Would you do this

[tooyoungtoopretty]

Will be traveling (6hour flight) with DH and two kids ( 7 and 9 years old). I will be 30 weeks pregnant, and DH says I should fly business class while the 3 of them should fly economy. I’m uneasy about it - feels selfish. We cannot afford for the 4 of us to all fly business. Would you do it? Or would you feel too much shame saying bye yo your family and they scoot down the plane aisle

You've got the opportunity to fly with your feet up. That's so much better than being seated

As long as your husband isn't the type to hold it against you, do it. Your dh and dc will be fine

There no point turning it down because you feel sorry for your "poor" DH. He still has to fly economy regardless, it's not like if you don't fly business class then he will.
There's absolutely no shame in accepting a gift and looking after yourself when pregnant.
As for scooting down to economy, it's still a privilege to fly for a lot of people, yes even economy.

Of course you should do this! Especially as it was your DH’s idea.

Honestly, more men should be prioritising their pregnant wives in this way.

First: Your DH sounds like a DH. 👏
Second: check with the airline/s that you can fly; will you need a medical letter?
Third: buy full cancellation / trip insurance for all of you, but extra medical insurance for you just in case. Cover all your bases and do not skimp.

The risk of DVT is always increased with flying, even more so in later pregnancy. Being able to put feet up and stretch the legs will certainly lower the risk.

Id do it OP.

He's the one suggesting it!
Go for it. Enjoy the peace. 😁 Why is that selfish, especially if you're pregnant? You need time to yourself and to relax.

You know you need a doctors safe to fly note and most airlines don’t allow people to fly after 28 weeks right?

No. I wouldn't be flying at all. You could even, with assuming all things normal, and not likely still go into labour and then what? Bit of a what if scenario I know, but it's possible. You would need very specialised medical care interventions for your baby. They are not nice.

I wouldn't have flown pregnant either, sounds like a nightmare, especially with two kids 😁

Check you can travel, get good insurance and tell them you are pregnant then definitely take up your DH offer. Having your feet down for 6 hours on a plane would not be good.

Don’t bother with Premium Economy, there is nothing “Premium” about it on any airline. Usually the only difference is a bit more legroom. Some of them have slightly comfier seats but it’s never worth it in my opinion. Takr the business class seat, OP, especially if it’s flatbed.

Absolutely! Do it if at all possible with the airline, what a lovely thought 😎

Yes absolutely enjoy

That reminds me of when DS's friend (trainee doctor) who, last year or the year before, ended up delivering a baby mid-flight when the mum went into premature labour. It doesn't happen very often, thank goodness.

Martyr much?

Go for it, OP. Your kids are not “missing out”. Enjoy!

Yes it’s ok to travel at 30 weeks. I travelled further at 33. I had a doctors letter and good travel insurance that covered me and the baby should I give birth or have a pregnancy related illness.

If your kids won’t care and your husband is obviously encouraging it, not sure why you’re asking.

I think you might need a fit to fly letter though. I flew at 35 weeks as I wanted to give birth in my home country but needed a doctor’s note.

Garbage. Why do people make stuff up?

A doctors note is required after 28 weeks by most airlines. Most airlines let you fly internationally up to 36 weeks for a single pregnancy.

Yes, I flew from England to the US at 35 weeks with a fit to fly note from my doctor. I think the cut off was 36 weeks.

1. It sounds like you want to
2. your husband isn’t bothered and in fact suggested it
3. you’ve said your kids won’t care

If you can afford it, then why not? What is the price difference out of interest? Do you get much chance to rest and put your feet up at home?

If I was comfortable in pregnancy and it was more of a treat then I personally wouldn’t as I’d prefer to fly together as part of the holiday experience and would rather use the money on something else. But that doesn’t mean you should - enjoy it

Strong disagree. I am faced with a lack of resiliency and a delay in maturation amongst young adults.

It is true that past generations have gone too far with authoritarian parenting and schooling. That was wrong. But OP’s DH is prepared to tell his DC ‘your mum, my wife, is uncomfortable and deserves whatever we can do to make the trip easier for her.’ DC need to hear this when it is relevant.

Constantly being on the lookout for any advantages anyone else may have, without considering whether these may be justified, and focusing on what they are owed rather than what they might contribute, is not helping our young adults. I write primarily from an HE background but many threads lead me to believe the problem is more pervasive.

In no way am I generalising to the many young adults who are truly playing against the odds.

Back to the main point: I think OP’s DC have a lovely dad setting them on the right track, as long as he does so kindly.

I think for most people the joy of business is good leg room and being able to stretch out/ more space. Kids don’t want more space and medium sized kids don’t usually need extra legroom.

I would say “thank you my love” and have already booked 😂

Your dh sounds very kind. I don't like flying and wouldn't want to be away from my family in case of an emergency, but I'm an overthinker and that's how my brain works. If you are comfortable doing it, it isn't selfish and you'll arrive feeling fresher and will more able to do things with the kids.

Why poor DH? If the kids have got their snacks, TV, screens they'll be happy. They're 7 and 9, not babies/ toddlers needing constant supervision. Sounds like a doddle!

I flew further than that at 32 weeks pg, would have booked business but there was no business on the direct flight so had to go economy. Dh ended up standing with dc1 the whole trip back so I could lie across the 3 seats, as I was having contractions.

Book the lie flat seat.