What do you consider a treat?

[coulditbeme2323]

What do you consider a treat?

No right or wrong answer here - because it will mean different things to different people.

On another thread I have stated that a takeaway coffee or a basic chain lunch is more functional than a treat for me. I am not saying that it isn't a treat to others.

It was even suggested because I went shopping for a chopping board it was a treat.

So what does a treat look like to you?

I'm very happy to answer this if your comment is genuine. So may of your posts are tongue in cheek, that I can't be sure you're being serious here?

You know nothing about me, but thought it reasonable to make personal comments.

So no I wasn't being serious.

A take away, or a nice coffee in a coffee shop, or a meal out.

None of us know you but what we chose to put out into the world says something about us. Your posts certainly point to a preoccupation with wealth / spending / lifestyle.

Do you think you have status anxiety OP?

No.

Well only you would know. If not, then you might want to reflect on why you are so keen to tell the world how much money you have. As an outsider looking it, It's so stark.

As I am getting older I find self reflection increasingly important.

All the best.

And you.

Takeaway coffee is for me.

I leave for work at 7.45, get there at 8.30. I stop on the way for a nice strong coffee, despite being able to have coffee at home and at work.

I then go to Starbucks around 11 when working.
It's not convenience because it would be more convenient to make coffee at home or work. I enjoy the coffee so it is a treat for me.

I wouldn't consider anything else really that I buy or do to be a treat.

I wouldn’t agree I know nothing about you. I’ve studied quite a few of your posts quite carefully .
I agree I’m making a generalisation but generalisations can be useful and truthful .
There’s no doubt that you’re unnaturally preoccupied with the money that, as you’ve portrayed it, your DH has made.
Also , with playing a strange cat and mouse game , where you aspire to emphasise the difference between your situation and others, while believing you’re giving away nothing about yourself.
I’m afraid it’s a general truth that people who do these things are highly likely to to be suffering a lack of self esteem. Really , it’s the only explanation for such behaviour
So, in the absence of any other explanation, I think personal insecurity is the convincing explanation.
What is certain is that careful readers of your posts certainly do know something about you! 🙂

And what is that?

Any meal out

I especially love an occasional coffee on my own in a cafe

‘I’ve studied’ - fucking hell. Relax with the faux intellectualism. You’re on Mumsnet.

😂

Don’t be so judgmental. Studied = read carefully. I read posts carefully which I find interesting. I know lots of people scroll quickly down pages and that’s why there are so many irrelevant / pointless posts.
It’s okay to take an interest. 🙂

I just did. You give every sign of a lack of self esteem.
Your turn to tell me why I’m wrong and why you create so many threads about how much money you have.

You are free to believe what you want to believe.

Or double down on it, that works too.

You’ve read her posts, gleaned certain information and interpreted that in a way that suits your preferred narrative. A narrative which in turn was wielded, poorly, in an attempt to, what, look smart? On fucking Mumsnet.

Incidentally, someone qualified in psychoanalysis and/or related fields would actually know better than to extrapolate in such a way, not least because it’s fucking cringe.

’Don’t be so judgmental’?

Lol. /selfawarewolves

anyway, I’d say a treat for me is tracking down a discontinued perfume that’s been on my wishlist, and that certainly isn’t something that happens everyday. I recently found a nearly full bottle of Traversee du Bosphore. I may or may not have yelped in excitement.

I had to google that as I had never heard of it, but the blend of ingredients sound lovely.

Crumbs, what’s up with you?
‘fucking cringe’, ‘faux intellectualism’!
It’s just common sense!
You tell me the correct explanation for this bizarre behaviour. I take it you’re ‘qualified in psychoanalysis’? Or perhaps just another faux intellectual?

Tea and a cake at an independent coffee shop plus a wander round town especially Waterstones all on my own is a treat.
Constant hot water is a treat because I didn’t have that when I was young.
Feeing well with no pain is a treat because I have a chronic illness, so that’s not an everyday occurrence.
Daunt book subscription - a book a month for a year - birthday present from my son, is a treat.

Chocolate at lunchtime/afternoon when I’m in the office. I try to be relatively healthy and get salad or sushi, but sometimes I feel a slump coming on and I treat myself to something nice. I love salted almonds covered in chocolate.

Common sense? I thought it was ‘careful study’.

‘The correct explanation for such behaviour’. As if she’s Ted Bundy and requires pathologizing. Christ. Perhaps she’s just passing the time by making a lighthearted thread on Mumsnet. Wild concept I know, but sometimes shit doesn’t get any deeper than that.

And no, lol. Cringing at armchair psychology is not an intellectual, or even faux intellectual, position.

A treat for me is a tub of Hagan Daz Salted Caramel ice cream all to myself. In a oner.

It’s beautiful. I was gutted when it was discontinued, so when I see a bottle I don’t hesitate.

I live in hope that they’ll bring it back.