My husband has taken my diazepam, again!!

[Givenup2026]

This is at least the second time that it has happened. My GP is very kind that they give me 6 pills very much every now and then that I use when to relax as a “one off “. They’re great, and genuinely maybe I’ve taken like 12 pills in my entire life.

anyway I’ve just discovered my husband took my whole stash at some point because of “hip pain”. The irony is don’t even work for him!!!! I’m furious!!

I would phone my GP and explain that he's done so and ask for more.

I'd also be questioning him on his drug use - Diazepam is valium. It's not a pain killer and won't work for his so called 'hip pain'. He's taken them to get high.

Wow. I’d be fucking furious. Not least because benzo’s aren’t painkillers, secondly they’re a controlled drug!

does your GP really prescribe them just so you can “relax”?

Like I said, controlled drug and you usually need a good reason for them. I’ve had them for flying anxiety years ago but now that isn’t a good enough reason. But you get them just so you can “relax”?

Totally out of order. I’d be fuming, as he’s left you in pain. He needs to see the GP if he wants pain relief.

What do you mean you take them to relax?
no GP is giving a controlled drug for recreational use

I did tell my GP last time it happened, I’m thinking they’ll refuse to prescribe again out of concern. Which wouldn’t be unfounded and frankly I wouldn’t blame them either.

and yes my husband has done drugs in the past but in theory has “self control”.

Honestly no one should be getting diazepam especially not to just "relax" but your husband has taken them to to abuse or sell

He hasn’t got self control though has he? There are controlled drugs in the house and he’s helped himself without prescription. That is not self control.

So I’ve found that when I get very stressed (once during COVID) and once when I was on the brink of divorce 3 pills made the world of a difference.

they shut down like my “bubbling” mind. In 8 years I’ve only been prescribed it 4 times. So it’s not like I’m abusing them either.

YANBU in future don't tell your dh you've been prescribed them.

Have you never heard of the word ‘relax’ used in connection with high anxiety or stress? (With certain types of muscular pain, too).
It’s a leap tobhit ‘recreational use’ as your starting point.

I doubt they'll precribe them again. Or at least only give you one.

Especially as it's happened before. You should of hidden them after the first time.

And he didnt take them for his hip!

Has your DH apologised?

Well.... he clearly doesn't have any control selfish bastard.

I hid my following prescription after he took them, but this time as there been more than a few years since the last incident I thought he would have respected my medicine.

Yea but a very “I don’t even know why I did it…”

Keep your special drugs locked away and hidden somewhere. In your locked car is a good place for example. How could you leave controlled drugs around for a "former" user to snaffle anyway?

I for once thought I was dealing with an adult… I genuinely just want to punch him.

So selfish! He stole them from you so you don’t have the medication you need when you need it. If you do get more, dont tell him and find the best hiding spot because you cannot trust him to put your needs first.

also tell your GP

I’d be absolutely incandescent. I’d hide all medication, he sounds like he’s taken it ‘just because’ not for any good reason. Is he aware of how important it is for you? I’m assuming so.

I’ve made it clear that to me , it’s almost a medical
drug, and I need it very much every now and then, but when I need it, I need it, and most importantly I use it responsibly.

massive red flag to the relationship. Lack of trust

I think you should be on the edge of divorce again but go through with it and rather than rely on benzos research grounding methods and find a therapist. It will end much better.

Sounds like you could do with one of those tablets right now OP.

Why do you think he took them OP?

It's true that benzos can provide some pain relief because they can act to relax a muscle that's gone into spasm.

Do you believe that's why he took them? All of them?

Or is it more likely that he took them because they gave him a pleasant buzz (given his history of taking drugs).

And he didn't tell you - why not?

And he was seemingly unable to stop himself until he had taken them all - not for the first time by the sounds of things?

I would say that your partner has a problem with drugs that needs treatment. You shouldn't have to lock your medicine away because you fear your partner might take it without telling you.

I wouldn't be prepared to allow him to brush this off.

Therapy isn’t really for me, I always end up more frustrated and on edge. My own methods work wonderfully, apart from when I get “stuck” which the diazepam has worked wonderfully - I think the specific term is “lucidity”.