Took my dd to a party and I’d forgotten to reply to the invite

[givingupimdone]

I feel awful! Only realised when she clearly had an emergency party bag ……. I want to cry 😭

Don't worry OP, it's happened to me. My dc got an invite that didn't have a parents number on it, I assumed they didn't want rsvps. On the way there I happened to turn the invite over and realised the RSVP date and parents phone number was on the back.

Out of interest, what is a ‘girl’ present?

As it happens typically i normally do! I usually get some crayons and a colouring book and a few sweets or chocolate 🤦🏻‍♀️

A doll, bit like a Barbie but not and smaller, but one with hair and you can dress and I think she had a suitcase to go on holiday, not an expensive one.

Did you child not know of their friend was a boy or girl?

From now on put reminders in your phone, or send the reply the minute you get it-we get so many pings these days it's just easier. If you've apologised there isn't much more you can do.

Yeah that’s really embarrassing

I always gave vouchers for this reason.
Forgive yourself OP, I wouldn't bat an eyelid, life is busy.
We are all doing our best.

I'm sorry but I'm laughing a bit at your gift choice. It's good you've apologised for not replying and the mum has been nice about it. I don't know if you can message again and say you have realised you picked up the wrong parcel and meant to give her child something else (any sweets or a book handy?) or whether drawing attention to it is worse? If all presents went into a big pile they may be surprised by the doll but not know who gave it!

You usually buy colouring book etc but this time when you didn’t know if it was a girl or boy you bought a doll? Why?

Op you made a mistake and you’ve apologised. That’s all you can do.

now accept that you’re human and that the fact that you’re mortified means you’re a good person. Otherwise you wouldn’t care.

Because I trusted my 4yr old who told me it was a girl 🤣

I think the present is the major issue here, many girls don’t like typical girly presents, I don’t think I’ve ever bought anything not androgynous.

Op. Why don’t you send in an appropriate gift, your child enjoyed the party, you put the mum out, buy something for a boy and give it to her next week,

@givingupimdone. That made me laugh!!

I’m not going add fuel to the fire or get into a debate about what a ‘gift’ should be, or ‘girl and boy’ gifts. Thank you for those who have supported ❤️

I’m glad the mum was kind, that happened to me (from the party mum perspective) and I was just always grateful they turned up anyway

I think the fact you messaged and apologised was key. Everyone makes mistakes but I think what isn’t acceptable is pretending it wasn’t a mistake and saying nothing.

Glad she was lovely about it!

It takes seconds to reply to an invite. Maybe learn a lesson from this to avoid your DD potentially being upset in future and you looking like a bad mum

We once had a dad drop a kid off and leave during one of our parties. It didn’t take long to realise that no one knew who it was. We fed him and kept hold of him and the mum was livid when she turned up, dad had gone to the wrong soft play centre.

She doesn’t look like a bad mum. Disorganised at most, but no one can say someone is a bad parent for not replying to a party invite.

Oh, no! 🤦‍♀️😂🤷‍♀️

Could be worse.

I forgot to take my youngest to his first day of pre-school. They phoned to ask and I said "Oh I thought that was tomorrow, we are in bed watching Ben and Holly". They laughed . These things happen.

I didn't read one of the first ever newsletters properly when my dd was in reception informing us the children could dress up as their favourite animal. Dd the only kid in school uniform. I raced home & grabbed the first costume I could find, thinking it was just a dress up day, so dd dressed up as that well known animal, the pumpkin 🤣

Well done!

I always sent art stuff as presents - water colour pad with a set of paints, seeds to plant along with small trowel, etc.