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AIBU to try to in-still a work ethic in my kids?

75 replies

Putneydad7 · 10/07/2026 10:08

I own an ex council house in London which I rent out and on the estate are a mix of private and council properties. I’ve spent the last few months renovating it. The last two weeks I’ve had my kids (one home from uni, one post exams) work on the renovations.
Next door is a council house and no one works, the kids and the mum sit around all day while their massive state funded garden grows weeds.
I struggle to make any money due to the taxes and regulations heaped on landlords with more to come from Burnham, anything I do make is subject to ever higher tax.
How can one family sit around and do bugger all and another have everyone working in the dirt in 35c heat just to keep next door in swimming pools. (Aside, next door bought an inflatable pool in the first heatwave and then because they never emptied it or treated it, the water became green. So they just bought a second one for this heatwave and put it right next to the green one!!!! )
I know socialism is spending other people’s money, but it is hard to in-still a work ethic in my kids when they’d rather be in the pool (but not the green one).

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ScholesPanda · 10/07/2026 10:11

Lol. Can't wait for Jaws to move into one of the swimming pools so you can jump over him.

takealettermsjones · 10/07/2026 10:14

Yes YABU for making your kids do home renovation work in 35°c heat.

Justaquestionplease · 10/07/2026 10:15

I'm pleased you're struggling to make money from renting out an ex council house. It's absolutely immoral they were sold off in the first place.

Justaquestionplease · 10/07/2026 10:17

And stop talking nonsense... you're not getting your kids to do this so you can financially support these people. You're doing it for your own ends which is fine but don't pretend that you're slogging your guts out because you want to help these types.

Larrythecatforpm · 10/07/2026 10:18

You deserve to struggle to make money off an ex council house, it should of stayed an council house instead of being sold to a greedy landlord.

AmberSpy · 10/07/2026 10:18

*instil

DjokovicsTowel · 10/07/2026 10:19

Maybe let your kids have a few days off?

They don't really need to be your slave labour (assuming you aren't paying them but you expect them to do it?) during some of the hottest days of the year. It can wait a few days

ThatCyanCat · 10/07/2026 10:20

The last two weeks I’ve had my kids (one home from uni, one post exams) work on the renovations.

Why? It's your property and your responsibility. Did you pay them?

Missscentsation · 10/07/2026 10:22

I totally agree with you. It seems all labour want to do is increase entitlement of the welfare warriors funded by workers. You are not BU. I despair along with you (and at commenters here!)

Rothburypixie · 10/07/2026 10:22

So this thread isn’t about work ethic for your kids, its just about slagging off the neighbour really

Error404FucksNotFound · 10/07/2026 10:22

Yanbu to install a work ethic in your children.
Yabu for typing this pile of wank.

Devilsmommy · 10/07/2026 10:25

Rothburypixie · 10/07/2026 10:22

So this thread isn’t about work ethic for your kids, its just about slagging off the neighbour really

Yet another benefit bashing thread, boring now🙄

Dweetfidilove · 10/07/2026 10:26

You sound like a simpleton. Surely you were raising them to be industrious and with a work ethic before now?

I don't think you're in a position to judge anyone, with your questionable ethics.

Kirbert2 · 10/07/2026 10:28

Sounds like you are making your kids do all of the hard work whilst you do nothing but watch the neighbours all day. Odd.

sandalbed · 10/07/2026 10:29

why would making your dc do renovations on your rental property instil a work ethic?

randomchap · 10/07/2026 10:31

So a thinly disguised political attack?

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 10/07/2026 10:32

How about if you had more of a work ethic you could have bought a house that wasn’t on a social housing estate, hmm?

I live on a sh estate, plenty of ‘hard working’ people here. Including the ones who don’t leave their homes because they work from home.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 10/07/2026 10:33

randomchap · 10/07/2026 10:31

So a thinly disguised political attack?

Not even thinly disguised 🤣

Sartre · 10/07/2026 10:34

The idea behind right to buy was a decent one by allowing working class folk to purchase their home at an affordable price. I don’t think Thatcher’s government imagined greedy capitalist bastards would eventually buy loads of them to rent out and profit from.

I imagine the council house you purchased would have been rented to a poor family for at least half the amount you’ll rip from an equally poor family.

backformoreofthesame · 10/07/2026 10:35

Gosh this is boring on here today

winge winge winge “they get everything for nothing and I have to work”

stop working - try it for yourself

randomchap · 10/07/2026 10:37

backformoreofthesame · 10/07/2026 10:35

Gosh this is boring on here today

winge winge winge “they get everything for nothing and I have to work”

stop working - try it for yourself

They're not even working. They are a landlord and want their kids to do the renovation while they sit at home.

Assuming this is real that is

dizzydizzydizzy · 10/07/2026 10:39

Do you actually know their circumstances? Do you know for certain that they don’t work? Could they have invisible disabilities? I have ME/CFS. I look like a normal healthy person but in fact I am too ill to work. I’m sure there are people who also think I am playing the system. I am not.

PinkFrogss · 10/07/2026 10:42

Being a landlord is entirely optional. If it’s not working for then sell the house.

I imagine you get your money indirectly from benefits, unless you know for a fact that none of your tenants receive any form of benefit.

It’s much easier to get the housing component of universal credit when you rent rather than own, so less rental properties = less benefits. Feel free to do your bit to help lower the welfare bill OP

SweatySpider321 · 10/07/2026 10:46

Reverse or wind up 🧐

PurpleThistle7 · 10/07/2026 10:46

Well the answer to your question is no - of course it’s good for kids to have chores and to help out and to participate in family responsibilities.

The answer is to your unasked question is it’s icky to profit off an ex council home and it’s really unnecessary to be a judgemental curtain twitcher.