Page 22 | AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

Pinkie89 · Yesterday 19:54

I’m getting up with my 2 kids at 1am, they’re aged 7 and 10. We will be up for the match and back to bed after. I don’t see the big deal really. Even if they are knackered, it’s one day every 4 years and the end of term anyway.

Oakcupboard · Yesterday 19:55

I’m not a soccer fan and definitely not an England fan, but for an occasion like this I would allow him to stay up and even take the day off school next day if need be. It’s a special occasion

SisterMaryImmaculate · Yesterday 19:56

I’m a secondary school teacher and I’m getting up for it!
My kids at school are going to be an absolute pain in the arse tomorrow but it’s once in four years. We can celebrate or commiserate together and all move on. But actually in the two minutes at the start of the lesson that we talk about the match, I come across a bit more human and we realise we have something in common. Worth it for a couple of days of tiredness.
Let the lad stay up!!

Sassylovesbooks · Yesterday 19:58

My son is Year 10, he won't be staying up. There's plenty of World Cups ahead in his lifetime that he can watch. My son's secondary school haven't allowed students to go in later. The primary schools where I live, are allowing children to be in at school by 10 am. Both my husband and I have work, so we're not staying up either.

My son needs his sleep to function at school. I wouldn't be helping him, if I allowed him to stay up. I'd have a grumpy, tired son, who has the rest of the week at school to contend with. If it had been a match in the early hours of Friday morning, I might have agreed but definitely not a Monday morning.

Superhansrantowindsor · Yesterday 20:05

As long as he doesn’t have an end of year exam or test I’d let him stay off. One day really isn’t going to make a difference.

Littlemisssunshine1982 · Yesterday 20:05

BlackTulipss · Yesterday 07:58

Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

He needs a full 11 hours sleep, has to be up at 6.30 in the morning are you saying you normally send your 14year old son to bed at 7.30pm? That aside I wouldn’t let him watch the football

TheAmusedDuck · Yesterday 20:08

My son is eight and we’re letting him watch. It’s once in a lifetime thing and he can always nap later in the day. Plus, it’s the last week of school and they’re not doing anything anyway so I’d let him go in at lunch.

darksideofthetoon · Yesterday 20:12

BlackTulipss · Yesterday 07:58

Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

I let our 6 & 8 year old girls get back up to watch the Scotland game at 2am. In fact, they watched all 3 of the Scotland games. They were so excited for it. But, unlike England, it may be the only time they see Scotland play in a WC for a long time.

stonegirl · Yesterday 20:15

Since the match time has changed this is all a moot point. But I will say my grandson has mock exams tomorrow and for the next couple of days (due to them being put off due to the hot weather) so in this case school is more important than football - its not the final !! only the last 16 for goodness sake

DearDenimEagle · Yesterday 20:16

I’d send him to bed early, let him set an alarm for the match. He might change his mind when the alarm goes off. If he doesn’t, well , he can watch as much as he can stay awake for, then go back to bed. He might be fine in the morning..he might regret it, but letting him experience it once might deflect future asks…and ig]f he can’t cope the next day, it strengthens a case for next time.
One night won’t kill him and either way, it will be a learning experience on resilient or not

tinyspiny · Yesterday 20:20

stonegirl · Yesterday 20:15

Since the match time has changed this is all a moot point. But I will say my grandson has mock exams tomorrow and for the next couple of days (due to them being put off due to the hot weather) so in this case school is more important than football - its not the final !! only the last 16 for goodness sake

The match time hasn’t been changed , it was at 1am , it’s still at 1 am .

bittertwisted · Yesterday 20:20

stonegirl · Yesterday 20:15

Since the match time has changed this is all a moot point. But I will say my grandson has mock exams tomorrow and for the next couple of days (due to them being put off due to the hot weather) so in this case school is more important than football - its not the final !! only the last 16 for goodness sake

It hasn’t

Pinkpanther111 · Yesterday 20:26

Yes end of term. So everything is winding down.
Maybe I am wrong to do this but I would let him have day off on Monday.

NerrSnerr · Yesterday 20:27

Heronwatcher · Yesterday 09:09

Yeesh! My son is aged 9, not year 9 and I’m letting him watch it! What exactly do you think will happen?

I am having a pretty active day and plan to send my son for an early night, so I’m hoping he gets at least 4/5 hours before the match and then a couple of hours after (possibly once he’s stopped sobbing because they’ve been knocked out!). And he will be at school on time and have an early night on Monday.

My 9 year old is exactly the same. He’s currently trying to sleep now (he’s a night owl so usually falls asleep about 10pm). We’re going to watch it in bed together. My 11 year old also wants to be woken up but I suspect at 1am she may choose to stay in bed.

Nowisthetimeforicecream · Yesterday 20:28

PistachioTiramisu · Yesterday 19:50

Bloody football - can't wait until the whole thing is over - when is it - another month? Kids go to school when they should - no exception.

Most will loss interest after England go out tonight.

Nowisthetimeforicecream · Yesterday 20:30

stonegirl · Yesterday 20:15

Since the match time has changed this is all a moot point. But I will say my grandson has mock exams tomorrow and for the next couple of days (due to them being put off due to the hot weather) so in this case school is more important than football - its not the final !! only the last 16 for goodness sake

Er they Kier Starmered it. U turn back to 1am.

scrivette · Yesterday 20:32

My 10 year old went to bed early and I will wake him up to watch it with me. He will just have to be tired and go to bed early the next day.

Jc2001 · Yesterday 20:34

Mydogisagentleman · Yesterday 08:03

Get up earlier and watch it on catch up
Early night tomorrow

By which time everyone will know the result.

drippingyethappy · Yesterday 20:35

UniquePinkSwan · Yesterday 08:01

Let him. It’s once every 4 years ffs

This. My year 8 is beside me asleep and will get up for the match, watch England get trashed and go to sleep before getting up for school. Are you often very controlling OP?

Missingpop · Yesterday 20:40

Not at all I honestly think your one of the very few sensible parents; education is far more important they might see it now but if e gland lose & play like muppets they’ll be saying I’m glad I didn’t watch it &!you’ll be the hero of the moment x

Frenzi · Yesterday 20:40

Why did you ask the question when you obviously arent interested in other peoples opinions?

He is 14. He knows what time he has to be at school the next day. If he wants to watch the match let him (I am not a football fan and really dont see the point of staying up late to watch something you can get the result of when you wake up).

He has to be at school for x time the following day. Make him stick to that. He can finish school, come home and go to bed. One day of being knackered wont kill him and him choosing what he is doing will make him realise he needs his sleep (or doesnt)

Netcurtainnelly · Yesterday 20:46

On BBC2 at 7.10 in the morning.

MerryUmberHedgehog · Yesterday 20:48

I think if you dont he will always remember that so let him. He would never forgive you.

BurntBroccoli · Yesterday 20:51

MerryUmberHedgehog · Yesterday 20:48

I think if you dont he will always remember that so let him. He would never forgive you.

Especially at 14 years old! He’ll be an adult in a few years.

Do you usually send him to bed at 7.30pm OP?

Cariadm · Yesterday 20:52

BlackTulipss · Yesterday 07:58

Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

I think you must really know the answer to this question to have asked it in the first place?! 🙄
There are several reasons why this is a no brainer that comes firmly down on the side of your son definitely being allowed to watch the match probably like most, if not all of, his peers! most of those reasons have been mentioned by other posters so I won't labour the point and will just say FFS loosen up and get things into perspective!! 😱