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Neighbour cultivating fox den

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Sunnyday14558 · 05/07/2026 09:25

Our neighbour has actively been getting foxes to nest in her garden. We live on the outskirts of a city so I’m not entirely sure why she’s luring them into a semi detached property from woodland half a mile away. Anyhow, we now have a family living in her garden and the noise at night is keeping us awake. We have two children under 4 and have found a dead rat in their play area and fox poo all over the lawn. The patio also stinks from fox wee so we can’t open our windows downstairs. I literally have no idea what to do as we’ve tried fox deterrents before and nothing seems to work. I want to confront her about it but I’m pretty sure she’ll accuse me of being mean to the foxes. A someone please give me some thoughts on how to approach this? Is encouraging foxes to live in an urban garden really kind for them? I ask because it sounds like they’re ripping each other apart at night with the fighting.

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DameOfThrones · 05/07/2026 12:03

rageconsumesme · 05/07/2026 11:00

Dog is greedy, smelt the food and dashed off. Husband said it looked like a pile of cat food had been emptied on the ground. Dog thought it was his lucky day.

Then your dog should be on a lead.

And I say that as the owner of two dogs.

This is not your neighbour's fault.

Rubyslipperswitch · 05/07/2026 12:40

rageconsumesme · 05/07/2026 10:46

My dog disappeared late at night and when calling him, my neighbour popped out her bedroom window and said 'Your dog is eating my fox food with medicine in it!'
She had put mange medicine in it. I was furious.
Fortunately the dog was fine but still, what a selfish t*at.

You dog should not be anywhere near your neighbour's garden in the first place.

It should either be on a leash when you walk them or at home/in your garden with no means of escaping.

It is just poor dog ownership on your part and nothing to do with your neighbours!

Datgal · 05/07/2026 12:47

QueenofFox · 05/07/2026 11:17

My neighbour does this as well- even has dog bowls for them. It’s absolute batshit. They are vermin. Following for solutions

Don't think foxes are classed as vermin tbh. They're just wild animals.

Ariel896 · 05/07/2026 12:53

Darragon · 05/07/2026 10:48

Is your neighbour the poster from a couple of weeks ago who got upset that her DH didn’t feed the local fox for her while she was away? There can’t possibly be two of these prats around, can there?!

😂 oh I remember that one! Batshit people around!

redboxerclub · 05/07/2026 13:03

as an aside
onnlocal news this week there was woman who opens her windows during the heatwave and pigeons built a nest on the spare bed. AND SHE LET THEM MOVE IN 🤢she now shares a house with pigeons and it turns my stomach typing it

YANBU

TheThirteenthFairy · 05/07/2026 13:10

I have an idea that the smell of men's urine will keep them away, and you might be able to sort your own perimeter spraying, but I don't know quite how you'd get it into your neighbour's garden.

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 05/07/2026 13:12

You should never give proper mange medicine to foxes unless you can ‘target feed’. It is calculated by weight so could harm other animals.

Possiblynever · 05/07/2026 13:21

Yeah I live in a city suburb and loads of people do this, post videos of them hand feeding them!. I don't think most people realise just how many diseases and parasites they carry, many of which can be passed on to the family dog, and humans. I've handled sick foxes, they are usually absolutely covered in fleas and lice.

ASingleDayOnVenus · 05/07/2026 13:35

LilacHam · 05/07/2026 10:53

It's dangerous for the wildlife.

And can cause numerous problems with pets, wildlife attacking humans because they have no natural fear anymore.

Can even cause structural damage to gardens, outbuildings and houses.

What nonsense!

Simply putting out food for foxes doesn't lead to "wildlife attacking humans because they have no natural fear anymore". The "danger" comes if people try to handheld or pet foxes - but even then, the main danger is to the foxes who may think that all humans are friendly and give them food...and that doesn't end well for the foxes. There are vanishingly few cases of foxes attacking humans in this country (ie where foxes don't suffer from rabies, which does make animals behave aggressively).

And structural damage to houses? Come on!

Frequency · 05/07/2026 13:38

rageconsumesme · 05/07/2026 10:46

My dog disappeared late at night and when calling him, my neighbour popped out her bedroom window and said 'Your dog is eating my fox food with medicine in it!'
She had put mange medicine in it. I was furious.
Fortunately the dog was fine but still, what a selfish t*at.

You let your dog out unsupervised when your garden is not secure, but your neighbour is the selfish one?

Velumental · 05/07/2026 13:47

rageconsumesme · 05/07/2026 10:46

My dog disappeared late at night and when calling him, my neighbour popped out her bedroom window and said 'Your dog is eating my fox food with medicine in it!'
She had put mange medicine in it. I was furious.
Fortunately the dog was fine but still, what a selfish t*at.

Why was your dog in someone else's garden and off their lead in a residential area?

LilacHam · 05/07/2026 14:14

Monty36 · 05/07/2026 10:54

We get foxes. Doesn’t bother us in the slightest. Yes there is some poo. But no smells. And I don’t live in fear of anyone being attacked. They would be more terrified of humans than anything.

Since mankind has decided to own every small piece of land, cut down endless woods to build houses it is no surprise we come into contact with other animals.

We do share the world with other species. It isn’t ours to own by ourselves. Although we are doing a fine job of frankly doing that and messing it up into the bargain.

If you include roads and car parks as well as housing, less than 10% of the UK is built on.

I can only think that people that think mankind has built on/destroyed every piece of land don't leave their street very often.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 05/07/2026 14:18

Yes, your menfolk need to pee around your garden, sorry.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 05/07/2026 14:19

redboxerclub · 05/07/2026 13:03

as an aside
onnlocal news this week there was woman who opens her windows during the heatwave and pigeons built a nest on the spare bed. AND SHE LET THEM MOVE IN 🤢she now shares a house with pigeons and it turns my stomach typing it

YANBU

Interesting case, as you aren’t allowed to interfere with a bird nest. I have no idea what the correct protocol is when they nest somewhere so unreasonable!

Hawksie · 05/07/2026 14:27

The only reason fox charities say don't feed foxes is because it increases the risk of harm to them from idiotic nasty humans.

Nearly50omg · 05/07/2026 14:30

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Nearly50omg · 05/07/2026 14:31

Hawksie · 05/07/2026 14:27

The only reason fox charities say don't feed foxes is because it increases the risk of harm to them from idiotic nasty humans.

It makes them less fearful of humans and more of a risk to them!

LilacHam · 05/07/2026 14:33

ASingleDayOnVenus · 05/07/2026 13:35

What nonsense!

Simply putting out food for foxes doesn't lead to "wildlife attacking humans because they have no natural fear anymore". The "danger" comes if people try to handheld or pet foxes - but even then, the main danger is to the foxes who may think that all humans are friendly and give them food...and that doesn't end well for the foxes. There are vanishingly few cases of foxes attacking humans in this country (ie where foxes don't suffer from rabies, which does make animals behave aggressively).

And structural damage to houses? Come on!

It's not nonsense. Foxes frequently attack and kill pets in gardens. And I didn't say it wasn't rare that they attack humans but when they do it's usually infants so for that reason alone people shouldn't be encouraging them into urban areas even if you don't care about pet cats, rabbits, guinea pigs or chickens being killed.

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-21399709

https://www.bbc.com/news/10251349

https://news.sky.com/story/fox-could-have-ripped-baby-to-pieces-in-attack-at-familys-home-11250657

And of course it's not nonsense that wildlife can cause structural damage to homes with setts or burrows.

Foxes more with sheds, porches and decking. Badgers can fuck the foundations of your house.

https://vergo.uk/pest-facts/problems-badgers-can-cause/#:~:text=Structural%20Damage,a%20risk%20to%20property%20stability.

"Badger setts are complex and extensive, sometimes stretching hundreds of metres. When built under or near buildings, these tunnels can lead to subsidence, cracked walls, or uneven floors, posing a risk to property stability"

An urban fox - file picture

Fox attacked baby boy in own home, police say

A four-week-old baby boy was attacked by a fox in his home in south London, the Metropolitan Police says.

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-21399709

Frequency · 05/07/2026 14:34

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They are not a risk to your children. They also don't kill for fun. If they kill surplus prey, it is with the intention of returning to retrieve it and eat it.

Poisoning wildlife instead of fox-proofing your pet's habitat, otoh, does make you a murderous bastard.

Monty36 · 05/07/2026 14:36

LilacHam · 05/07/2026 14:14

If you include roads and car parks as well as housing, less than 10% of the UK is built on.

I can only think that people that think mankind has built on/destroyed every piece of land don't leave their street very often.

You may be technically correct. But also true is the fact we are over populated. That we have built on far more land than we should have done. In doing so we have encroached on other species. We have land that cannot be built on. Land used for farming and agriculture. Land for landfill sites.

We do not own the planet. We share it with other species. Or should try to do so.

HerbaceousQuestions · 05/07/2026 14:40

In a few thousand years, foxes will evolve into foxdogs.

Humans probably had this kind of conversation when prehistoric neighbours were buddying up with wolves.

HerbaceousQuestions · 05/07/2026 14:42

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 05/07/2026 14:18

Yes, your menfolk need to pee around your garden, sorry.

In the past I have found this works to deter cats, but do not currently have a man who would agree to such behaviour. all very proper

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 05/07/2026 14:59

HerbaceousQuestions · 05/07/2026 14:42

In the past I have found this works to deter cats, but do not currently have a man who would agree to such behaviour. all very proper

At the risk of sounding flippant, bet you any money you’d have a queue were you to advertise the need 🤣
Both my sons went through a ‘wild wee’ stage. We had a 3 storey house and they’d go all the way down to the back garden and out, passing toilets on the way.

Malinia · 05/07/2026 15:01

My neighbour has foxes living in her garden and i love it when they come into ours! It's so cute to see their cubs and they often sunbathe on our lawn. We don't experience any issues with them.

Malinia · 05/07/2026 15:03

redboxerclub · 05/07/2026 13:03

as an aside
onnlocal news this week there was woman who opens her windows during the heatwave and pigeons built a nest on the spare bed. AND SHE LET THEM MOVE IN 🤢she now shares a house with pigeons and it turns my stomach typing it

YANBU

I would be thrilled if this happened to me! Pigeons are awesome.