Kids can wear whatever they want to the shop

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Dh said this to Dd, 7, they’ve just nipped out to the shops, she asked if she could stay in her slippers, he said yes and that she’s just a kid and can wear whatever to the shops

Do you agree?

Maybe you wouldn't need a duvet day if you relaxed and allowed yourself to pay attention to your own comfort in your life outside the home a little more often. this is rigidity then collapse :)

Societal norms for adults frequently don’t apply to young children.

I wouldn't care. I wouldn't fight that battle over a trip to the shop.

Maybe op can clarify if it was a battle

or if it was
’i want to wear my slippers’
‘That’s ok my darling, kids can wear whatever they want’

What’s wrong with the latter though?

It suggests the DH is perhaps overly indulgent? I mean I’m going off very little but I would have thought a minimum would be ‘slippers are for the house, let’s pick another pair’ before we even get to a battle

Yes it was that, no battle, but she was very surprised and happy when she was allowed

Slippers are for indoors. They shouldn’t be worn outside, that’s just grim.

Tbh I don’t think it’s about the slippers. Fine it’s a one off and it made her happy - but if this is a recurring theme in his parenting I don’t think it’s great.

Does he have form for this and does it regularly? Not just shoes /clothes , but rules and boundaries in general? Or do they happen as a one off, like letting your kid have cake for breakfast on their birthday?

Which is not what the post I was replying to was talking about.

its an open forum so anyone can reply to any pist, but at least read the conversation., if you're going to comment.

No sweetheart, slippers are for inside the house, put some shoes on for outside if you want to come to the shop.

no battle.

She's not 'a very young child' she's 7 'a child'

even if she was younger they can easily learn that slippers are for inside the house, we put shoes on when we go out of the horse. It's not difficult .

I don't see the big deal about wearing slippers to the shop. We don't really have inside shoes though.

Height of scruffiness and laziness to wear stuff like that outside. I’m pretty relaxed about clothing otherwise.

You are incredibly rude.

I'm not wasting any more time explaining anything to you.

The irony, got have literally just spammed the thread with comment after comment of sarcastic, passive aggressive rude comments.

No I haven't.

He should not let her go out in slippers. They are for indoors and not meant for outside. They are not robust enough.
That aside, letting her wear them doesn’t teach her to wear appropriate clothing/footwear at the right time/occasion.
Anytime she wants to wear slippers she will expect to be able to.

No. If she wanted to go dressed up as a pirate then I’d be fine with that, but slippers (and pajamas) are inside clothes, and are not appropriate to wear outside the house.

I wouldn’t like that, because then she is treading the outside dirt all back into the house.
Plus, I have certain standards and you may as well start as you want to continue through life.
However, I don’t suppose anyone would notice she is in her slippers, so it’s your personal decision.

Yes they’re kids. As long as whatever they’re wearing is clean I would never look at them and judge (the parent obviously not the child).

I love my slippers and don't think twice about wearing them if I'm just running a quick errand. My daughter lives in pjs and will often just put a hoodie on over top if she wants to come with me. I'm pretty flexible on the shoes on or off in the house. The floors get cleaned regularly and noome has died of some horrible disease so far!

Don’t have an issue with children in pjs at night. Like you’ve been to evening sports and they’ve got changed afterwards ready for bed. But I don’t think we should be encouraging not getting dressed for the day.

I wouldn’t allow it as I don’t want outdoor germs on my indoor slippers.

Also I don’t know why but I find it really gross to see people (even kids) in PJs in shops or at hotel breakfast etc.

I fully realise people are gross all the time. But something about clothes that I know have been slept in I just don’t want to be near food.