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AIBU to feel proud of myself for going to a gig by myself ?

33 replies

Carriemac · 28/06/2026 21:30

I’m 68 and went to see the Cure in another city by myself when my sister was ill at the last minute . I’ve never done it before boy I had a brilliant time

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Flamingojune · 28/06/2026 21:47

Thats great! I often think there should be an app to find last minute companions for things like that but then maybe there already is

ExitPursuedByABare · 28/06/2026 21:48

Oh I’d have come with you. I’m 67. Love the Cure. It’s our era isn’t it?

Pearl69 · 28/06/2026 21:50

Oh wow. Lucky you. Robert’s voice is still as good as it ever was. Absolute legend .

Jumbojem · 28/06/2026 21:51

You are def not being unreasonable! Hope it was good, The Cure are brilliant. I need to take this as inspiration to do things alone and not wait/miss out if others aren't interested.

OwlBeThere · 28/06/2026 21:52

Ah amazing! I almost prefer going to gigs alone actually. i can sing along (badly 😂) without feeling self conscious about my friends seeing me. i went to see Biffy Clyro for the first time as a wheelchair user alone recently and i had an amazing time.

ikeepforgetting · 28/06/2026 21:53

I really want to do more of this I am recently divorced at 52 and getting better at doing things by myself. I LOVE music and live gigs and I am going to keep going until I drop! Well done you, and I too am very jealous you got to see the Cure this time round, they still sound amazing

Chritrup · 28/06/2026 21:53

Fantastic. I do it regularly, especially midweek gigs and theatre. I love going with friends but so much easier sometimes to go myself.

ShouldKnowBetterButNeverLearn · 28/06/2026 21:54

Well done! I went to see Daryl Hall on my own as I really wanted to see him. I'm glad I went although sadly his voice isn't that good anymore.

WonsWoo · 28/06/2026 21:55

Fab - it's a great feeling isn't it.

I went to the Indigo at the 02 solo last year - had a fab time.

crackofdoom · 28/06/2026 21:58

Ooh, the Cure! Well, there's no way I'd have passed that up if my gig buddy was poorly.

Was it a friendly crowd?? I went to see Pixies (albeit with DS) the other night, and everyone was really friendly and chatty.

Oohanothername · 28/06/2026 22:02

Love love LOVE this! Doing things on your own should be freeing and empowering 🩵🙏🏽 I love a solo weekend away or restaurant meal. .my daughter recently went to another city on her own for the day to visit a prospective uni and loved it!

Well done, I hope you have more solo adventures lined up 💕

BlueSherbet · 28/06/2026 23:25

Carriemac · 28/06/2026 21:30

I’m 68 and went to see the Cure in another city by myself when my sister was ill at the last minute . I’ve never done it before boy I had a brilliant time

Well done - and of course YANBU - I would love to have the confidence to do this. I miss so many gigs because friends are not interested.

PixieTales · 28/06/2026 23:31

Awesome, well done!

Its very liberating isn’t it Smile

Alittlefrustrated · 28/06/2026 23:46

Very jealous - the fabulous Robert. I watched them on TV a few monrhs ago and though he looks a tad rough, I was amazed at his voice. Hasn't changed at all.
I'm 57 - Robert came second only to David Sylvian in my teens.
I've also started doing theatre etc on my own if no ones interested- I really like it!
Bravo OP!

Tarkan · 29/06/2026 00:02

I love gigging alone. It’s so much easier to sneak up to the front if standing and I like just wandering around and enjoying what I want to eat or drink beforehand without having to think of what anyone else wants. Honestly one of my favourite things to do.

I’ve been to five gigs so far this year. All but one were meant to be solo but DH ended up buying last minute tickets for two of them (he wasn’t sure if he would be off work until closer to the time) and while I enjoyed them all I definitely preferred the freedom of the ones when I was alone. 🙈 There’s another one I have my eye on later this year and DH isn’t really into the band so hopefully I can enjoy that one myself too.

Iwiicit · 29/06/2026 00:51

I'm recently widowed and have booked to see Duran Duran by myself in October. I'm a bit scared but also stupidly excited. I wanted to go and see them when I was 16 but couldn't get tickets. Now here I am, a mere 40 years later!

ThePieceHall · 29/06/2026 00:58

Carriemac · 28/06/2026 21:30

I’m 68 and went to see the Cure in another city by myself when my sister was ill at the last minute . I’ve never done it before boy I had a brilliant time

My eighteen-year-old DD is offering herself as a gig buddy if ever you find yourself in this situation again; she absolutely loves The Cure. Well done on pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. I do understand, our worlds can contract as we age.

SquirrelGG · 29/06/2026 01:47

Well done OP. I went to see The Cure by myself twice when they toured here in the 80s, along with various other bands. None of my friends shared my taste in music so it was either go alone or stay home!

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 29/06/2026 02:07

That's great bet you had a blast.

My confidence is low at the moment but I went to a concert in Paris on my own in 1993 is one of my favourite memories. Not back for a quirky kid from the nw.

SeaAndSangria · 29/06/2026 02:22

Not been to a gig by myself, but I regularly go to the theatre/cinema/ meals in restaurants/weekends away by myself.
YANBU at all, going by yourself to places is great! No-one else to please and can see and do what you want 😁

Beekman · 29/06/2026 02:28

This is so great, OP, and hopefully the beginning of a long line of amazing stuff you will do alone. I love going to concerts, shows, movies etc alone. Just me, pleasing myself, not worrying about whether someone else is enjoying themselves or not. I try to take myself on regular solo dates and I hope you do too.

PlanetClaire76 · 29/06/2026 02:37

Iwiicit · 29/06/2026 00:51

I'm recently widowed and have booked to see Duran Duran by myself in October. I'm a bit scared but also stupidly excited. I wanted to go and see them when I was 16 but couldn't get tickets. Now here I am, a mere 40 years later!

So sorry to hear of your loss. Good for you if you're trying to go out alone.
If you don't mind saying on here, how long has it been? Trying to persuade a friend of mine to come out xxx

Carriemac · 29/06/2026 08:09

Thanks all I feel stupidly proud of myself . Went to a few great gigs this year with DH and my brother who both love music but I’ve been a cure fan forever and country miss it . The crowd were fantastic all ages and nationalities and I didn’t feel at all self conscious . I was adopted by two German gay Cureheads in their 40s who danced all evening Vit me .

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Iwiicit · 29/06/2026 12:05

PlanetClaire76 · 29/06/2026 02:37

So sorry to hear of your loss. Good for you if you're trying to go out alone.
If you don't mind saying on here, how long has it been? Trying to persuade a friend of mine to come out xxx

Thank you.
It's been a year almost exactly. My husband died very suddenly and completely unexpectedly. He was absolutely fine - there one minute and gone the next.
I have good days and bad but it's made it very clear to me that I want to make the most of the precious time I have left.

Didimum · 29/06/2026 12:39

Fab! I was all prepared (and excited) to go see Chappell Roan last year by myself, but I couldn't get tickets :(