AIBU to worry about my 15-year-old missing 2-3 period?

[Elphabayo]

looking fur advice
my 15 yo started her period at 10 has been largely regular since around 11-12 however no period since 15th April
she’s not sexually active I’m really sure of that
she has gained a stone over past year but she’s not overweight

coincidentally I’m 45 and have not had a period for 45 days when I usually have them every 27-32. Days i was also very regular! I can’t work it out? Anyone had similar

get a urine sample bottle from the GP surgery to take with you to a doctors appointment (and then do a pregnancy test)

I have had times when I didn’t menstruate because my body was stressed with continuous hot weather. In a hot country, so I don’t know if a 4 day heat wave would do that, but it might

Irregular periods at 15 are not uncommon. Mine were all over the place at that age, as were my daughter's.

Please don't make her take a pregnancy test if she tells you she is not sexually active. That's just going to humiliate her and make her think you don't trust her. (and I'm sure she's capable of getting a test herself if she is lying to you).

OP- in your case it might be peri-menopause.

However close you are with your daughter, you cannot be sure she absolutely has not ever been sexually active.

Ive never been regular so to me missing few periods when 15 are not red flags.

If you really must get her a pregnancy test, it needs to come with the caveat: I understand you aren’t having sex, and I believe that. But, just in case you were and hadn’t felt comfortable telling me, here is a test. If you do the test I won’t presume that means you are having sex, you could just be putting my mind at ease. And if you do want to talk about anything I’m here.

But I am betting that it is nothing to worry about, and that time will bring the period. If not then GP

I don’t agree that it’s so dreadful to ask her to do a pregnancy test.

You can frame it as “Of course I believe you, but if we end up needing to see a doctor about this, it’s the first thing they will ask, so best to rule it out for that reason”.

I agree that thyroid and PCOS are possible explanations. If you/she suspect these then eating low carb should help. Any other PCOS symptoms like hairiness or acne? Not everyone has all the symptoms though.

My daughter when 17 had a lot of missed periods (say 2 then had a period and so on) and weight gain (not sexually active either ) it took a while to be correctly diagnosed as overactive thyroid which is unusual as usually causes weight loss. Ask GP to check thyroid levels , hope all ok x

I would say stress, or some sort of hormone imbalance. Explain to her you will make an appointment with the doctor but they will expect her to have out ruled pregnancy before so can she do test at home if she’s not pregnant and your sure thyroid issues or pelvic problems such as cist or pcod all of which need the doctors intervention and blood test.

@Elphabayo mine was similar except her periods started to become more erratic over time, eventually ending up with missing a couple. Turns out she has hypothyroidism and PCOS. The doctor did stress that if she doesn't have a period for 3 months that she must go to them asap for a jab to bring it on or it can start to do permanent damage.

I bought a thyroid test from Boots (the one that's around £30 rather than the other one) to find out she had hypothyroidism in the first place though as it takes forever to get a doctors appointment here plus we would have just had the usual 'it's stress/anxiety' trotted out. The GP then did more blood tests to confirm it and has done more going forward in order to get her medication dosage right and she does now cycle relatively normally. She's also on agnus castus for the PCOS too. At no stage did they ask for a pregnancy test.

My friends mum was adamant and very sure her daughter was not sexually active.

Her grandchild is turning 24 years old next week.

Op just check so you can take pregnancy off the list.

I've just taken my 17yo to the GP because she's had no periods for over 6 months. We didn't do a pregnancy test because I knew the chance of her being pregnant was non-existent. I told her the GP might want one but she just asked her if she was sexually active and then checked her tummy. We're waiting for blood tests.

With weight gain I'd assume pregnancy or thyroid issues.

Yes, sadly I'm well aware of this. It is why it took 15 years to get a diagnosis for my daughter.

Absence of periods would be a symptom of a overactive thyroid, however she would not have gained weight with this, quite the opposite,that is a symptom of underactive thyroid.

Take her to your GP- they will ask the awkward questions.
It could be stress but regular for 2 years , putting on weight ,and now no period for 2 months. Occam's razor suggests she is pregnant.

Take her to GO to check everything is ok.

Good way to word it.

Same here. My DD has also regularly been prescribed both iron and B12 and recently had to have an iron infusion as her levels were so low.

If she hasn’t had a period for 90+ days she needs to see her doctor. I used to regularly have long cycles and they used to want to force it with medication after 90days because it’s not good just let your body keep building up lining.

You don't need to be overweight to have PCOS. Skinny as anything but don't ovulate over here.

Why would it be sadly though? Without the appropriate symptoms linking to pcos it can’t be actually defined as PCOs, because it isn’t. Any of the symptoms on their own could point to countless other conditions.

You can have PCO.

My friend's teenager also went a few months without a period - a couple of years ago. It honestly could be just ordinary adolescent hormonal turmoil, plus my friend has PCOS and wondered if her DD might have it too. Stress, diet, general teen body changes etc can all mess with teenage girls' cycles.

I suspect if you take her to the doctor, they will insist on doing a pregnancy test as a matter of routine, so it might be worth taking her simply so she ends up having to take one without you implying that you don't trust her.

Well exactly, any one of the pcos symptoms on their own can point to any number of other conditions.

I thought nothing of going 6 months without a period when I was a teenager and my mum took me to the doctor but didn’t say why and it was only later that I twigged that she wanted to see if I was pregnant (this was 1970’s). I only had regular periods when I went on the pill. I also have had weight issues throughout my life. When I wanted to get pregnant I had tests and found I had PCOS and I had to have a course of Clomiphene to get pregnant. There’s a few metabolic disorders that are linked together causing insulin resistance and PCOS is one of them.