Friend said she was going to sleep with my ex…

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my relationship with my ex ended out the blue about 2 months ago. It was traumatic for me. One of my closest friends who I have confided in more than anyone else was at the same event as my ex a couple of weeks ago. I have heard from several people that she followed him about flirting with him all night, and at the end of the night told someone she was going to sleep with him. I confronted her and she has made me feel like a dick for questioning her. Was I being unreasonable? She said she was so drunk she can’t remember but then also said she was laughing when she said it so clearly does remember. Tho apparently she was not laughing and was deadly serious when she said it

I had a friend like this at uni. She did this to everyone, including her cousin’s BF. It was an ego boost to prove that she could get his attention too. Dump her. I didn’t dump my “friend” until we were 25, and I definitely should have done it sooner.

Believe that she didn’t sleep with him.

You won’t want to hear this but she may well make a point of doing it now.

She is not your friend

She is not a friend.

So one of your closest friends said something stupid when she was drunk, didn't act on it, and you're basing your decision to cut her off entirely on hearsay evidence from shit-stirring third parties about the expression on her face?

Fuck her off she is a total bitch and no fucking friend

YWBU to continue to be her friend. Shes a dick. Alcohol lowers inhibitions but it doesnt make you behave in a way you don't want to.

She knew he hurt you and she went sniffing after him. Shes a dick. Best thing shes done is show you who she is. Dont look away

For me whether I cared if a friend pursued a former boyfriend would hinge on how long we were together and how serious we were. Just dating a couple of months, I wouldn't care. Years and/or living together, I would.

Yes it is. And she is not a ‘close’ friend. Block her on everything and move on. I’d also suggest counselling as with ex-partners and friends like this, I would gently suggest that you might need to work on yourself to ensure that you don’t attract tossers like this into your life going forward. These ghouls are like sharks scenting blood when it comes to sensitive, vulnerable and/or overly trusting people who miss all the red flags that they display.

Block both and move on.

God, this thread is mad. The friend didn't sleep with the guy. The idea that she was terribly serious and determined about it, rather than it being the kind of drunken mad idea that occurs to someone for five seconds and then makes them retrospectively die of embarrassment , is based on hearsay from third parties who sound like total shit-stirrers.

Years ago I had a date with a guy that my friend had had a very on / off relationship
with. I think he had a lot of money and she was very impressed by the trappings ie the fancy car. I was used to feeling like the also ran so was flattered when he asked me out. On the night I felt so awful about it I almost sprinted out the car when he dropped me off and never went out with him again. I do think it’s poor form to go after a friends ex even if they are technically single.

Shes not a friend.
Never tell her anything again of any interest or meaning.

She was deliberately trying to wind you up. In such a situation I would have laughed at her and said "whatever, you're welcome to my cast off" and walked off and not spoken to her again that evening.

She's not your friend. Treat it as a lesson and ghost her x

Tell her hes got the clap 🤨

It doesn't really matter what the vote on here says, if it's crossed a line for you and you feel disrespected that's what matters. On one hand it's technically not your business, but yes absolutely I would be pissed off and have nothing to do with her again. There's millions of men out there, she doesn't need to shag that one. Ditch her. She's out of order.

No, there’s no line regarding your ex. There’s only a line between you and your friend and that’s for you to decide.

You've been split from your ex for 2 months and your friend gets drunk at an event and says she's going to sleep with your ex!!! Even if the comment was a drunken one, there's a saying 'many a true thing, is said in jest'. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, and gives most people a loose tongue, so it's highly likely, given the chance she'd have jumped into bed with him.

She's not a friend. Do not confide in her any more. I'd be rethinking the friendship too.

She is not your friend. Your friend is the person comforting you when you go through s break up. A friend also never flirts or considers sleeping with your partner, ex or even someone you’ve just had a brief fling with.

she is an ex friend now don’t speak to her again.

I had a ‘friend’ who told me she would always try to sleep with any boyfriend I had for my benefit to prove they would be faithful to me…

Once you have split, you have split though. Many many years ago, a friend of mine used me as a sounding board (in fact just used me) when she split with her partner. She would come round all times of day or night, she wasn’t bothered about me but I was available as far as she was concerned.

She then dropped me in it massively about something work related.

Reader, I shagged the ex 🤷‍♀️

This person is not your friend.

Correct. Is her name Amanda? (IYKYK)