To be stressed and scared about my 30th

[30andjotthriving]

I’m 30 on the 1st August and dreading it I just feel awful. I already have bpd and this is just making me feel worse. I feel old and hopeless and just like I’m going to be so much older than people

I was like this OP. All I can say is the anticipation is worse than the fact that- you’ll get over it. What is important is you have goals and happy things to work towards. Do you? Is your bpd medicated?

There’s loads of people you are older than now?

My 30s were the absolute best decade. If only you realised how young you still are. Wait until your hormones desert you then you’ll have a reason to feel old. You’re a youngster!

Sorry you’re feeling stressed about it, but we all age one day at a time, your 30th birthday you don’t age any more than you did on a day last week.
and re read your last sentence,
Literally everyone else is ageing at exactly the same rate.

you don’t have to make a big deal of the day, or even have a party if you don’t want to. Spend it how you like.

as I’ve got older, I’ve found it helpful to count my blessings and remember it is a privilege to grow older than not everyone has.

it can bring about reflections on where you are in life vs where you thought you’d be, but if that’s hitting you, try to use it as a basis for making changes where needed.

It's a privilege to become older - many aren't as fortunate as we are.

Enjoy it xxx

Yes but turning 30 just seems a lot older

Oh I loved my 30’s! My favourite decade (so far!)
You’ll never be as young as you are right now- one day you’ll wish you were 30 again!

You do realise people older than 30 exist already? And it will happen whether you think about it or not?

I’m so much happier in my late 40s than I was when I was 30.

Although I understand it’s tough, please do read the room!!

Many, many of us are over 30 on here and happy.

And as PP have said, growing older is a real
privilege. Many do not get that privilege. So please embrace your life and live it to its fullest.

You have a choice now - be 30 and embrace it or 30 and fixated on how old you are. Please choose the former.

Gently, get a grip. I’m 50 and I’m happier now than I’ve ever been. There are so many benefits to getting older, try to reframe your mindset.

Don’t be daft OP. 30 is still young. I’m 53 and don’t feel particularly old!

Well it’s older than 29 and younger that 31 🤷🏻‍♀️

Wallow for a bit then get a grip.

You are no older compared to others than you are now as everyone gets older together ?

@30andjotthriving I’m in my best decade now - 40s. The 20s and 30s were young and lots to achieve, career, travelling, house buying, marriage, kids etc… whilst great doing so, they were extremely busy and exhausting tbh. Everything is so much more settled in my 40s. Kids are older, self sufficient. Money is okay. Marriage is okay. Now I get to just enjoy it all.

30s is young. I wouldn’t swap my 40s for it!

I think it's a sad indictment of today's society that you actually think 30 is old OP.

I had a bit of a run in with my neighbour this weekend and both she - probably in her mid to late 30s - and her teenage daughter took great delight in hurling insults at me which included the word Old. Me being old was apparently the biggest insult they could think of. It actually didn't bother me because actually i'm in my 70s and I KNOW I'm old.

You on the other hand OP are still a young woman with hopefully lots of good years left to enjoy yourself and believe me being in your 30s can be great fun and very fulfilling.

I was also like this and now i’m late 40s and wonder what I was so worried about 😂 so if it makes you feel better, you are a lot younger ‘than people’ too. Celebrate it and do something nice for yourself.

Hang out with older friends. 😁
Honestly, passing 30 was a bit of a relief, in hindsight.
Celebrate you!!! 🥳

Good lord! 30 is hardly old. It's barely grown up.

I hope you're getting some talking therapy - your fixation on being old needs a bit of readjustment.

Or - what is it you want to do in your life that you can't or won't do? Can you do something a bit challenging for yourself, so you can redirect your thinking from feeling "old" to feeling proud of yourself for achieving something interesting, or difficult, or challenging?

I also have bpd and dreaded turning 30 im now late 30s and honestly my 30s has been the best decade

30 is not old. The next 20 years are likely to be the best of your life. Look at it this way you’ve really only had about 9 years of true adulthood so far. Almost your whole adult life is ahead of you. It’s exciting!

But you’ll only be a month older than you are today. Each day, you are simultaneously older than you've ever been, and younger than you’ll ever be.

As someone else pointed out, to age is a blessing not afforded to all.