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AIBU to find career advice from privileged speakers tone deaf?

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Bake · Yesterday 21:40

We had a speaker at a work network event talking about her highly successful career and giving women advice about how she made it to where she is.

She talked about a difficult time in her life, she had small children, one who didn't sleep well, she was grieving, stressed, experiencing peri-menopause symptoms etc. These circumstances are so close to my current experience that it really piqued my interest, I couldn't wait to hear how she made it through this tough time and how I could use her experience to help me through.

I honestly didn't know whether to laugh or cry when she said how she made it through. I'm glad I had joined in Teams rather than being in the room. She quit her job and took 7 months off work. 😳

I understand she was there to talk about her experience, and she was fortunate to be in a position to do this, but I just don't see how it's helping the majority of the audience. After 7 months, she was asked to come back by her old boss, only agreed if it was on her terms, set up a consultation business and returned to the same job but on a day rate she set. It's not the first time we've had a speaker like this. Another man, who has given the same talk to two different teams in the business, came to teach us about burnout. He'd experienced it and had to take a year off work to recover.

I understand that there is a range of salaries in our organisation. But am I being unreasonable to think this is tone deaf to what most people can do? I would be in financial hardship if I took even a week off unpaid.

OP posts:
oliviaAustin · Yesterday 23:30

Sometimes you have no choice. Leaving your job to recover isn’t something done easily. My husband is currently on month 5 of unpaid sick leave and it’s been the hardest, most terrifying year of our marriage but he had no choice.

I think dismissing their brave decision to make it work for their own health is quite close-minded. You have no idea if those 7 months were incredibly challenging and scary for her.

We were saving up to try for/have our first baby. Now that money is gone.

FKAT · Yesterday 23:35

Paul2023 · Yesterday 23:05

A little off topic but I remember when Philip Hammond , the Tory ex chancellor was talking about retail shops closing down.
He said that women can basically set up a business and work from home..

Most women juggling childcare and work can’t just set up a business from thin air and make a good living out of it! Otherwise everyone would be doing it surely ?

I read a similar article by Richard Branson's mother. Apparently when she was living in poverty (her husband was training as a barrister) she just simply got a contract to supply Harrods with ornaments she sourced from overseas.

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