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To still be upset about this dreadful driver?

132 replies

Netcurtainnelly · Yesterday 18:37

Mr net Curtain and I were driving down a country road on Friday and realised we were being tailgated.
I looked round and the driver was featuring us to go faster. We did not as we were already driving to the speed of the road

We just ignored him and carried on. Next thing he or someone behind him starts blasting the horn furiously obviously trying to get us to go faster
We did not eventually the driver turned off

It really unnerved me and made me nervous. I can't believe that people are prepared to cause a crash on a road just because they want you to hurry up.

Has this happened to anyone else? have experienced tailgaters before but never someone blasting their horn etc. So dangerous.

OP posts:
ScrambledEggs12 · Yesterday 18:39

How fast were you driving?

GreenFootstool · Yesterday 18:39

What speed were you doing?

Noshadowsinthedarkness · Yesterday 18:40

Yes. I have noticed it more recently and it does shake you up.

I tend to slow down just a touch.

BIossomtoes · Yesterday 18:41

I pull over and let them past. Much less stressful.

IglesiasPiggl · Yesterday 18:42

I hate driving on country roads for exactly this reason. It's ludicrous that some of them have a 60mph limit in my opinion.

SereneFinch · Yesterday 18:43

It doesn’t matter what speed she was driving. It’s not acceptable to tailgate and blast your horn at people to try and make them go faster.

bananaapplepears · Yesterday 18:43

Obviously it depends on how fast you were going.

JohnofWessex · Yesterday 18:43

Its a great pity that there is no 'fit and proper' test for holding a driving licence sol act like a twat, no licence.

FaceIt · Yesterday 18:43

It’s pure and simple road rage bullying.

Flamingojune · Yesterday 18:44

Unless they're on their way to perform brain surgery, impatient drivers can do one

Flamingojune · Yesterday 18:44

bananaapplepears · Yesterday 18:43

Obviously it depends on how fast you were going.

The speed limit

Netcurtainnelly · Yesterday 18:44

SereneFinch · Yesterday 18:43

It doesn’t matter what speed she was driving. It’s not acceptable to tailgate and blast your horn at people to try and make them go faster.

Exactly. Why are people prepared to do that and possibly cause a crash.

OP posts:
UnaGatita · Yesterday 18:45

When drivers get too close to me I was advised by a nice policeman to just pull over as soon as it’s safe and let them pass. I don’t need the agitation or stress, and a 30 second delay makes no difference to my journey. If others want to speed that’s up to them. I don’t understand why you insisted on letting the driver sit on your tail tbh. Sorry op, I know it’s upsetting when others are idiots on the road.

WhatAMarvelousTune · Yesterday 18:46

bananaapplepears · Yesterday 18:43

Obviously it depends on how fast you were going.

Obviously it does not.

Even if I’m stuck behind a very slow person, I don’t tailgate and start blasting my horn at them.

FaceIt · Yesterday 18:46

My country lane is 60 miles per hour and single track with lots of blind bends.

You should always drive according to what is safe for you and the conditions, and not some bully behind you, who won’t be impacted if you have a head-on crash.

W0tnow · Yesterday 18:47

I was in Cornwall recently and I was surprised at the amount of narrow, windy country roads with a speed limit of 60. There’s no was you could do 60 safely on a dual carriageway wide enough for one car with a passing space here and there.

ScrambledEggs12 · Yesterday 18:47

I failed my driving test for going at 40 in a 50, so clearly it does matter.

Obviously I am not saying that it is always safe to be going at 50 in a 60.

senua · Yesterday 18:48

have experienced tailgaters before but never someone blasting their horn etc. So dangerous.
And the common person factor in these experiences is ... ?

Abra1t · Yesterday 18:51

If you were one of the couple doing 35mph on our main road, just to remind you it’s national speed limit, 60.

To be fair, 45mph would be reasonable, but you didn’t seem to notice the queue behind you.

I didn’t hoot or flash my lights but I did curse you.
I pegged you as a townie who doesn’t know the national speed limit.

user1471453601 · Yesterday 18:52

I voted yabu simply because you're still upset on Sunday about a driver who obviously thinks they're so very important others should do as they demand. When I'm in the car with my adult child, they will often remark that they are clearing doing the "wrong" speed limit when they get tailgated.

that's as much notice they take of the tailgater.

the obnoxious driver doesn't deserve more than 30 seconds of your attention.

StarPyjamas · Yesterday 18:54

user1471453601 · Yesterday 18:52

I voted yabu simply because you're still upset on Sunday about a driver who obviously thinks they're so very important others should do as they demand. When I'm in the car with my adult child, they will often remark that they are clearing doing the "wrong" speed limit when they get tailgated.

that's as much notice they take of the tailgater.

the obnoxious driver doesn't deserve more than 30 seconds of your attention.

the obnoxious driver doesn't deserve more than 30 seconds of your attention.

This ^^

I don't mean to sound dismissive OP but it happened two days ago and will probably happen again some day.

Please try and put it out of your mind.

crazeekat · Yesterday 18:55

GreenFootstool · Yesterday 18:39

What speed were you doing?

She was doing the limit and does it matter she is allowed to make her own judgement of speed with what she feels to be driven safely.

bananaapplepears · Yesterday 18:59

Flamingojune · Yesterday 18:44

The speed limit

How do you know that?

Fast800goingforit · Yesterday 19:07

W0tnow · Yesterday 18:47

I was in Cornwall recently and I was surprised at the amount of narrow, windy country roads with a speed limit of 60. There’s no was you could do 60 safely on a dual carriageway wide enough for one car with a passing space here and there.

There must be a typo here.

I was driving home from the supermarket yesterday behind a driver who seemed oblivious of the 40mph speed limit for much of the way. He never went above 28. At one point the car behind me made to overtake on one of the 40 stretches then realised the hold up was the car in front of me rather than me. It was unnecessary to be so slow. Parts of the route are busy and parts have parked cars, but there's no excuse for never getting up to the road speed.

Charlottian · Yesterday 19:08

bananaapplepears · Yesterday 18:43

Obviously it depends on how fast you were going.

It really doesn’t. There’s no excuse for tailgating and aggression on the road.