from direct reproduction to nurturing descendants the Grandmother Hypothesis. However, evolutionary lifespans originally matched this reproductive shutdown. Our bodies age with the expectation of a shorter post-reproductive life, making modern pelvic health challenges more pronounced

so it seems humans were genetically created with a use by date

Exactly what I said earlier upthread. Biologically, from an evolutionary point of view, the grandmother theory makes sense.

But I guess the trade off from the times before modern medicine would have been a shorter life expectancy, but I gusss it means less time for menopause symptoms to affect women, so swings and roundabouts in a way.

mondaytosunday · Today 00:37

What? Most women get through menopause just fine. They don’t suddenly become incontinent has beens. But our bodies can’t keep reproducing - it’s a big toll. So menopause stops that and we then become unburdened by babies and their constant care and can move on to other responsibilities, like caring for elderly parents, helping our children with their children.

desperatehazzer · Today 00:43

NullaEffugium · Yesterday 22:24

Menopause makes complete sense evolutionarily speaking.
There is no point having a geriatric body try and grow and birth a baby. You’d not live long enough to raise the baby even if you survived the pregnancy and childbirth. I’m super happy being post menopausal. I feel better and healthier.

The prolapse, incontinence and so on is usually caused by modern medical interventions that hurry birth along. Episotomy, pitocin, breaking the waters, forceps, ventouse these all cause severe internal damage and large, deep tears. Even the cervical exams to check dilation damage us internally. It’s not caused by a lack of chemicals.

Are you saying that depletion of oestrogen does not affect the body?

nolongersurprised · Today 03:44

Such an unusual take from that poster.

Anyone who has had a job where they had to examine female genitalia knows that there are obvious physical changes to the labia, vagina after menopause, irrespective of whether or not those women had children. They aren’t subtle changes, vulvas, urethras, vaginas in women are hormonally responsive. They function better with oestrogen.

Men with significantly low testosterone have changes to their genitals as well.

SquirrelGG · Today 04:12

Twattergy · Yesterday 22:28

Well biologically, we run out of the hormones because we no longer need them to procreate. And biologically pre medicine we'd likely be dead within 10 years of menopause. So our quality of life and vitality wasnt really that important in terms of survival. The change in hormones doesn't mean we all get collapsed pelvic floors. Supplements are not the answer to menopause. HRT, exercise, better rest/sleep, supporting each other and healthy eating can help some of us.

What makes you think we'd likely be dead within 10 years of menopause? I am 20 years post menopause and still here and healthy - with no medical intervention at all.

Lexibletheflexible · Today 04:13

MeridaBrave · Yesterday 22:25

It has an evolutionary basis. Child raising is hard work so those who had their mothers to help them (as mothers no longer looking after own babies) could have more children themselves.

Yes. The few species that live through menopause all have strong social networks and a culture passed down by older generations. Whales for example. There are young whales in existence today who still avoid certain routes when migrating because their grandmothers and mothers "told" them of the dangers in those whaling waters.