Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

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I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

I don't think there's any right or wrong here... it's just a question of how much it bothers you.

Actually op I've reread your subsequent posts.and I think he should dump you

I LOVE crisps but even I am feeling the ick here. Wrappers down the side of the bed and being sprayed in crisp dust, yuk.
But the worst part is being so boring with food on holiday, that I absolutely couldn’t deal with.

Good luck with that outlook.
No-one should be struggling during maternity leave if their partner has a good wage but in real life you don’t get away with being a princess either.
If you want a partnership with equal respect it has to work both ways.
You can dump him for any reason you like, you can’t ignore the icky feeling when it joins a relationship.

Is a sophisticated crisp not an oxymoron? Anyway I think I'd find out if he is prepared to compromise before dumping. If he knows the non-stop downmarket crisp munching behaviour is upsetting for you but carries on regardless whenever you are together, that might indicate an unwillingness to adapt and be considerate. It's not that the act in itself is so bad but not caring about the effect on you would be concerning. Likewise it would be unreasonable for you to insist on a complete ban if the crisps are his guilty pleasure.

Please dump him. You mention he earns well and is not bad looking. He deserves someone much nicer than you.

kettle ones are just normal ones

So he permanently smells of synthetic cheesy crisp dust? His ASS would be dust!

Sorry, but of all the low-key unattractive traits in men, I'm not sure I can think of many that are worse. Being ingrained with pickled onion Monster Munch dust, smelling of it, TASTING off it, all the time - in my mind, on a par with foot-picking, sofa tooth-flossing, nose-picking in public.

Most of us enjoy a packet of crisps now and then, and there's room for the more disgusting synthetic end of the spectrum, but 3 a day and not washing hands? How old is he, five?

If this is real you are not compatible.

You've got the ick ... It won't go away, so it's a case of putting up with it if he's worth it.

I too do the tipping the last atoms out of the packet.

Never in my life read a comment section where so many people are that far up their own arses they wouldn’t be seen dead eating a skip. Your poor husbands and partners honestly.

Have you seen the size of a pack of space raiders? 3 packs is the equivalent of a normal sized bag!

In all honesty- yes dump him. You sound like an absolute nightmare to be around.

They are better for you on some level. Less processed shite, not so many artificial ingredients, but obviously still quite high in fat. Give me a Kettle Chip over s horrible NikNak.any day 😬😳

Thank you, thank you, thank you! This post made me laugh out loud, especially the part about him throwing his head back to catch all the crumbs and then popping the bag. I'm sorry, I'm not much help. Sit him down and gently tell him your relationship needs an embargo on crisps for it to succeed.

Nobody in the world should be with anyone who calls them disgusting. Imagine he wrote a similar post about you? And the kettle crisps/ ‘lesser’ crisps thing is absurd- it’s like the people who call ‘wine/gin time’ and consider themselves over people who drink beer or alcopops- they’re all alcohol- you’re not better because you choose one over the other!!

Sounds like he is an adult who once was a child with sensory issues around eating. Crisp’s and chips are the safe foods for a lot of children with sensory problems, he’s probably spent years avoiding foods.
My own son only eats dried foods, he hasn’t had a sauce or squishy meal since he was a toddler.

7 months and you have the ick. Dont waste any more time - let him go find someone who loves monster munch crisps as much as he does.

I think you should dump him because you obviously don't really like him, if this is bothering you so much after 7 months. Either let the man enjoy his NikNaks or dump him.

The only eating British foods abroad would put me off. I love crisps so the other not so much 🤣 but yeah always smelling like wotsits /pickled onion monster munch is a bit off putting as well as his immaturity with the crisp packets 🤣. I think like you said you’ve got the ick. Ick won’t just go. You’ve also voiced the ick. Listen to yourself. End the relationship. Go find someone else you actually love as when you do you won’t give a shit about the stuff that has given you the ick here. Life is short OP don’t waste it when your heart sounds like it’s not in it here

I love cheap crisps and have been known to eat three packs in a day but I give my self the idk afterwards if I don’t immediately wash my hands, let alone all the other stuff your guy does

If it gives you the ick it gives you the ick, but I think you might be single for a long time if someone eating crisps is enough to put you off.

Skips and pickled onion flavour Monster Munch? Man has excellent taste. Keep him.

This also makes me think that his mum sounds as though she could become the MIL from hell!

It sounds as though you have the ick...

It's a No No for you personally, so dump him. We all have things we find disgusting and why shouldn't we honour our own feelings and our personal lines in the sand ?