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AIBU to feel resentful about my partner's child and lack of boundaries?

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BlendedFamilyHELP · 24/06/2026 20:43

First time ever using a forum! This is something I’ve struggled with for a while. I have been with my partner for a few years now who has a 9 year old child from a previous relationship. It is difficult in that the child is very spoilt, and there is not much boundary or discipline put in place by either parent. My partner is very tunnel vision and will let the child get away with almost anything, which is translating into the child having little respect for myself. I find myself struggling more as the child gets older as their behaviour continues to worsen - tantrums, screaming, shouting, they are even physical towards their other parent - and I’m starting to see they are also quite manipulative when it comes to getting their own way. I often feel like I’m not respected or listened to in my own home and I do fear the future as the child continues to get older, but I don’t feel like I can’t talk to my partner about this as they see the child as to put it bluntly, perfect. It can feel quite lonely as none of my friends are in the same position. But I do really love my partner and overall we have a great relationship, so walking away is not something I consider currently, but I’m not sure they would ever take a conversation about their child well. And I really hate to say, but it’s all led to resentment of the child. Open to any advice or similar story sharing!

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DaisyChain505 · 25/06/2026 20:26

Tale as old as time. It’s not going to get any better so you need to decide if you can put up with it or not. I definitely wouldn’t be.

likelysuspect · 25/06/2026 20:27

He or she is a terrible parent. Storing problems emotionally and psychologically for the child when older. The child will have poor regulation, few friends and a higher risk for anxiety and low self esteem believe it or not

You need to talk away

DarkRabbit · 25/06/2026 20:49

I’ve been in this situation, tried to make it work… best thing I did was leave - no regrets!

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