AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

[BlackTulipss]

Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

If he is really into football then I would let him but he would have to get up and go to school. It is a useful life lesson about having to get yourself into work after a night out.

Agreed. England getting knocked out happens every 4 years, plenty more opportunities to see them not winning in the future.

For God sake let him stay up! Every single child I know is staying up, not one parent is worried about it. I honestly never come across these people in real life! Breathe....unclench... enjoy something with your son (that he wants to do!)

Let him. This is the stuff they’ll remember. Most of the kids will be tired at school tomorrow.

The Scotland games were a one in 28 years event. England's mens team have only failed to qualify for the World Cup twice since 1950. and I think only twice for the Euros.

Different in my view.

Not much is going on in school this time of year anyway is it? They break up the week after next. You can guarantee most of the school won't be in tomorrow. Just give him the day off.

Im letting mine stay up, he had a late night last night, hes up now so plan is he goes to bed much earlier than usual (about 8pm) to squeeze a few hours sleep in and get up at 12.45am to watch it.

Whether he does sleep is another matter but its a one off, he loves footy and all his mates are watching it so I personally do feel its a bit tight to say no.

If they go in at all. It will be like a ghost town.

A lesson in shared misery then.

When England played in the 1966 World Cup final we were leaving on holiday. My father insisted we went that day regardless.
8 hour drive to Cornwall.
Roads surprisingly clear.
No radio.
Only discovered result when we arrived at end of day.

I absolutely would allow it.
This is a one off.
It will be all the children will talk about and he will feel left out.
We were a very firm bed time family here but I wouldn't dream of not allowing this.

Nights like this are carried forever.

Nearly 50 years ago my friend aged 15 was not allowed do a post exam night out.
I can't remember any detail of the night, only her upset at her strict father saying no to a normal teenager dance. Neither can she.
I wouldn't ever want to be that parent.

It spoiled the night for us too as she was devastated and we were all great friends.

Awful parenting to other your children.
Boys are obsessed with things like this.
You will pay dearly and hear about it for the rest of your days.
Kids have elephant memories for shit like this!
Beware.

I’m saying if you go to bed at 7pm you can get up and watch it. And then have a couple more hours after. And then go to school.

So does that mean he goes to bed usually at 7.30 if he needs 11 hours sleep to function

Worth factoring in age here. Assuming England get knocked out at some point between now and the semis, as is usual, there are still a limited number of these you get as a kid old enough to get involved, and as a teen. For a lot of people who enjoy such communal sporting events, there's something special about having them when you're so young. DS may well be one of those people.

I don't see the issue? I don't follow football nor care but my 7 & 15 year old want to watch it because it's what everyone else is going on about right now.

They've had late nights through out their life for new years eve, god forbid I try get them to actually sleep on xmas eve, holidays, birthday events, kids do just fine tired - are you just thinking of an adult drinking booze getting too wasted to go to work the next day, with the phoning in sick part?

Get him some pop, doritos, salsa and you can go to bed whenever, he's 13/14. He will be fine for 1 night

Well I remember staying up to watch Andy Murray win the US Open donkeys years ago. I can’t remember the details of the match- the final score etc or even how many sets there were but I can remember the excitement of it.

It must have gone on a long time and it definitely finished in the early hours.

It’s the last 16 ffs and being hyped to death
Ask a 16 yo what they remember about the last WC early rounds

Yes, I would let him stay up - but a storm is due there, and if lightning strikes within a certain distance, the kick off will be delayed until it’s over.

So, it may start a lot later.

https://www.thesun.co.uk/sport/39649281/mexico-vs-england-world-cup-weather-fears/

If he doesn't go to sleep (likely if his father is so keen on him watching it), he either goes to school on zero sleep or he has an unauthorised absence.

He's not sick.

Suspect this will be the first of many posts we’ll see like this today. 🙄

Is his dad staying up for the game OP? If so, that's an interesting evening you're going to have.

You sound fun at parties…

It’s 1 night. Back to normal after that. YABU.

Get him to go to bed at the regular time or even a bit earlier and wake him. If he truly needs that much sleep he may not get up anyway but you’ve given him the chance, I’d then get him to school at the normal time have everything ready so he can get an extra 15 mins or so - everyone can manage ok one night of broken sleep! Needing 11 hours every single night is very unusual at that age though!

Yes this.

I was 9
I didn’t have a vote