Not a major issue, but something we disagree on so just trying to see if I am being unreasonable or not. DH says I am being controlling/ungrateful when he does a chore/job in the house but doesn't finish it fully & I am then a bit annoyed that I have to.
Some examples are:
- Will take out kitchen bins if they are full but then doesn't put a new bag in which inevitably I end up doing as need to use the bin.
- Will get the vacuum out & use it but then leaves it out, not back in the cupboard where he got it out from.
- If he unloads the dishwasher (not very often) will leave half the bits out on the side as he 'doesn't know where they go' - we've lived in the house for 9 years now & the kitchen has always been the same!
- If he loads the dishwasher (again not often) does it very haphazardly so not much fits in or won't get cleaned properly so I have to reorganise it before it can go on.
Just a few examples off the top of my head. However there are often times when he will absentmindedly leave cups/mugs/plates/drink cans/clothes around that I also have to pick up/tidy away.
For context, both 33, 2 kids - 5 & 1. DH works full time self employed, I work part time 2 days. Nursery/School runs are shared but I do majority.
I do most, if not all life/home admin. I do all Nursery/school admin, I take care of getting all kids clothes/shoes etc.
I do all meal planning, shopping & 95% of cooking. All laundry & most of the cleaning etc in the house is on me too. We both contribute to bills etc.
So AIBU to expect if DH does jobs/chores in the house that he actually finishes them? Or am I just being picky & ungrateful?