To be emotionally attached to a car

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I know I’m probably being unreasonable but my husband is thinking of changing his car. We’ve had lots of road trips and fun with it and it’s more of a lifestyle car. I really don’t like the car he’s thinking of swapping it for and have said so. Third world problem I know but I’m genuinely upset that this car and lifestyle may be changing. I also think I’m also possibly bordering being controlling which I hate. Has anyone else become very emotionally attached to a car. For context no deal has been done but the thought of it possibly going is upsetting.

Yes very much so. Mine was bought late in my 30s, my first car and I was a late learner only because I'd lived in London zone 2 and never learnt or needed a car.
Then came a move to rural place and subsequent divorce.
I learnt to drive for my DC and I.
I had that car ten yrs and absolutely cried my eyes out when she had to go. Wasn't viable to keep fixing.

I felt like crap.

I totally understand how you feel. I drove the same model of car for 18 years, I had 2 during that time. We had so many family holidays, road trips, fun, always filled with kids, dogs, grannies … it was a big, safe model that fitted us all in and never let is down. Until it did let us down and would cost a fortune to repair. Outgrown and with DC both driving it took me months to come to terms with not having it anymore.

Absolutely. I’m so glad to find people the same!

I cried on the way to trade in my last one, were considering changing mine now and a friend has said they’d like to buy mine but the thought of seeing it around here potentially not being looked after has me a mess at the thought.

DHs last car had so so many road trip and dog outing memories, but it went to scrap and I could deal with that better.

My very first car went to a scrap dealer last week. I was fine until they turned up to take it. Went back inside the house and just cried 😢

I have not felt this but you feel how you feel, it’s ok. Could you not take on his car if you like it so much?

Sorry to be that guy but I can’t resist pointing out that this is a first world problem, not a third!

I think you mean “first world problem” but I totally get where you’re coming from - I was quite attached to our old car as like you we had lots of special trips with fab memories attached. The new car is more practical for city driving and less “fun”!

I was with my first car, lots of memories with kids and road trips, named her etc and then had to scrap her - was so sad! The woman on the phone said the same upset happened with another customer because she had given birth in her car, so she was actually crying giving it up (I dont know if I could have scrapped my car if it was my child's birthing place lol).
Then ended up a driver for my dad's motability car and it was a BEAUT - unusual colour, limited edition as automatic drive etc. Got the lease extension to the full 5 years because I kept trying to get them to sell me her! (This car was also named) they wouldn't sell and she got transferred to down south (Im North) but I found the car online!! Unfortunately the price they wanted was unjust (v.low milage) so I gave up and let her go... regret? Yes because I loathe new cars now and all this nonsense tech as standard like speed limit warnings every 2 seconds / automatic lane assist after a certain speed and if you turn it off - it goes on again next time! I miss old cars.

I couldn’t as we’d need to trade it in to use as a deposit.
I realised I’d typed third instead of first and couldn’t change it.

Yes I do. I realised I typed third instead of first and couldn’t change it.

absolutely and whenever i see a car similar to my last one, which died, i am sad
and dh car he has had for 20 years but really sitting gathering rust and moss and needs money

Had ours for 14 years from new, did 130k miles….. was so sad when we finally traded it in a month ago. Children entered it as babies and left as teenagers ….We took a last photo with it 😂

fly high Big Blue 😭

No. Not at all.
I have happy memories of trips in previous cars, but each time a car was changed it was because it was costing too much to keep it on the road and it was getting to the point that I was concerned about reliability.

So, for me the practical considerations over-rode anything else.

I notice you said his car. Do you drive it?

Not my car but my best friend’s. It was a people carrier and had to be scrapped. We are both single parents with 5 teens between us and we had countless good times (also arguments) and UK and European holidays in that car as the kids were growing up.

When it came to be picked up we all gathered round it and had a ‘ceremony’ (of sorts) all standing around the car one by one telling it our favourite memory in the car.

We did it as a kind of joke but when it came to it being towed away we were all really emotional. So I completely get it!

Yes I do. I have my own car but we hop between the two. His is more the fun car.

Just bear in mind that, like partners, cars will eventually break down, become unreliable, cost a fortune to keep performing, decay, stop working and eventually become totally unnattractive compared to a new model.

Move on and don't look back.

Yes the first car I bought and drove the day I passed my test and 2 years later needed a family car, I was so upset not even the shiny new ones dh took my to see made up for that

We tend to keep our cars a long time so do tend to get a bit attached. DH has had one of his for 40 years, another for 30.

No.
It's a thing. It can't love you back.

We had our last car for 19 years.,it was awful leaving it imay the garage when we picked up our new one. We both felt the same.

Yes I had my last car for 12 years and many great memories with it. I was very upset when I scrapped it because we needed the space for it's replacement. It was very old by that point and had lived a full life.

I was very emotionally attached to our car, aged about 6. Can still remember its registration number and I am now nearly 68. I am also very emotionally attached to my current car, which I have had since 2004. We have driven nearly 450k km together.
I probably need therapy.

😂