SoBoredOfSelfDoubtHowToGetOut ·
04/07/2026 20:20
1970 baby. Did A levels, BA, MSc marketing.
I found it really hard to get work after my MSc. I did get a job in a design agency about a year later at the age of 29. Before that I had taught English abroad, bar work. Nothing impressive.
Got married at 33. Four kids. Patchy employment history on my part. I just didn’t decide what direction to take and with four dcs, I just took bits and pieces of work here and there. Husband was abusive. Got us into loads of debt. He’s a high earner but I’m left with 50% of the debt which I didn’t know about until the divorce. He was very controlling financially so I avoided it because I didn't want him screaming in my face again. No wonder he didn’t want me to look closely though given his catastrophic spending.
I haven’t built any sort of career. I’m 56 this year. I’m shitting myself frankly. I don’t know what to do. What work or training to focus on to make sure I don’t end up on the streets aged 67.
I feel like such a loser. I went to a wedding recently and all my university peers are super successful and secure. I have nothing. I don’t want to have nothing. I’d like to build and be ok not least for my dcs.
Cant afford to volunteer!! I work part time for a charity. Trying to find full time work.