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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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SurreySenMum26 · 29/06/2026 17:30

Forget the racist angle, I would not feel safe in a community of 3:1 men to women and I would not feel safe for my dd. Or are we too woke to say that if you took a random sample of men, x in say in 100 would never assault a female? So why are men fleeing war zones safer?

Or is it sexist to say if i passed my dd alone with 100 random men none of them would touch her?

A school girls was raped by two men on her way to school by two men like this in my village I don't care if I hurt someone's feelings above keeping my child safe. To think a massive influx of single men into a tiny village will have no implications. I'd rather presume a big influx of single men isn't safe for a girl walking to school than take that risk. My dd wouldn't be walking to school.

Lemonpandas · 29/06/2026 17:30

Hi op
My village is also getting a lot of visitors,the same as yours .
And the government has recently removed planning rights from the county council..so they can literally do as they please.
I live in a lib dem controlled area ..and the lib dem councillor has a petition for people to sign who don't want this ..won't do any good though.

But to be fair ...I come from up north ,born and bred ,and the changes in my lifetime ..some northern towns have been really hammered
Its not fair some areas have huge amounts of asylum seekers and others ,like where I live have very few .
If governments go around starting wars and displacing people they can't expect no consequences further down the line ..and we the people vote these governments in..so we are all reaping what we sow ..
I cannot imagine how awful at 20 ,it must be to leave your home and family and everything you own ,to try to find a better life for your family ..with the expectations of the whole family on your shoulders..the expectations you will get them to safety to ..at 20 or 25 .years old .and to then end up somewhere you know your not wanted ..
So yeah it's shit my village is getting 1200 extra males ..but it's more shit for them , missing their families,their wives or girlfriends mother's and siblings.
Anyway..the point I came on to make ..i.am wondering if we are talking about the same village ,in which case there is little anyone can do other than sign the petition.
But reading the messages on Facebook..I can't imagine it will be lib dem controlled area after the next election
And the more people share the joy of visitors in their area ..the more they think harder about who to vote for at the next election

Cheese55 · 29/06/2026 17:31

Meadowfinch · 29/06/2026 16:24

You aren't helpless but you need to think ahead. Talk to the local planning authority and your MP? Ask what is being done to safeguard the local population. 1,500 young men with no female companions and nothing to do, will inevitably lead to tensions.

While the politicians are arguing, you need to consider the safety of every female in your house. Do you have dds? How do they get around? You'll need to reconsider if they walk to school, cycle or run on their own etc. Check your domestic security.

Edited

Men can live without sex you know, despite what they say.

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 17:31

smallglassbottle · 29/06/2026 17:29

Far Right
Extreme Far Right
Extreme Nazi Far Right So Far Right We Now Live On Venus Whilst Hurling Molotov Cocktails At The Earth

Gammon
Yaxley-Lennon fans
Flag shaggers
Daily Fail Readers
CBeebies news enthusiasts
Far right racist Garage lovers

All the embarrassing nicknames.

notnorman · 29/06/2026 17:31

ExtraOnions · 29/06/2026 16:30

I’d have left then in the Travel Lodges they were already in … they were hardly living at The Ritz, and were close to the services they needed.

… but (as we know) all Asylum Seekers are sex-pest, so best to ship them out of the cities, away from services, a put them in a place ill-equipped to cope.

The flag wavers just wanted them out of thier area, and did not care where they went to next.

They weren’t in Travellodges. Many in Copthorne/Millennium hotels.

JoyousOpalLemur · 29/06/2026 17:31

I'm amazed the Lib Dems keep getting away with all the open borders and pro trans stuff tbh

BillieWiper · 29/06/2026 17:32

Littlebitpsycho · 29/06/2026 17:07

@BillieWiper haven't done anything wrong? Apart from enter the country illegally you mean

Yes, some entered the country without correct paperwork presumably. But it's not illegal to seek asylum. So no they haven't done anything wrong apart from that.

ilovebrie8 · 29/06/2026 17:32

Giantfeets · 29/06/2026 17:20

I live in an area close to a hotel used for several years to house asylum seekers. It’s not had any protests outside or similar. A great number of the residents work as Deliveroo drivers. You see them leave and return to the hotel on electric bikes, motorbikes and scooters. They also work in the money laundering shops which make up a big portion of our high street now. These shops are raided and closed but then open hours later. We of course have a really big drugs problem so there is always cash in hand employment to be found in dealing. The council and police are aware, but it’s an issue so big that they can’t get on top of it.

If it wasn’t so easy to access this employment, I wonder if it would make it quite so attractive to come here?

Similar in my area lots are doing uber, deliverioo cash in hand or working at mini marts, vape shops which spring up constantly. Lot of bikes everywhere.

The area has changed dramatically it’s been brought down considerably it’s a mess.

They’ve come from countries that don’t like us and their attitudes to women aren’t compatible with ours.

notnorman · 29/06/2026 17:32

If the places they’re coming from are so awful - Where are the women? Are they expected just to put up with it?

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 17:33

NeverDropYourMooncup · 29/06/2026 17:24

Trouble is that certain groups have developed the unfortunate habit of travelling to those sites in order to try and burn them to the ground with innocent people inside.

If the people seeking asylum/refugee status weren't at risk of baying mobs with molotov cocktails each time Yaxley Lennon needs a few quid extra, they'd still be in those cities quite safely waiting for their cases to be handled.

Do you know what?
You sound unhinged.

It is not normal to bring in hundreds of foreign men PER DAY in to our country. Then expect the public to pay for them.
We pay for their homes, food, health, teeth, education, clothes.
Our daughters are being raped, our sons stabbed, our grandparents petrified.

Meanwhile our education crumbles, our healthcare is nearly gone. The infrastructure is disintegrating and government is panicking.

This is NOT NORMAL. Anyone who thinks it is normal and acceptable has a major problem.

Dragonfly97 · 29/06/2026 17:33

TFImBackIn · 29/06/2026 16:26

Oh god, I would hate this - it's the fact they're all men that I'd be objecting to.

I agree. I'd be worried about a large number of single men altogether, especially if they are from a culture that doesn't see women as equal.

Vinvertebrate · 29/06/2026 17:33

smallglassbottle · 29/06/2026 17:29

Far Right
Extreme Far Right
Extreme Nazi Far Right So Far Right We Now Live On Venus Whilst Hurling Molotov Cocktails At The Earth

Or in old money, “slightly right of centre”.

I miss the days when you could argue about politics without being compared to Gengis Khan for a largely mainstream view. It really is a gift to the likes of Reform.

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 17:33

notnorman · 29/06/2026 17:32

If the places they’re coming from are so awful - Where are the women? Are they expected just to put up with it?

Didn't you know - they are going back for their women?

Cleo65 · 29/06/2026 17:34

You are not wrong. This should not be happening. Anywhere. What's the long term plan for this invasion? These men are not here to integrate, make friends, follow/respect our customs & religion or contribute to our society. You are right to be angry, that does not make you racist - it makes you justifiably realistic.

putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 17:34

Lemonpandas · 29/06/2026 17:30

Hi op
My village is also getting a lot of visitors,the same as yours .
And the government has recently removed planning rights from the county council..so they can literally do as they please.
I live in a lib dem controlled area ..and the lib dem councillor has a petition for people to sign who don't want this ..won't do any good though.

But to be fair ...I come from up north ,born and bred ,and the changes in my lifetime ..some northern towns have been really hammered
Its not fair some areas have huge amounts of asylum seekers and others ,like where I live have very few .
If governments go around starting wars and displacing people they can't expect no consequences further down the line ..and we the people vote these governments in..so we are all reaping what we sow ..
I cannot imagine how awful at 20 ,it must be to leave your home and family and everything you own ,to try to find a better life for your family ..with the expectations of the whole family on your shoulders..the expectations you will get them to safety to ..at 20 or 25 .years old .and to then end up somewhere you know your not wanted ..
So yeah it's shit my village is getting 1200 extra males ..but it's more shit for them , missing their families,their wives or girlfriends mother's and siblings.
Anyway..the point I came on to make ..i.am wondering if we are talking about the same village ,in which case there is little anyone can do other than sign the petition.
But reading the messages on Facebook..I can't imagine it will be lib dem controlled area after the next election
And the more people share the joy of visitors in their area ..the more they think harder about who to vote for at the next election

It's not the same village---I'm in one of the other ones!

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cardibach · 29/06/2026 17:34

ilovebrie8 · 29/06/2026 17:01

Rwanda was the best option, following Australia’s lead.

Flown offshore until assessed.

But Starmer then dropped that idea.

I feel for you OP that is worrying the sheer numbers.

Edited

That isn’t what Rwanda was. It wasn’t flying off until assessed. It was flying off permanently, it wasn’t legal and even if it had been it was a really, really bad deal. It was also very small numbers and we had agreed to take the same number back of the most vulnerable refugees who had arrived in Rwanda. It’s amazing how little those in favour of this useless plan know about it.

notnorman · 29/06/2026 17:34

ilovebrie8 · 29/06/2026 17:32

Similar in my area lots are doing uber, deliverioo cash in hand or working at mini marts, vape shops which spring up constantly. Lot of bikes everywhere.

The area has changed dramatically it’s been brought down considerably it’s a mess.

They’ve come from countries that don’t like us and their attitudes to women aren’t compatible with ours.

My daughter chats a lot with uber drivers who do the uber eats (in her job as well as getting Ubers herself). Shes v left wing but is shocked herself at what some of these men are coming out with - regarding their attitude to women.

Verv · 29/06/2026 17:35

MyKindHiker · 29/06/2026 17:00

The Magna Carta also doesn't allow those without a trial either.

It kind of sounds like you want to live in Putin's Russia?

Why are you bringing Putin's Russia into it?
Lets stick with medieval Britain.

As well as the Magna Carta they also had quite the habit of flogging vagrants and sending them back to their own parish, sans trial because vagrants were identifiable, occasionally due to V forehead branding, which now would be considered a terrible tut tut on the human rights front.

Persinally, I'm of the view that medieval principles aren't necessarily relevant to the 21st century.

Sarah2891 · 29/06/2026 17:35

YANBU OP. I would absolutely hate this.

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 17:37

We just don't want them in the country. I understand why. Many other nations build detention centres to house them until the inevitable deportation (ones where they can't leave).

EasternStandard · 29/06/2026 17:38

cardibach · 29/06/2026 17:34

That isn’t what Rwanda was. It wasn’t flying off until assessed. It was flying off permanently, it wasn’t legal and even if it had been it was a really, really bad deal. It was also very small numbers and we had agreed to take the same number back of the most vulnerable refugees who had arrived in Rwanda. It’s amazing how little those in favour of this useless plan know about it.

Off shore processing isn’t the way to reduce numbers even if it’s a fly in fly out addition to public spends.

Beamsss · 29/06/2026 17:38

putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:26

What do you think of it though? I know why it has happenedbecause the governent's number one priority is closing hotelseven if they spend more and put the whole burden on a few tiny communities.

That's what "the people" asked for though.

Strong feelings were made felt about the use of hotels, no one wats them in HMOs in their street.

Putting them in remote former army bases means only a few voters people are affected.

However, you don't know it will be a problem. Maybe your village could be the one to give them a rpper welcome snd start integrsting them.

Probably people felt the same way when the Army base opened.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 29/06/2026 17:39

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 29/06/2026 17:27

I saw this on NextDoor op as I live nearby. I did sign the petition but most people are too scared to say anything for fear of coming across as a Reform voter. I would absolutely not be happy about this.

That’s exactly what is happening. They highlight the lower class, especially those who have bad teeth, just so middle class people don’t ever consider joining the angry mobs way of thinking.
Divide and conker.
Others are professionals who would risk their job by showing any unhappiness.
I have no idea why the European government’s has decided to destabilise Europe. It can’t be just because they pity the people??? It has changed my life a lot due to antisocial behaviour, not enough to make the news but enough to stop me walking at night, there is blue tents everywhere, men with nothing to do in bunches, many carrying knifes for their protection. There has been 100’s of weapons pulled as they fight amongst themselves.
It is costing me a fortune in taxis for DD when I can’t get to her.

Orangemintcream · 29/06/2026 17:40

If it’s not even in for planning yet it’s years away and there will probably be a new government by then.

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 17:40

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 17:33

Didn't you know - they are going back for their women?

And some have several wives, who will be claiming benefits ( they’re allowed to!) plus their children!

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