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To still expect neighbours to sort it?

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Chefpig · 21/06/2026 11:31

My neighbours have a dog that barks at regular intervals through the day. No longer than ten minutes goes past without her barking. She sits in the window and is triggered very easily by anything that goes by. It drives the owners mad because the man and woman shout at the dog and then the woman ends up screaming at her too. They're always in and the dog barks when they're home. If they go out it tends to be silent after a few barks. I was due to send council logs to the environmental noise team today.

Things have been frosty for ages but the other day we finally got talking. I was invited in and the dog barked at me non stop for half an hour. It didnt take a breath. I also found out during that visit that the woman has cancer and the man has heart problems. Really sad. He also takes shopping round daily for his MIL who is elderly and frail. The woman also said the dog loves to sit in the window watching the world go by (where it barks at everything and nothing). Female neighbour also said dog is untrainable now. We left on a good note. This.was friday. Yesterday I was out all day but there was some barking in the evening. Its fine, I dont expect silence. Today is a different matter. Since my weekend visitors have left, the dog has been barking a lot. They always quieten it down when I have visitors.

I cannot go on like this though. I pay a shitload for the property and can't watch TV, read, relax in the garden or eat a single meal without it being interrupted by the damn dog barking. My mental health is on the floor to the point I've almost quit my job and I've gone on antidepressants.

Today I saw male neighbour out and asked in a very friendly way if they've done any training with the dog (I've been there a year and the dog has always barked but lately its just awful). He said no because of their health and his MIL but that he'd start this week. I did say that my compromise is that I don't mind some barking, after all its what a dog does but they need to meet half way and offered to get some dog training resources if needed. I also said i really didn't want to take this further with the council and appreciate anything they can do, but I reportedto the council mid may and nothing has yet been done by them. I was really upbeat and friendly but he was obviously pissed off.

Aibu to expect them to train the dog in light of their health?

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AmberSpy · 24/06/2026 12:48

Chefpig · 24/06/2026 12:29

Today has been shite as ever so far. The dog didnt shut up all morning. I dont know how one day they can keep it quiet and one day they can't or won't.

I don't know whereabouts you are in the country but where I am the temperature is 34 degrees and climbing. I would find a yappy dog barking constantly absolutely intolerable on top of the heat.

Please don't feel bad about taking action and reporting them (and no, you don't have to offer to walk THEIR dog, what a ridiculous suggestion up above). They need to either care properly for the pet they chose to get, including training and walking it, or they need to re-home it so that it has a chance at a happy life.

I know you feel sorry for them because of their health issues, and that is genuinely sad. However it's now affecting your mental health and that is unacceptable. They sound like selfish twats to be totally honest with you.

Chefpig · 24/06/2026 13:26

Thank you @AmberSpy. It has been very hot here and I've been in work meetings all morning with the background of dog barking through my meetings. The owners are both home. This has been going on almost a year now, so the neighbours have truly run out of excuses now. Ive really resented paying a shitload of money from a home I can't really enjoy completely.

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Chefpig · 24/06/2026 13:44

The dog has been barking at things passing by the window all morning. It's been madness. When I spoke to the neighbours she proudly declared that the little princess dog loves sitting in the window. What the actual fuck? At the expense of my sanity?

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Ablondiebutagoody · 24/06/2026 13:49

Submit the complaint without making excuses for the neighbours regarding training or health issues. Let the council deal with it. Hopefully they will and your living situation and mental health will improve.

MrTiddlesTheCat · 24/06/2026 14:02

Chefpig · 24/06/2026 12:29

Today has been shite as ever so far. The dog didnt shut up all morning. I dont know how one day they can keep it quiet and one day they can't or won't.

Tell them to shut it up again. Don't put up with it. Complain every single day if necessary. They need to feel that not dealing with it is harder than dealing with it.

Glitchymn1 · 24/06/2026 14:09

Chefpig · 21/06/2026 13:29

It never gets walked. It's three so a young, active dog who would love walks, im sure.

That’s why it barks then. They need a dog walker or borrow my doggy type scenario. Poor dog.

Passingthrough123 · 24/06/2026 14:14

Chefpig · 24/06/2026 13:44

The dog has been barking at things passing by the window all morning. It's been madness. When I spoke to the neighbours she proudly declared that the little princess dog loves sitting in the window. What the actual fuck? At the expense of my sanity?

Can you contact the RSPCA for advice? The dog is being locked in a house all day with zero walks and is barking out of stress. Their treatment of it is cruel. I don't know what the RSPCA can do, but it's worth an approach. Use these details.

Report A Concern to the RSPCA - RSPCA - rspca.org.uk

We receive a call for help every 30 seconds, prioritising cases of cruelty and neglect. Follow our steps to see how to help animals in need.

https://www.rspca.org.uk/reportaconcern?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=18503619493&gbraid=0AAAAADvvO2tAGpHBwDPoQFIvcWTTa4Gec&gclid=CjwKCAjwgO7RBhBKEiwAZNP85j4Yg0IPwm7TqQCmo6A5btBmhah-zP6FRkEv-_v1wPss8sdVRnDV8xoCCdgQAvD_BwE

Gardenisablooming · 24/06/2026 22:01

Go ahead with get council complaints.
They will fit recording devices. I know a couple who were made to rehome their yappy fucker..they were warned.
I had success recently with playing loud music at the point I hear ndn lock his ddog out...I reported to the council but he lapsed a bit..things spot on these days though.

Sally2791 · 24/06/2026 22:05

They need a dog walker. Borrow my dog

ButtercupYellow26 · 24/06/2026 22:08

They should get a dog walker.
Perhaps you should offer to help out a bit yourself.

SunshineCatcher · 24/06/2026 22:21

Have them try an ultrasonic barking device. You can buy them on Amazon pretty cheaply. You can get a box that just automatically goes off when they bark, or you can get a handheld one that you use manually when the dog barks.

Chefpig · Yesterday 07:06

ButtercupYellow26 · 24/06/2026 22:08

They should get a dog walker.
Perhaps you should offer to help out a bit yourself.

I worked full time and don't have the time to help them. He manages to get out and about daily and to the pub so he could easily take the dog for a walk or two a day.

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HaveYouFedTheFish · Yesterday 07:11

Pamelaaaaaar · 21/06/2026 12:39

Honestly I don’t understand people who take on pets that actively make their lives worse. Like, it’s not mandatory. You can actually just….not have a dog that barks at you all day.

Some people really don't seem to understand that not having a dog is a valid, legitimate and indeed wise long term option.

PollyBell · Yesterday 07:13

ButtercupYellow26 · 24/06/2026 22:08

They should get a dog walker.
Perhaps you should offer to help out a bit yourself.

So a neighbiurs dog barking and the solution is other neighbours have to spend their time fixing the problem?

Noddyspointyhat · Yesterday 07:14

Chefpig · 21/06/2026 13:29

It never gets walked. It's three so a young, active dog who would love walks, im sure.

There's your answer.

The dog is bored and full of repressed energy.

Have you thought about offering to walk it for them?

Sherararara · Yesterday 07:14

Their health and other issues are irrelevant. You’ve been more than reasonable. Take it all the way with the council as far as you can as soon as you can.

AmberSpy · Yesterday 07:42

ButtercupYellow26 · 24/06/2026 22:08

They should get a dog walker.
Perhaps you should offer to help out a bit yourself.

Why should she take responsibility for someone else's pet?

PrizedPickledPopcorn · Yesterday 08:04

Chihuahua barks are getting that frustrating for you? They squeak and quack, usually, rather than a decent bark.

It’s possible they were out the day the dog was quiet. Dogs tend to bark because they are defending their owner from all the dangerous passers by.

Chefpig · Yesterday 08:09

PrizedPickledPopcorn · Yesterday 08:04

Chihuahua barks are getting that frustrating for you? They squeak and quack, usually, rather than a decent bark.

It’s possible they were out the day the dog was quiet. Dogs tend to bark because they are defending their owner from all the dangerous passers by.

It doesnt make the barking right though even if it is protecting its owners from danger. It should be trained adequately and the access to see the 'dangers' removed from the dogs sight.

I am also not walking a dog whose owners can't be arsed to be decent neighbours. Its up to them to take care of their own pet in whatever way they can. I have my own pets who I love and take care of by providing for all their needs despite ill health myself. If I was unable to do this I'd hire someone in to do that rather than let them suffer.

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · Yesterday 08:15

Chefpig · Yesterday 08:09

It doesnt make the barking right though even if it is protecting its owners from danger. It should be trained adequately and the access to see the 'dangers' removed from the dogs sight.

I am also not walking a dog whose owners can't be arsed to be decent neighbours. Its up to them to take care of their own pet in whatever way they can. I have my own pets who I love and take care of by providing for all their needs despite ill health myself. If I was unable to do this I'd hire someone in to do that rather than let them suffer.

No, I know it doesn’t justify it. I was making a suggestion as to why you had a quiet day. It was unlikely to be them ‘keeping it quiet’ as they haven’t bothered before or after.

We worked hard on our dog, and he continued to be an absolute pest. What worked for us in the end was window film on the window that he offended at!

It’s possible they’ve convinced themselves s/he likes looking out of the window, because they’ve had no success at stopping it. Window film is a good solution. It may be worth trying to have another civilised conversation like the first one you had, and suggest the window film.

Like it or lump it, this is a mutual problem.

Princessbanana · Yesterday 23:49

Just buy a bark collar for it, it's called pet safe bark collar, money well spent

CombatBarbie · Today 03:27

ButtercupYellow26 · 24/06/2026 22:08

They should get a dog walker.
Perhaps you should offer to help out a bit yourself.

Erm why??????

CombatBarbie · Today 03:37

Chefpig · Yesterday 08:09

It doesnt make the barking right though even if it is protecting its owners from danger. It should be trained adequately and the access to see the 'dangers' removed from the dogs sight.

I am also not walking a dog whose owners can't be arsed to be decent neighbours. Its up to them to take care of their own pet in whatever way they can. I have my own pets who I love and take care of by providing for all their needs despite ill health myself. If I was unable to do this I'd hire someone in to do that rather than let them suffer.

Its not protecting the owners from.danger though is it. It's bored shitless. The owners wouldnt react at 3am as they'll assume its barking at a passing car/person.

My dog barks when it detects someone inside the perimeter....
Not passing.

Hes woke me up twice when police arrived 9hrs after a call and im a marked house.

He doesnt bark when the postman arrives and puts my mail in the box at the end of my drive. He will bark if an unfamiliar courier who cant read the sign on the gate or sees the huge parcel box saunters up tje drive. He wont bite unless he thinks im in distress, jjst dances around them

Chefpig · Today 14:18

PrizedPickledPopcorn · Yesterday 08:15

No, I know it doesn’t justify it. I was making a suggestion as to why you had a quiet day. It was unlikely to be them ‘keeping it quiet’ as they haven’t bothered before or after.

We worked hard on our dog, and he continued to be an absolute pest. What worked for us in the end was window film on the window that he offended at!

It’s possible they’ve convinced themselves s/he likes looking out of the window, because they’ve had no success at stopping it. Window film is a good solution. It may be worth trying to have another civilised conversation like the first one you had, and suggest the window film.

Like it or lump it, this is a mutual problem.

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Why should it be my problem? I didnt choose to get the dog, nor does it belong to me. Its 100% their responsibility to make sure the dog isn't a noise nuisance and that starts and ends with them.

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · Today 14:22

Chefpig · Today 14:18

Why should it be my problem? I didnt choose to get the dog, nor does it belong to me. Its 100% their responsibility to make sure the dog isn't a noise nuisance and that starts and ends with them.

But is it your problem. Not your fault, your problem, because here you are annoyed and fed up.

You can’t actually make people do anything, unfortunately.