Bike ride, shops and cafe after fever and headache

[Partyplanningaintfortheweak]

Dc was ill yesterday, bad headache, crying, tired and temperature at 39.1
I said to just have a rest day today-a day on the sofa with films, books.
Dh just taken her on a bike ride and to the cafe and shop to buy things

Aibu in thinking it’s not ideal

If you carry on like this you'll end up making her believe she's still ill/tired tomorrow.

You're doing her no favours at all.

I am having a chill day as yesterday v busy, but not feeling i’m missing out at all.
She was under her throw in pjs calmly watching nice films (she’s v active so never or very rarely does this) It’s out of character and she was so sleepy and teary yesterday, I just feel she probably needs some rest

She didn't have a 'bad headache' if she played on her dad's phone for 2 hours.

Although it sounds as though you may have convinced yourself she did.

Or because she’s not had any downtime, her body hasn’t had chance to recover and she’ll be too tired for school!

She said she had a headache still

Christ, someone needs a rest here and it's not your DD.

Do you have health anxiety OP?

Ffs, not at all

Did your DD object in any way to her dad’s plan?

But is she feeling well today? Make sure she goes to bed nice and early and she'll be fine for school tomorrow.

She's done two hours playing on her dad's phone and has now gone off bike riding and shopping.

I'd say that's a pretty clear indication that she's well.

Yes def early night

But surely you realise it depends what the fever is caused by? Some viruses last ages. Some can be been and gone in 24 hours. Previously she’s had things that have lasted longer, because they weren’t the same virus that she had this time.

If she felt OK and wanted to go out with her dad, what’s the problem? No point in encouraging her to malinger. If she fancies getting out in the fresh air, that’s probably going to make her feel better than sitting indoors on a summer day being bored. I’m sure she’s capable of telling her dad if she gets tired and I’m sure he’s capable of looking after her.

You sound like an uptight and inflexible parent and he sounds like a reasonable one.

Then she shouldn’t be taken out around the shops or whatever. That is selfish if she could potentially be passing something on to people

YABU

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, OP (and I’m a GP, for what it’s worth) - if she had a temp of 39.1 on Saturday than she almost certainly has an infection, most likely a viral one, and it’s very unlikely to be fully resolved within 24 hours. Like you I would have encouraged a quieter day yesterday, with a view to being fully well for school today. Hope she’s on the mend now.

Thank you! Yes getting better

I get it @Partyplanningaintfortheweak and funnily enough my 8yo was off school today with a temperature, headache, no appetite, general malaise.

Yesterday DP took the older 2 out and 8yo insisted she wad fine and she'd have gone with them had I let her but I didn't as she was poorly and needed to rest. She still has a temperature / is off her food today.

Yes some kids bounce back but when one of mine has had a temperature of 39c they need at least 24h of doing not very much.

Did she need the day off school today?

Exactly