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To have kicked an old man’s dog?

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itsme189 · 08/07/2026 12:37

This morning I was walking my 2 very small elderly dogs on lead in the woods near me where it’s nice and cool for them.

they love people but they don’t love when dogs run up to them and get all in their face, valid I wouldn’t like that either. If a dog on or off lead just walks past or gives them a quick sniff they don’t mind. I always tell people not to let their dogs come right up to them.
Theyve never bitten just growled and I just don’t want to risk anything.

there was an old man walking a large greyhound type dog off lead and he’s miles away from it it runs at us very fast so I stick my leg in front of my dogs and the dog doesn’t stop runs straight into my leg. He then excitedly throws his foot on top of my smallest dog he squeals in pain and my other dog starts growling and showing teeth.

so I picked them up and then the big dogs starts jumping up at me to get to my dogs so I kick it away.

Old man then starts screaming at me for “abusing” his friendly dog and a lady walking passed then said to him “I saw her kick the dog”

and now I don’t know if I did too much but I was so overwhelmed and worried it would become a fight and there’s no way my old boys would do well in that situation. To make it worse the lady made a post about it in our local Facebook group (luckily no pictures) and everyone’s saying awful things but they only know one side!

For the record the dog was not hurt didn’t even squeal!

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MalcomVexx · Yesterday 20:02

Kariksalomna · Yesterday 18:02

Yeah to that but the dog still shouldn't have been kicked. .. Owner of the dog is wrong regarding off lead, but also op is wrong regarding actually showing violence to the dog. R people actually defending that the dog should have been kicked? Not oh but it jumped on op, poor op was surprised I'd do the same, itsfight flight mode etc etc, but the simple question, should the dog be kicked in this scenario when it wasn't being aggressive as in showing teeth, barking wanting to bite?

It’s hardly violence. Dogs don’t think twice about showing or being shown “violence” when something they don’t want happens. Women shouldn’t either.

Serenstar1 · Yesterday 20:11

I admit I'm not a dog owner op, but I'm totally on your side. The only dogs who should be off lead in a public place are those with brilliant recall. I am a bit sick of certain dog owners who think because they love their dog and wouldn't mind him/ her in there face everyone else should. My oldest DD is terrified of dogs and having dogs she doesn't know come bounding up to her isn't going to help. I also know someone who is severely allergic to dogs and it really limits his life. All because certain dog owners either can't or are too selfish to control their dogs.

Kariksalomna · Yesterday 22:04

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · Yesterday 18:40

Kariksalomna
R people actually defending that the dog should have been kicked?

Yes, I am. It needed to be prevented from its course of behaviour, and no other deterrent action had worked. It was causing physical harm to someone who was unable to hit it with a spare lead or blast it with compressed air (which it seems would be perfectly acceptable and which have been advocated) to deter it from its continuing assault on her, even if she'd had such weapons with her, because her arms were full of her small, frightened, angry, elderly dogs against whom it had trespassed and one of which it had injured. At that point kicking it is self-defence even if it were not defence of a small and injured animal. And it worked: the aggressor went away.

In any case, since it had leaped on her and had its front paws on her shoulder from behind at the time, any kick she was able to take at it would have had about a 30-45cm travel to it, which is hardly going to do actual damage.

It was not actually biting; big deal. If it had knocked her to the ground, as it seems perfectly likely that it might have done, can you guarantee that she would not have broken a bone in her fall, burdened as she was with two small dogs which meant she had no arm free?

No, sorry not sorry, I think OP matters rather more than the dog in this instance.

Yeah but dog wasn't attacking op. We'll have to disagree. I'm not one for advocating kicking non aggressive dogs.

Bluebellsparklypant · Yesterday 22:56

Not sure about kicking the greyhound, was it jumping up aggressively or playfully?

If a dog jumps up the advice is to put your knee out so it bumps in to the dogs chest. However you were acting in the moment abd we

Sereine · Yesterday 23:18

Kariksalomna · Yesterday 22:04

Yeah but dog wasn't attacking op. We'll have to disagree. I'm not one for advocating kicking non aggressive dogs.

Edited

He was bruising and scratching her. Was she just supposed to stand there waiting patiently till he got bored?

eastegg · Yesterday 23:39

Sereine · Yesterday 23:18

He was bruising and scratching her. Was she just supposed to stand there waiting patiently till he got bored?

Or perhaps until the dog had actually bitten her? Drawn blood? I’m not sure what this evidence of ‘aggression’ is that some posters are saying OP should have waited for before protecting herself. I absolutely despair at the garbage some people will talk in their efforts to blame the victims of crap dog ownership.

Singlemumsurvivor · Yesterday 23:51

Allisnotlost1 · 08/07/2026 19:53

It all sounds quite implausible to be honest - a huge dog pinning her in place, her arms full of her own dogs and she managed to kick the dog? I’m unconvinced.

Oh f*ck off. Do you even own a small dog?

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