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Teacher hand delivered certificate usually given out in class.

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howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:35

I don’t know what to make of this, dc is in primary school and every week someone gets a certificate.
Suddenly I saw my child’s teacher walk past the lounge window at about 8 pm and post a certificate through the door.
Aibu to find it a bit strange and wonder why she did this having had to look up our address and purposely drive to our house when all certificates are handed out in school and she would see my child in the morning?

OP posts:
RaginaPhalange · 27/06/2026 08:36

So let me get this straight, she walked passed your open window and posted the certificate through the letter box, then left?

THE HORROR!!!

Is your postie a ninja when it comes to delivering your mail?

Get over yourself

Newfog · 27/06/2026 08:38

elh1605 · 27/06/2026 08:26

She would have access at school via the communication system like Bromcom. All teachers, head and senior office staff do.

Again why do the teachers need to know a pupil's home address? You don't need to access it if you don't need it. I have address details for my employees I only access it for legitimate business reasons which they will have agreed to - I would not show up at their house to hand deliver anything without prior agreement.

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 08:40

FudgeFudy · 27/06/2026 08:28

I've dropped things round at my kids' teachers' houses on many occasions. Sometimes that's all that happened, sometimes we've (gasp!), had a bit of a chat. I've even been inside a few times, and I didn't see any Beautiful Mind-style wall displays featuring photos of parents taken with a telephoto lens, but then maybe they keep that in the basement with the chloroform and cable ties and stuff. But it's becoming apparent that I live in some weird parallel universe where teachers are just members of the community; people...that teach, and not some strange 'other' breed of person that must be kept separate because 'professionalism' or whatever other batshit and quite sad reasons have been espoused on this bonkers thread.

How did you get their addresses? Were they expecting that you'd be dropping something round?

elh1605 · 27/06/2026 08:44

Newfog · 27/06/2026 08:38

Again why do the teachers need to know a pupil's home address? You don't need to access it if you don't need it. I have address details for my employees I only access it for legitimate business reasons which they will have agreed to - I would not show up at their house to hand deliver anything without prior agreement.

Maybe she thought she was doing something nice for the children who might of missed out otherwise.
Teacher's can't seem to catch a break at the moment- damned if they do and damned if they don't!

howmanycorners · 27/06/2026 08:46

These certificates are not handed out in assembly, they are handed out every Friday at the end of class, it’s just an A5 piece of paper that says person of the week is… and their name.
There is no reason to deliver it on a Thursday night knowing she will see my child the next day and can hand it to her at the end of class on Friday like usual.
My child saw her out the window and called her name so she waved as she disappeared out the gate.

I still feel this was a bit unusual, we do not live in a rural village, we live in a major city and it’s a very large school where this just doesn’t happen.

OP posts:
Newfog · 27/06/2026 08:47

elh1605 · 27/06/2026 08:44

Maybe she thought she was doing something nice for the children who might of missed out otherwise.
Teacher's can't seem to catch a break at the moment- damned if they do and damned if they don't!

Would you feel comfortable if your boss came to your house unannounced to drop off an employee of the week certificate for you or would you think that could wait till Monday and why did he look up your address and make a special visit?

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 08:48

howmanycorners · 27/06/2026 08:46

These certificates are not handed out in assembly, they are handed out every Friday at the end of class, it’s just an A5 piece of paper that says person of the week is… and their name.
There is no reason to deliver it on a Thursday night knowing she will see my child the next day and can hand it to her at the end of class on Friday like usual.
My child saw her out the window and called her name so she waved as she disappeared out the gate.

I still feel this was a bit unusual, we do not live in a rural village, we live in a major city and it’s a very large school where this just doesn’t happen.

Stop looking for problems, your child is lucky to have such a wonderful teacher! Get typing a thank you email, rather than desperately trying to turn something so positive into a negative. Awful, awful that such a simple act is being turned into this. Poor teachers.

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 08:50

Newfog · 27/06/2026 08:47

Would you feel comfortable if your boss came to your house unannounced to drop off an employee of the week certificate for you or would you think that could wait till Monday and why did he look up your address and make a special visit?

She didn't turn up, she put a piece of card through the letterbox. Do you consider the postman to have turned up for a visit?!

Newfog · 27/06/2026 08:51

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 08:50

She didn't turn up, she put a piece of card through the letterbox. Do you consider the postman to have turned up for a visit?!

I don't think the postman should be visiting my house at 8pm to post a letter that was not sent through Royal Mail.

Ireolu · 27/06/2026 08:52

You clearly didnt have the home visits when your child was in reception. We had 3 teachers in our living room with our then 4 yr old. One parent commented it was to make sure the kid wasn't living in a drugs den. I reckon teacher was just being kind.

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 08:52

Newfog · 27/06/2026 08:51

I don't think the postman should be visiting my house at 8pm to post a letter that was not sent through Royal Mail.

Why?

BackToLurk · 27/06/2026 08:58

howmanycorners · 27/06/2026 08:46

These certificates are not handed out in assembly, they are handed out every Friday at the end of class, it’s just an A5 piece of paper that says person of the week is… and their name.
There is no reason to deliver it on a Thursday night knowing she will see my child the next day and can hand it to her at the end of class on Friday like usual.
My child saw her out the window and called her name so she waved as she disappeared out the gate.

I still feel this was a bit unusual, we do not live in a rural village, we live in a major city and it’s a very large school where this just doesn’t happen.

I know this is the kind of action that would kill AIBU stone dead, but why don’t you just ask her why she dropped it off?

Imdunfer · 27/06/2026 08:59

I'm not sure why the OP is getting such a lot of stick. I think this is a GDPR breach. She did not give her address to the school for the purpose of a random and unnecessary visit.

I also find the reason for the visit very strange indeed. All she had to do was leave it in plain view on her desk and give it to the child the next day. Part of the reason for these "rewards" is for other pupils to see that the child has done something good and hopefully emulate it themselves.

It's easy to imagine any number of scenarios which could have caused embarrassment or upset by a teacher arriving unannounced in the evening.

Mistymaglets · 27/06/2026 09:00

Going against most answers here, but as a teacher I find this unusual and I'm not surprised you're querying why she did that.

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking why she delivered it personally.

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 09:01

Imdunfer · 27/06/2026 08:59

I'm not sure why the OP is getting such a lot of stick. I think this is a GDPR breach. She did not give her address to the school for the purpose of a random and unnecessary visit.

I also find the reason for the visit very strange indeed. All she had to do was leave it in plain view on her desk and give it to the child the next day. Part of the reason for these "rewards" is for other pupils to see that the child has done something good and hopefully emulate it themselves.

It's easy to imagine any number of scenarios which could have caused embarrassment or upset by a teacher arriving unannounced in the evening.

A piece of paper through the door is not a visit. And no, this is not even close to any sort of breach of GDPR.

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 09:02

Imdunfer · 27/06/2026 08:59

I'm not sure why the OP is getting such a lot of stick. I think this is a GDPR breach. She did not give her address to the school for the purpose of a random and unnecessary visit.

I also find the reason for the visit very strange indeed. All she had to do was leave it in plain view on her desk and give it to the child the next day. Part of the reason for these "rewards" is for other pupils to see that the child has done something good and hopefully emulate it themselves.

It's easy to imagine any number of scenarios which could have caused embarrassment or upset by a teacher arriving unannounced in the evening.

She didn't arrive, she put card through a letterbox!

MagicThanks · 27/06/2026 09:02

On today’s episode of schools and teachers cannot fucking win…

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 09:03

MagicThanks · 27/06/2026 09:02

On today’s episode of schools and teachers cannot fucking win…

Indeed. Sad, but true.

Imdunfer · 27/06/2026 09:04

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 09:02

She didn't arrive, she put card through a letterbox!

Edited

Walked past their widows to do that. The child saw her and called out her name.

Imdunfer · 27/06/2026 09:06

MagicThanks · 27/06/2026 09:02

On today’s episode of schools and teachers cannot fucking win…

It's a simple enough rule to follow. Don't visit parents' homes uninvited unless there is a pressing reason. I don't understand the problem.

Newfog · 27/06/2026 09:08

MagicThanks · 27/06/2026 09:02

On today’s episode of schools and teachers cannot fucking win…

Teachers are not special - they have to follow the law like everyone else. You wouldn't be too keen on your employer not respecting your privacy - you wouldn't be saying poor employers they can't win - too many laws to follow - no one should expect them to - they have enough on their plates.

Imdunfer · 27/06/2026 09:08

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 09:01

A piece of paper through the door is not a visit. And no, this is not even close to any sort of breach of GDPR.

I'm afraid it is. It was not a legitimate use of the data which had been provided, because there was no "need" for the visit.

Newfog · 27/06/2026 09:12

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 08:52

Why?

If the postman was using their knowledge of my name and address gained through their employment to deliver mail personally addressed to me that was not sent via Royal Mail I'd have big issues with that. If they were posting unaddressed junk it wouldn't matter.

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 09:13

Imdunfer · 27/06/2026 08:59

I'm not sure why the OP is getting such a lot of stick. I think this is a GDPR breach. She did not give her address to the school for the purpose of a random and unnecessary visit.

I also find the reason for the visit very strange indeed. All she had to do was leave it in plain view on her desk and give it to the child the next day. Part of the reason for these "rewards" is for other pupils to see that the child has done something good and hopefully emulate it themselves.

It's easy to imagine any number of scenarios which could have caused embarrassment or upset by a teacher arriving unannounced in the evening.

That's a really good point about why the certificates are given out in class. It also takes away the child's "moment" doesn't it.

Now that the OP has updated to say that there wasn't any good reason why it could have waited, all the scenarios people have come up with about heatwaves or absences are moot. Why did the teacher go out of their way to do something completely differently?

I'd ask them OP. Is it possible that your DD would have been embarrassed to receive it in class or something? That's the only explanation I can think of. But if that's the case, the teacher should have emailed or rung you first to explain the situation and let you know they were going to pop it through the letterbox. Doing it unannounced is wrong.

Supersleepysheepy · 27/06/2026 09:14

Imdunfer · 27/06/2026 09:08

I'm afraid it is. It was not a legitimate use of the data which had been provided, because there was no "need" for the visit.

It isn't. You are incorrect.

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