DH cooking but getting distracted by gaming

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My DH cooks maybe once a month. I don't mind, as he works long hours and I don't. Every now and again though he will cook, and I'm starting to wish he just didn't bother.

I was so looking forward to not cooking last night. He had announced he was doing a roast. Fab! He started cooking the roast potatoes far too early. Then he got engrossed in a game (he's 53!), I shouted up a few times that I thought they were going to burn. He kept saying he'd come down and sort it.

Long story short, on the one day he cooks, the thing is almost inedible. The roast potatoes had skins like leather. The (expensive) meat was dry. Veggies were the only thing done nicely. I know this is a first world problem, but it's so disappointing.

Came down this morning and the kitchen is a bomb site - I've cleaned it all up whilst he is still asleep. Grr.

Yes, because God forbid he has to make any effort. That's what infuriates me. When women cook, they're including vegetables, working to a budget, dealing with leftovers.

Man cooks and it's pasta and sauce, a ready meal, or a takeaway, with no thought for producing a healthy meal on a budget or putting in any effort.

I’d hazard a guess that you are totally correct but we don’t actually know that ….. yet! 😁

YABU for cleaning up. How is this ever going to improve without you raising a stink about it, much less doing part of the work for him! It’s not funny, it’s not “just how men are”, it’s pitiful!

The fact she was expecting it to be cleared when she came down the next morning shows that’s not their setup.

Can he actually cook?

I am trying to work out if he is just a bad cook or if he’s forgetting about it because of his gaming.

Some people just aren’t good cooks.

What’s the reason he’s cooking?
Because he enjoys doing it or feels like he has to?

You obviously can’t tell him not to cook in his own home but you can encourage him to cook certain things or perhaps bake instead.

The reason he's cooking is that he eats food, which needs cooking, so it's fair he does it at least some of the time.

Once a month is pitiful and if at 53 he can't cook, he needs more practice. In most cases, it's a case of CBA, not 'can't'.

My husband is a gamer and he can cook a roast without letting everything get ruined. He's not the best cook in the world but does a better job that I would, I'd lose track with all the timers and burn everything. I tend to clear up as it feels fair when he's done the rest.

He should be staying in the kitchen while it's all cooking, gaming can wait for another time. That's what went wrong. Just tell him he is to handle it start to finish and you will not be stepping in at all unless you see flames!

It wasn't incompetence, it was couldn't-give-a-fuck-ness.

He makes plenty of effort with plenty of other things. We have very busy lives and cooking isn't one of his skills, but he can feed us when he needs to and it's fine. It's not that deep

You are missing the point. It is him who should have cleared it up.

Maybe that's why she keeps him on

golden cock🤣🤣🤣

Why would anyone care what his game is? He’s old enough to work out if it’s compatible with the simple task he does one time a month and if it’s not he doesn’t do it.

and for the op - id it was easy to clean up then even more reason for you to have texted him and said I’m going out for breakfast because you haven’t even cleaned up the meal you burnt to a crisp. Clean the kitchen. Act like an adult. Adults can cook a meal without getting distracted by their gaming.

53 year old gamer who can’t cook, attractive

Its fortunate that his important life or death job can pay for take aways next time