Wrong address on school register

[Tryingiton]

I work in a school. If a parent has not changed their address on the school register because they moved in with their boyfriend ( had another baby with him ) almost two years ago would you ask for their current address? I suspect it’s because they have not declared they are living together. We have had lots of dads over the years who lived with their mothers ?? Except they didn’t. I live locally so it’s not a well kept secret.
Do you know anyone who has done the same thing ? Would you report them to UC?

Not invested . Just another long day at work while others do fuck all.

You work in a school..(and not in direct contact with a classfull of children by the sound of things) hardly a 12 hour NHS shift..

Seems weak and petty to me

I didn’t say I didn’t have contact with the children. Did I ?

So honest people are weak and petty now?

So, vast majority of responses say YABU. You keep on pushing your agenda. Don’t bother making the thread. You think YANBU and get argumentative with everyone else 🤷🏼‍♀️

No I wouldn’t. You don’t know their situation so just keep out of it. Even if you’re right, reporting her will have zero impact on you. If you’re not happy in your life do something about it instead of blaming your woes on other people. Or perhaps focus your attention on the big corporations or multimillionaires dodging tax.

So you want to be just as fraudulent as you think she may be?

Pot, kettle and all that.

You THINK you know this via your job, you need to focus on your job not playground gossip.

There is an anon reporting line I think and website.

If she has nothing to hide and isn’t doing anything to wrong then it’ll be very simple to
prove to UC that won’t it 🤷‍♀️

Just because she hasn’t updated the address with school, doesn’t mean she hasn’t done so with UC does it?

Do you not ask the parents if the info is correct every year? Our primary school prints off an info sheet for 1st parents evening with address, emergency contacts etc on it and you have to sign to say it is correct

What makes you so sure she isn't working/is claiming benefits she isn't entitled to? Not updated her address doesn't prove anything.

It’s always a mistake to ask this on MN, because most people on here support benefit fraud. They also support not reporting abusive parents. It’s strange.

WTAF

There’s a world of difference between supporting benefit fraud and not wanting to tell tales on someone whose life you know very little about.

Probably because lots of them have boyfriends who also live with their mummies?
Obviously I’m not going to risk my job for a benefit cheat. Will be interesting to see what the response is when I ask for the updated address to add to the system. And yes the info was sent home in September but obviously wasn’t changed by the parent.

There’s two things here- firstly you have access to her personal details through work and you shouldn’t use these for any purpose other than work.

secondly - you have heard local gossip about her moving in with a boyfriend and not declaring it to UC, you don’t have any evidence of this (even your school address access only proves she’s lax at admin nothing else). By all means report the gossip you’ve heard anonymously online but do not jeopardise your job by compromising yourself in this way.

Also your bitterness isn’t a good look.

I don’t support benefit fraud and I don’t support abuse.

Equally, I don’t support a gossip who works in a school, thinking, they know the facts, when they do not, reporting someone on gossip.

@Tryingiton clearly feels bitter about working and is directing this bitterness towards all the apparent fraudsters at her school.

Report based on FACT not on information assumed via your workplace.

Yes that’s it. We are all worried now in case it’s us you are reporting 🙄 Honestly you come across as really hating this woman and it’s not a good look.

The GDPR legislation has exceptions and processes to allow for law enforcement.

How do you know this?

Exemptions are for disclosing to police during active investigations?

https://www.gov.uk/report-benefit-fraud

it says it’s anonymous

Why not frame it as an administrative update and ask all parents to provide up to date address details? If she lies then you have to think what to do next. Is it a popular school with a small catchment? May she be going to attempt to get the younger child in based on her old address? If so I assume she still has that address but isn't using it?