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10 missed calls from private health company

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londontoibiza · 28/06/2026 09:08

I booked a private MRI scan a week ago. I have gone through the screening questionnaire on the phone when I booked the scan. All good.

In the past week I have had 10 missed calls from them - at first it was “calling regarding my referral”, now they’re “calling to confirm I’ll be attending”.

As a rule I don’t answer my phone to an unknown number unless I’m expecting a call. If they leave a voicemail, I’ll call back when I’ve verified their number.

AIBU to think 10 calls in 7 days is excessive? I’ve paid, I’m suitable for the scan and I will be attending tomorrow. Surely they don’t need to be in constant contact with me?

OP posts:
LoafofSellotape · 01/07/2026 11:50

LittleRobins · 28/06/2026 09:19

But if you didn’t attend you would still be taking up an appointment time that somebody else could have used.

It’s not hard. Answer your phone and say you’ll attend.

This!

You get loads of NHS calls now too running up to an appt, not 10 but 2 or 3. Just call them back.

StarlightLady · 01/07/2026 11:55

Nowthatshuge · 28/06/2026 09:10

Can I ask why you don’t just call them an confirm you are attending? I imagine they have a robust checking system to avoid people wasting precious appointments by being no shows

This! I don't answer numbers I don't recognise either. But as you know who is calling, why don't you just answer it? This may be a private appointment, but many people go private, some of them in pain, to avoid long waits.

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:07

TheClocksFast · 01/07/2026 09:14

Or the staff laid on for your appointment may have been needed elsewhere. Your inability to see any further consequences is astounding.

But as I said. I have paid. I have made an appointment. It makes sense for them to work on the assumption that I, as an adult, will be attending the previously booked commitment.

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SerendipityJane · 01/07/2026 12:16

Every customer contact is a potential point to upsell something.

Noodledog · 01/07/2026 12:23

And ofc, if they didn't remind their private patients about their appointments and they were missed, said patients would moan about poor service and demand their money back.

Just answer the bloody phone or call them back, and stop behaving like a sulky teenager OP.

StarlightLady · 01/07/2026 12:31

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:07

But as I said. I have paid. I have made an appointment. It makes sense for them to work on the assumption that I, as an adult, will be attending the previously booked commitment.

I don't get this logic. I recently booked my car in for a service and the garage still called me to check I would be bringing it in.

MrsOni · 01/07/2026 12:31

igelkott2026 · 01/07/2026 11:48

Honestly the deference to businesses on this website is ludicrous.

The inability for people to take the easy path to deal with things is ludicrous.

All op needed to do was answer the phone and then she wouldn't have had 10 missed calls.

It's really not fucking hard.

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:35

StarlightLady · 01/07/2026 12:31

I don't get this logic. I recently booked my car in for a service and the garage still called me to check I would be bringing it in.

And that’s what I have an issue with. We are adults. Why are we constantly treated like children?

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MrsOni · 01/07/2026 12:36

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:07

But as I said. I have paid. I have made an appointment. It makes sense for them to work on the assumption that I, as an adult, will be attending the previously booked commitment.

And yet people miss appointments all the time, either because they forget or they change their minds or whatever, and don't feel the need to inform the provider. So it doesn't pay for the provider to assume everyone is just going to turn up.

Do you find it hard to get a GP's appointment? I do, and that is partly because according to the GP's own records, about 20% of appointments are wasted because of no shows.

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:38

MrsOni · 01/07/2026 12:36

And yet people miss appointments all the time, either because they forget or they change their minds or whatever, and don't feel the need to inform the provider. So it doesn't pay for the provider to assume everyone is just going to turn up.

Do you find it hard to get a GP's appointment? I do, and that is partly because according to the GP's own records, about 20% of appointments are wasted because of no shows.

But, again, there is no financial incentive for the NHS. It is very clearly stated that if you DNA, you lose your payment.

Treat people like adults, ffs. Imagine if I now called up to chase my results 10 times. Despite them having a timeframe and a commitment to it.

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MrsOni · 01/07/2026 12:44

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:38

But, again, there is no financial incentive for the NHS. It is very clearly stated that if you DNA, you lose your payment.

Treat people like adults, ffs. Imagine if I now called up to chase my results 10 times. Despite them having a timeframe and a commitment to it.

There are financial implications for missed appointments for the NHS, and besides which, that's not the point.

If you miss an appointment, even if you have paid for it, that's someone else not getting that slot.

It's ironic that you are whinging about being treated like an adult, really, when you are acting like a child about reminders for appointments when there are very good reasons as to why companies do it. It's not for fun, running through a big list of people to phone (10 times, in your case) takes time and money.

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:45

MrsOni · 01/07/2026 12:44

There are financial implications for missed appointments for the NHS, and besides which, that's not the point.

If you miss an appointment, even if you have paid for it, that's someone else not getting that slot.

It's ironic that you are whinging about being treated like an adult, really, when you are acting like a child about reminders for appointments when there are very good reasons as to why companies do it. It's not for fun, running through a big list of people to phone (10 times, in your case) takes time and money.

Edited

Again though - the private company does not suffer. They make the same amount of money anyway.

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MrsOni · 01/07/2026 12:47

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:45

Again though - the private company does not suffer. They make the same amount of money anyway.

Again though, that's not the point.

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:48

MrsOni · 01/07/2026 12:47

Again though, that's not the point.

Of course it is. The company doesn’t care whether they’re scanning people at that location or not, as long as the money comes in.

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StarlightLady · 01/07/2026 12:54

It is good business sense. It's called a courtesy call. It demonstrates looking after the customer. Children forget, adults forget. People don't hit an age threshold where they don't forget anything.

Even if I have peeps coming for dinner, I check with them the day before.

smallglassbottle · 01/07/2026 13:08

The NHS try to trick you out of your appointment - and therefore off the waiting list - by sending messages - some direct to your phone, others in the app - to get you to reconsider whether you really need the appointment. The way the questions are worded means they're designed to cause some confusion and if you don't respond you're off the list. I don't know how some disabled people manage with this system.

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 13:10

StarlightLady · 01/07/2026 12:54

It is good business sense. It's called a courtesy call. It demonstrates looking after the customer. Children forget, adults forget. People don't hit an age threshold where they don't forget anything.

Even if I have peeps coming for dinner, I check with them the day before.

No, it’s called hounding people and treating them like children, not adults. I’m an adult. I don’t need reminding of an appointment like a child.

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momager22 · 01/07/2026 13:52

God you sound awful op

MrsOni · 01/07/2026 14:16

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 13:10

No, it’s called hounding people and treating them like children, not adults. I’m an adult. I don’t need reminding of an appointment like a child.

The only person behaving like a child is the one who refuses to answer the phone because reasons and then complains that they have 10 missed calls.

Companies do courtesy calls because they reduce the number of no-shows, the no-shows that impact everyone else trying to access that service including you.

So just grow up, eh.

TheClocksFast · 01/07/2026 14:21

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 12:07

But as I said. I have paid. I have made an appointment. It makes sense for them to work on the assumption that I, as an adult, will be attending the previously booked commitment.

🙄

DoraSpenlow · 01/07/2026 14:48

londontoibiza · 01/07/2026 13:10

No, it’s called hounding people and treating them like children, not adults. I’m an adult. I don’t need reminding of an appointment like a child.

You don't deal with the general public much do you.

Midcenturydarling · 01/07/2026 15:00

smallglassbottle · 01/07/2026 13:08

The NHS try to trick you out of your appointment - and therefore off the waiting list - by sending messages - some direct to your phone, others in the app - to get you to reconsider whether you really need the appointment. The way the questions are worded means they're designed to cause some confusion and if you don't respond you're off the list. I don't know how some disabled people manage with this system.

I've had one of these recently.

The message was very wordy with no actual question i.e Do you still require an appointment? With yes, no, maybe boxes at the end.

If I'd clicked on yes they may have taken that to mean yes I no longer need the appointment and then be taken off the waitlist!

aliceyyyy2654 · 01/07/2026 15:04

londontoibiza · 28/06/2026 09:59

No, it shouldn’t be given to someone else. I have paid, therefore they can assume I am attending. I don’t need to be handheld into attending an appointment. I guess some people struggle with keeping to commitments though

OP have you considered that your behaviour (aggression, defiance, distrust) might be a symptom of something serious? Brain cancer, schizophrenia and dementia can all cause these symptoms especially if it wasn’t something you struggled with before. I say this because adults should be able to answer a phone call even if they feel it’s a waste of their time.

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