AIBU to worry about my 15-year-old missing 2-3 period?

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my 15 yo started her period at 10 has been largely regular since around 11-12 however no period since 15th April
she’s not sexually active I’m really sure of that
she has gained a stone over past year but she’s not overweight

coincidentally I’m 45 and have not had a period for 45 days when I usually have them every 27-32. Days i was also very regular! I can’t work it out? Anyone had similar

Buy her a pregnancy test in the morning.

I mean, I’ve worked with teens and many ARE sexually active despite their parents being adamant they are not…
Id take her to the GP. They will probably do a pg test as part of the investigations.
You could be perimenopausal.

MY daughter (16) was very late a couple of months back. Over 2 months between periods. We put this down to stress from GCSE exams. Seems regular now but I did take her to GP and they did some blood tests

Putting on weight and no period?

2+2 =

Test first. Then take her to the gp

I hope your DD is ok op x

Don't insist on a pregnant test.

If she is pregnant and unable to tell you, it will only make things worse.

If she isn't, forcing her to do a test, twll her her mum doesn't trust her word.

Tell her you are concerned and are booking a GP to get her checked out. It will get her talking more at the least.

Talk to her. And then GP for bloods ‘just to check’ all
is ok. I have recollection of missing one or two periods in the past for no apparent reason.. maybe times of stress?

I hope daughter is ok too.

Could it be stress? A thyroid issue (especially with the weight gain)?

Is she doing her mocks and feeling stressed

GPs don’t do pregnancy tests any more. They’re about £2 in the chemist, just grab one to rule it out. But tbf my periods disappeared for 6 months when I was 15 due to stress.

Well one answer there could be PCOS.

I had irregular periods, could go months without one throughout my life including teenage. I was taken to see a doctor (a woman, not our usual one) but I didn’t get a diagnosis till I was TTC in my 30s and suffered with bad acne so I wish it had been followed up properly early. Probably weren’t all the hormone tests etc then though.

This!

Best get her to do a pregnancy test. It could also be a lot of other things thyroid, pcos, endometriosis, pid. some infections like covid can mess up your periods as well.

except she has been “largely regular” for the 5 years since she started, and isn’t overweight.

This. Then if the GP wants to carry out any tests at least you've not the one saying you don't believe her.

I agree about talking to her seriously about pregnancy. However it could be stress. My DD went on a school ski trip earlier this year and her period was 2 weeks late after it, I think a combination of intense exercise and hardly any food (was “disgusting” apparently) for a week made her period late. She is usually very regular

My money’s on stress and pcos. If she’s long finished gaining height (likely given the early onset at 10 - early periods mean people tend to be short), then Putting on a stone over a year is also a sign. Does she have acne? Does she have downy hair on her face where a man might grow a beard? What’s her diet like?

I’m sure you know your DD and I know my DD’s definitely aren’t sexually active, they’re not even really interested in boys plus wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex unless it happens at school… So I guess you know similarly your DD isn’t. I’d just take her to a GP and ask. It might be PCOS.

Please don’t humiliate her by making her take a pregnancy test. This will just be giving her the message that you don’t trust her. The GP will do one anyway as a matter of course and if she is, she will feel like she can trust you

If you are definitely definitely sure she couldn't be pregnant (and sadly that could mean something happening to her that she didnt want to happen or didnt consent to eg at a party), then i would also consider PCOS / PMOS. I had a whole year of periods go missing at 19 which was written off as "stress" so I wasnt diagnosed until I was 27 and came off the pill to start thinking about a family. Would have been much easier to get a handle on it earlier on. I hope you both get to the bottom of it 💐

Just to add to this, PCOS is a syndrome in which various of these symptoms may or may not be present - I never had hirsutism and wasn’t particularly overweight though not thin for instance.

she’s not sexually active I’m really sure of that

Unless she has actually done a pregnancy test you can’t be sure of that enough to rule out pregnancy.

If it’s not pregnancy there is really no issue with a 15 year old missing a few periods, it’s developmentally normal and many things can affect cycles. Plus many women have all sorts of cycles.

Pcos. I started at 10 and then at 15 it got really irregular to the point of being one a year. Weight gain is a sign.

It could be anything. Mine stopped for 6 months in my 20’s, The GP prescribed medication they returned. I’d have waited a few more months if I’d known they were on a break.