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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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suburburban · 29/06/2026 21:00

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 20:57

All these people spouting on about the threat of rape from migrants. Just listen to yourselves ffs! Turn off the GB News or whatever drivel you listen to. You are more likely to be raped by a man you know or on a date. In London or other major cities, we obviously all pass millions of men from all corners if the world every minute of every day. Funnily enough, Im no more likely to be attacked than if I was walking alone in some village or in the countryside. Get a grip people - please.

It’s the economic cost as well and the feeling of being taken over, pressures on housing and jobs, why does it have to be like this?

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 21:00

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:59

Every time people say 'Muslims do x', they denigrate all Muslims.

Otherwise they would say 'a minority of x did y'.

Why would they need to when not all Muslims are asylum seekers?

EasternStandard · 29/06/2026 21:00

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 20:57

All these people spouting on about the threat of rape from migrants. Just listen to yourselves ffs! Turn off the GB News or whatever drivel you listen to. You are more likely to be raped by a man you know or on a date. In London or other major cities, we obviously all pass millions of men from all corners if the world every minute of every day. Funnily enough, Im no more likely to be attacked than if I was walking alone in some village or in the countryside. Get a grip people - please.

Would you be ok with the 1500 men site nearby to you?

Those berating the op and others must be surely.

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:00

Naunet · 29/06/2026 20:59

And of course, you like all cultures, even the ones that let filthy old men 'marry' 8 year old girls? All welcome here, right?

Never said that, it's weird to make stuff up

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:01

Ketzele · 29/06/2026 20:44

Well, if I had been discussing those cases, then yes it would have been minimising. But I clearly wasn't, so dont be so manipulative.

These men committed these crimes while being housed as asylum seekers.
These are who you and we are discussing.

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 21:01

There are racist white thugs who want to hurt non-white people. Yes. There are also white people who just want their country back and want to live in a safe country.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:02

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:59

Every time people say 'Muslims do x', they denigrate all Muslims.

Otherwise they would say 'a minority of x did y'.

Well, strictly speaking they're right. It's not Sikhs setting bombs off at concerts.

Dollymylove · 29/06/2026 21:02

KittyTinker · 29/06/2026 20:17

Also if I’m correct the town is a city with 2 universities some of the best schools in the country and a thriving nightlife of hen parties (because it is such a safe place to live and visit). I pray that it remains that way but I really feel for you and if it helps I’ve signed the petition.

York?

Cannybeme · 29/06/2026 21:02

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:57

What 'culture' drove Wayne Couzens to rape and murder?

What 'culture' drove James Varley's depravity to baby Preston?

No culture is safe from depravity or misogyny.

Correct That no culture is marked safe from the depraved.

But why should we want to house more men from countries where it’s not so frowned upon? I’ve read of a few court cases where an illegal
immigrant has claimed ‘cultural differences and misunderstandings’ as defence for raping a woman.

WhatFreshHelll · 29/06/2026 21:02

@GaIadriel agree but unfortunaly we instantly inherited organised crime from Albania and Romania etc in the Blair wave.
We had never heard much about modern slavery and human traffiking and suddenly it became a massive thing ,looking at car washes /farms /fruit pickers as well as sex slaves and so on along side massive organised drug crimes .

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:02

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:58

The semantics of the definition aren't important in this discussion. The context is that people are sick of men from barbaric societies. Nobody is up in arms about Chinese or Ukrainian immigrants. Despite the historic moaning about Eastern Europeans impacting the job market etc, nobody is up in arms about most other immigrants.

It's the ones that brutalise women in their own countries coming and doing it here that's the issue. It's not about skin colour as so many desperately try and claim. It's about cultural practices - i.e. culture.

Semantics are incredibly important. Saying what you mean is incredibly important when talking about whether cultures other than 'British' cultures are welcome in this country. If you're talking about certain cultures you need to say that. Everyone is so keen to jump down politicians throats to accuse them of being antisemitic, if we want to avoid antisemitism we shouldn't be saying we're against other cultures full stop. Say what you mean.

EasternStandard · 29/06/2026 21:03

Ketzele · 29/06/2026 20:44

Well, if I had been discussing those cases, then yes it would have been minimising. But I clearly wasn't, so dont be so manipulative.

What are you including when you use ‘wrong un’?

What behaviour do you mean?

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:03

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:02

Well, strictly speaking they're right. It's not Sikhs setting bombs off at concerts.

So all Muslims in the UK need to pay the price for a tiny minority?

How did your Muslim colleagues/neighbours take it when you shared this view?

Naunet · 29/06/2026 21:04

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 20:57

All these people spouting on about the threat of rape from migrants. Just listen to yourselves ffs! Turn off the GB News or whatever drivel you listen to. You are more likely to be raped by a man you know or on a date. In London or other major cities, we obviously all pass millions of men from all corners if the world every minute of every day. Funnily enough, Im no more likely to be attacked than if I was walking alone in some village or in the countryside. Get a grip people - please.

Exactly, if women have to accept risk of rape from British men, they're just racists if they dont happily accept a risk of rape from forign men we're importing too.

🙄

OneAmberFinch · 29/06/2026 21:05

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 20:40

I don't understand how people are apparently so against antisemitism and yet feel comfortable to be openly against multiculturalism.

I want this country to remain recognisably English. I want the dominant culture to be English. I want English people practising English culture - in every meaning of that term including language, religion, what they wear, how loudly they speak on buses, how they engage with government, etc ad nauseum - to feel perfectly at home and comfortable and not like they are travelling in a foreign land.

In order for this to happen there needs to be a critical mass of people actively practising that culture, having been immersed in it since birth.

Today in England there are people who are born here who cannot be said to meaningfully practise any aspect of that culture. Our ideals of diversity and religious tolerance came about in an age where we were essentially arguing about minor differences within Christianity that had very little impact on day to day culture since we'd already kicked out the most annoying Puritans. They're not fit for purpose when we find ourselves wringing our hands about whether it's mean to not want parades of foreigners chanting their way down the high streets of our cities, or as in the OP, not wanting villages overwhelmed with migrant camps...

There are 20th-century theoretical arguments about multiculturalism being different flavours of melting pot or stew or blah blah. They all rely on some kind of idealistic ideal that at least everyone's in the same pot - something like, on Sundays we each go into a different church and then come out a bit later to all play cricket on the village green together.

All those metaphors can get in the bin because we're no longer even cooking in the same kitchen.

LakieLady · 29/06/2026 21:05

hattie43 · 29/06/2026 17:21

The problem is no-one wants them .

That's not true. My town has an active group that supports refugees and asylum seekers. At least 3 members of the group have provided accommodation in their homes for people who have been granted refugee status.

They provide a lot of practical support for them, and are also involved in support for the men housed at Crowborough.

My background is in homeless prevention/resettlement and welfare rights, so I support them with that once they have been granted refugee status.

Naunet · 29/06/2026 21:06

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:00

Never said that, it's weird to make stuff up

So youre anti multiculturalism too then by your own ridiculous logic. Congratulations

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 21:06

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:57

What 'culture' drove Wayne Couzens to rape and murder?

What 'culture' drove James Varley's depravity to baby Preston?

No culture is safe from depravity or misogyny.

What is the point in bringing certain cases up? Of course we know that there are white men here who commit crimes… unfortunately we are stuck with them. Even more reason not to bring more men here!

MightyDandelionEsq · 29/06/2026 21:06

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:57

What 'culture' drove Wayne Couzens to rape and murder?

What 'culture' drove James Varley's depravity to baby Preston?

No culture is safe from depravity or misogyny.

If men are the problem then stop importing more men? Seems logical to me considering boat crossings are over 96% male for a start. There we go, we’ve reduced further risk of VAWG by doing this.

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:07

Cannybeme · 29/06/2026 21:02

Correct That no culture is marked safe from the depraved.

But why should we want to house more men from countries where it’s not so frowned upon? I’ve read of a few court cases where an illegal
immigrant has claimed ‘cultural differences and misunderstandings’ as defence for raping a woman.

I can't see where anyone on the thread has argued for unlimited asylum seeker intake?

What do you want people to do, ignore that the UK has signed up to the ECHR?

WhatFreshHelll · 29/06/2026 21:07

@nomas agree .
Men are a big problem ! But we have a fundamental basis of equal rights in the UK. We can't stop these men but hopefully at least they know it's wrong. Somewhere some education has seeped in.
And we are open in our society.
When we think of the terrors in the catholic church or Jimmy savilles long hidden reign or terror or Harvey Weinstein / charles spencer abused at boarding school...its all coming out and being exposed.

What the hell is going on in these closed communities where there is no where near any foundation of equality at all and where they are taught women are inferior !!

suburburban · 29/06/2026 21:07

OneAmberFinch · 29/06/2026 21:05

I want this country to remain recognisably English. I want the dominant culture to be English. I want English people practising English culture - in every meaning of that term including language, religion, what they wear, how loudly they speak on buses, how they engage with government, etc ad nauseum - to feel perfectly at home and comfortable and not like they are travelling in a foreign land.

In order for this to happen there needs to be a critical mass of people actively practising that culture, having been immersed in it since birth.

Today in England there are people who are born here who cannot be said to meaningfully practise any aspect of that culture. Our ideals of diversity and religious tolerance came about in an age where we were essentially arguing about minor differences within Christianity that had very little impact on day to day culture since we'd already kicked out the most annoying Puritans. They're not fit for purpose when we find ourselves wringing our hands about whether it's mean to not want parades of foreigners chanting their way down the high streets of our cities, or as in the OP, not wanting villages overwhelmed with migrant camps...

There are 20th-century theoretical arguments about multiculturalism being different flavours of melting pot or stew or blah blah. They all rely on some kind of idealistic ideal that at least everyone's in the same pot - something like, on Sundays we each go into a different church and then come out a bit later to all play cricket on the village green together.

All those metaphors can get in the bin because we're no longer even cooking in the same kitchen.

So do I, feel sorry for my Dgc

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 21:07

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 20:18

Reform would have the same problems as all the other parties! It will be impossible to leave the ECHR

It is not impossible to leave the ECHR.
Other European countries have or are in the process of ignoring the ECHR.
It appears that some European countries are also tackling the problem where before they let anyone in, as these countries have had bad problems with these migrants/asylum seekers, whatever you want to call them.

Teenytinydot · 29/06/2026 21:07

LakieLady · 29/06/2026 20:34

But that's what happens now. It takes a long time to determine whether an asylum claim is valid, and while that process is under way, those people have to stay somewhere. (

My friend came to the UK around 12 years ago, and it took nearly 2 years before she got a decision about her asylum application. I suspect that it may be longer now, as there are so many more asylum applications. They need to speed up the asylum decision making process.

Well call it a pre trial if you want. At the end of the day it’s just words. No other country would you expect to just turn up without permission and get to roam around.

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:07

MightyDandelionEsq · 29/06/2026 21:06

If men are the problem then stop importing more men? Seems logical to me considering boat crossings are over 96% male for a start. There we go, we’ve reduced further risk of VAWG by doing this.

No one's importing men.

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