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What do you consider a treat?

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coulditbeme2323 · Today 09:27

What do you consider a treat?

No right or wrong answer here - because it will mean different things to different people.

On another thread I have stated that a takeaway coffee or a basic chain lunch is more functional than a treat for me. I am not saying that it isn't a treat to others.

It was even suggested because I went shopping for a chopping board it was a treat.

So what does a treat look like to you?

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SixtySomething · Today 16:25

moderateme · Today 15:47

You missed out the one where she wanted to pay for her sister's family to go to DL Florida but didn't know how to broach the subject.

Or the one where she was complaining about tourists "who couldn't afford to live where she lives" coming down for the day and not clearing up after themselves. I'm not defending people who don't respect the countryside BTW but I found it telling that she felt the need to identify these people as being poor (or at least poorer than her) as if that somehow compounded their crimes.

I’ll have a look for these. 🙂

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · Today 16:27

A Rigby and Peller bra.

NegativeFreak · Today 16:28

Roaroutthetree · Today 12:03

So….Your thread was posted so you could revel in the fact that things that are a treat to others aren’t to you. And you want them to list them so you can ‘understand’ the poor people’s lives? Because you’re well off. Read the fucking room love.

Innit. I think I posted on another of the threads that i think CIBM2323 is on the wind up.

She writes like this bloke i used to know who created an alter ego of a little old lady to troll the local message boards.

goldylock · Today 16:30

coulditbeme2323 · Today 16:15

Good for you.

Go get a life.

coulditbeme2323 · Today 16:32

goldylock · Today 16:30

Go get a life.

I am not the one being rude to people on the internet.

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TomatoSandwiches · Today 16:34

Time to myself in a quiet house.

Neutralnames · Today 16:36

Time to myself to read a book in peace and quiet, and nothing else to do.

Hardly ever happens.

goldylock · Today 16:50

coulditbeme2323 · Today 16:32

I am not the one being rude to people on the internet.

Yea, you are.

Weird, trolling posts and replies.

coulditbeme2323 · Today 16:52

goldylock · Today 16:50

Yea, you are.

Weird, trolling posts and replies.

Probably best we stop engaging then.

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SixtySomething · Today 17:12

@coulditbeme2323 , I ‘m genuinely interested to know why you’re making these posts.
If what you portray about yourself is true, I’ve noticed that women who define themselves by their husband’s wealth act as though they feel an inner emptiness and purposelessness, as everything about them is defined by someone else and they’re seeking for their own self worth.
Is this what’s motivating these status-affirming posts?

FrostyPalms · Today 17:12

For me, a treat is something that is not a daily occurrence, which brings me pleasure, and isn't necessary for my health and wellbeing. The cost isn't relevant. And what this definition means has definitely changed at each stage of my life. When my kids were little a cup of coffee in a cafe by myself would have been a huge treat. These days that's not such a big deal for me. But a drink in a bar with my grown daughter is now a really big treat!

Nowadays it could be a day at the beach, a glass of wine with a bowl of crisps, a chocolate bar or dessert, a meal in a nice restaurant, sitting in the shade on a beautiful day... So many things would count as a treat for me, but it's very individual.

coulditbeme2323 · Today 17:12

SixtySomething · Today 17:12

@coulditbeme2323 , I ‘m genuinely interested to know why you’re making these posts.
If what you portray about yourself is true, I’ve noticed that women who define themselves by their husband’s wealth act as though they feel an inner emptiness and purposelessness, as everything about them is defined by someone else and they’re seeking for their own self worth.
Is this what’s motivating these status-affirming posts?

Yes it is.

Please validate me oh wise one.

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DarkForces · Today 17:17

A meal out: every time! Someone else does all the work and I enjoy
Coffee: small treat. I rarely buy them out
Chopping board: depends if I'm upgrading! I have boring plastic ones (not a treat) and an olive one that no one is allowed to chop on because I'm an idiot and want it for displaying things because it was a treat!

Anything that reduces drudgery is a treat!

Daisy12Maisie · Today 17:25

A spa day would be a treat. Something I would do for a birthday.

Buying new clothes would be a treat as I do it so rarely and would prioritise doing something nice rather than having nice and my budget doesn’t stretch to both.

Im really short of cash at the moment and I would like my hair cut and coloured and my eyebrows and eyelashes tinted but there is no way I can stretch to that at the moment so that would be a treat.

I am going to yoga before work tomorrow, which I consider something nice but not really a treat as I do pay gym membership monthly so go to lots of classes.

So in conclusion I usually look a wreck but do nice things as my budget means it’s one or the other!

I don’t buy coffees out. I find it annoying walking around with them. I know you can sit down but I just don’t.

I meet friends for lunch sometimes. I would consider that a treat.

goldylock · Today 18:26

coulditbeme2323 · Today 16:52

Probably best we stop engaging then.

Yea, yet you keep replying.

Asserting your dominance, as well as your stupid thread topics?

TheBlueKoala · Today 18:32

@coulditbeme2323 Is there a minimum price for you in order to consider it a treat? If yes, I think you're poor.

XenoBitch · Today 18:45

To me, cut flowers. I get some every so often for myself.
They don't serve any practical function other than to be a bit of brightness in my house.

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