Would you do this

[tooyoungtoopretty]

Will be traveling (6hour flight) with DH and two kids ( 7 and 9 years old). I will be 30 weeks pregnant, and DH says I should fly business class while the 3 of them should fly economy. I’m uneasy about it - feels selfish. We cannot afford for the 4 of us to all fly business. Would you do it? Or would you feel too much shame saying bye yo your family and they scoot down the plane aisle

Embarrassing that would encourage a heavily pregnant woman to drink. On a flight of all places. Just because you can, it doesn’t make you cool.

How very thoughtful of him. Yes I think you should. Stretch out and relax and good luck with No3!

I know exactly the feeling behind why you’re asking OP. It’s not about the kids, they wouldn’t care otherwise. It’s about your DH. It’s hard to feel ok about someone being SO kind to you. Not sure why it makes us so uncomfortable when others prioritize how you feel and your comfort over their own.

We had a similar type of thing on our last flight. We fly business class generally and the flight was full. My husbands seat was broken and couldn’t recline. All I could think about was that he wouldn’t be able to recline while I could. It made me feel so guilty.

It’s sad that it’s so foreign so many women to be in a relationship where you genuinely care about each other and how the other is feeling. Reading MN often reminds me how grateful I am that my OH is not on my list of problems in my life.

I would do this with no hesitation. Don’t feel bad and enjoy the comfortable seat.

Its usually 33 or 36 weeks depending on airline.

Lovely idea, do it! The sour grapes from some posters are tragicomic.

And are you going to be able to fly home?

I flew Scotland to Australia at 36wks pg, in economy with DH, DS1 (7) and DS2 (6) and it was torture! I was also on crutches for SPD, had a labour scare on the third flight and terrible vomiting! If I could have afforded business I would have absolutely have accepted it. We had no choice but to fly when we did, and I had to have a specialist’s clearance but it all worked out in the end.

If I had to do it again I would beg borrow or steal to upgrade! Take up your DH on his kind offer and don’t think twice about it! And remember your Ted Socks!

It's six hours. Calm down.

You will need a fit to fly certificate from your doc at 30 weeks. Are you coming back before birth? My friend found getting recertified for the return flight really hard when she flew for a family wedding. Some are lines get sticky about it before the official 36 week deadline so check.

An emergency 🤣.

OP you will soon be knee deep in nappies and late nights. Enjoy your few hours of rest and relative luxury without guilt

Self care is not selfish. Do it OP and enjoy it. Pregnancy is relentless

Harsh. Do it OP

I would check you can fly and where you are going.

We went to Turkey with Tui when I was about 26 weeks only for a few days. I took my hospital notes and GP letter with me but had difficulty getting on the flight home. It was scary as their English was poor and I wasn't sure I was allowed on the flight until I was actually sat on it . They separated me from DH and I was in a back room for ages.

Make sure you have good insurance too and think about where you are travelling too. For example the US prioritises the unborn baby more than the mother in some States.

Hilarious thread. Simple question about a kind gesture practically gets turned into a LTB response and a guilt trip!

Go for it OP and don't forget to send some goodies back to the galley slaves in economy!

You don't think emergencies happen? My DH was in a plane that landed safely, but the cabin filled with smoke. They are rare, but emergencies do happen. I don't want to be far away from my kids if it does happen.

Besides, part of the family holiday experience is the travel together.

The question is would I do it. My answer is no. That doesn't mean I don't think anyone else should if they feel differently.

I assume the people on here saying op shouldn't do it have completely incapable partners who are unable to look after their own children for a few hours.

I don't think anyone has said OP shouldn't do it. She should absolutely do it if she is comfortable doing so.

The question was would we, individually, do it. My answer is that I wouldn't for my own reasons. That doesn't mean that I don't think OP should or shouldn't do it. It's entirely up to her.

A few people have absolutely said she shouldn’t do it

It isn’t garbage you need a doctors note to fly at 30 weeks 🙄. You may be denied without one. I know of women who didn’t have a note and were denied flying.

Obviously I missed those. Entirely your choice OP. No right or wrong, just preferences.

What was garbage was “most airlines won’t let you fly after 28 weeks”. Completely untrue.

Yes without a note they won’t. Apologies if that wasn’t clear but you need a note - that part isn’t garbage.