My boyfriend has been a dick for the last few weeks. He’s giving up smoking and has been short and snappy with me. He’s made me cry at least once every day with the sheer nastiness. He excuses this saying “you try giving up smoking after 20 years”.
I came home from work on Monday this week with bad period pains and had to lie down in bed. I was asleep for about an hour and then got up. When I got up my nephew (who is 6) rang me and asked if I could play a game of chess on the app with him. For context, my nephew is autistic and struggling a lot at school, he has no friends. Me and my brother have started alternating the days we play chess with him so he feels like he has people who care around him. MY sister (nephews mum) is really grateful for this and says nephew tells his teachers about his “chess family”. I cared a lot for nephew when he was a baby and toddler and obviously love him a lot.
Last night boyfriend had friends over and was laughing and joking with them which was nice. Tension from the last few weeks seemed to have eased. He was talking nicely with me and I was having a nice time with friends.
He initiated sex which was fine, but then after he went upstairs and played on his video games. Went back to saying he was tired and had a long day. Then I caught him staring at me with a blank face when I was making tea, I asked if he was ok, didn’t reply. The look made me feel uneasy, I can’t explain it. It was like a look of hatred.
He started snapping again about minor stuff, including why I was drying my hair when it was hot. Then was saying I was taking up too much room on the couch.
I asked him about his different mood now his friends had gone. His reply was “you’re different with people too. You came home sick Monday but then magically woke up and could play chess with some kid”
The “some kid” comment really upset me. Hes not some kid, he’s family and so lonely. He loves time with his auntie?
I feel so sad, my nephew is a beautiful little boy and values this gone so much. Why can my boyfriend be so happy with his friends, happy to have sex and then become a moody ass again?
He said I was over sensitive and needy. He said I’m making him feel bad for no reason and he’s not in a mood. I’m at a loss