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Work related - grievance

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Holidaymodeon · 07/06/2026 09:30

Hi, posting here for traffic!
Writing a grievance, ACAS has advised it but won’t read it prior to sending.
Can’t go to citizens advice as it is linked to my work…
is there a legitimate organisation who will read my grievance prior to sending?
it is long and covers so many issues in multiple areas, primarily disability discrimination, bullying and poor, possibly illegal practices but I am conscious I am coming from a place of high stress and emotion as well as sick with pain and don’t want to write a sprawling document that might be overkill and not taken seriously.
I’m neurodivergent and have been told I give too much info and find it really hard to pare down whilst maintaining the importance of the grievance.

thank you

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RoseField1 · 07/06/2026 09:31

Put it through chatgpt but tell it not to change the wording, just give you feedback on strengths and areas to change.

Inmysportsmumera · 07/06/2026 09:33

join a union - they are normally only around £7-£10 per month. They will help you

Quine0nline · 07/06/2026 09:35

HeidiAI as well.

Darker · 07/06/2026 09:35

Unions (well, my union) won’t help with a pre-existing issue.

Can you get a friend to read it through?

Motnight · 07/06/2026 09:36

Op can I ask, have you posted about this before?

Tinglylips · 07/06/2026 09:37

Of course you can go to citizens advice. Strictly confidential

Tinglylips · 07/06/2026 09:38

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ProudCat · 07/06/2026 09:39

Your union. Won't deal with pre-existing stuff

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ExtraOnions · 07/06/2026 09:41

Are you the poster that was let go during probation? I think you said it was due to lack of adjustment being made for your ND.

Tinglylips · 07/06/2026 09:45

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HoraceCope · 07/06/2026 09:46

Darker · 07/06/2026 09:35

Unions (well, my union) won’t help with a pre-existing issue.

Can you get a friend to read it through?

that is what i understand also

Tinglylips · 07/06/2026 09:48

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Holidaymodeon · 07/06/2026 09:49

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lol that is not me! I have seen these posts, completely different, check the username and posting history.
please don’t derail my genuine request

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Holidaymodeon · 07/06/2026 09:50

HoraceCope · 07/06/2026 09:46

that is what i understand also

Thank you, I will ask a friend, it is huge, I don’t want to impinge on anyone’s time, hence seeking professional but I’ll take any help I can get!

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Holidaymodeon · 07/06/2026 09:52

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Please don’t derail the thread. I am not that poster. I am a poster with a genuine grievance who can’t use the usual routes because my role is interlinked, plus we don’t have a union. Please note my username is not the same as the other poster , neither is my posting history

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Holidaymodeon · 07/06/2026 09:53

ExtraOnions · 07/06/2026 09:41

Are you the poster that was let go during probation? I think you said it was due to lack of adjustment being made for your ND.

No, I’ve not been let go, I am not that poster, more than one person can have a work issue, I’m still employed but the relationship with my boss has broken down irreparably and not just because of my disability. Please note username and posting history, these comments are just derailing my genuine query

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KimMumsnet · 07/06/2026 09:53

Hello, all. Please avoid derailing this thread. Although we can never vouch for any poster, we have no reason to suspect OP is spamming or misleading people with her thread here, so please avoid breaking our Talk Guidelines when you reply.

Samewrinklesnewname · 07/06/2026 09:55

Is this something ACAS could help with?

Lovesacake · 07/06/2026 09:56

In my experience the longer a grievance is the worse it is. It’s best to keep the main body of the grievance as succinct as possible, ideally using bullet points to make it clear what your specific complaints are. Then attach any supplementary information/evidence as appendix items. Also be very clear about what outcome you are seeking, I.e what steps can your employer take to resolve this for you.

Holidaymodeon · 07/06/2026 09:58

Samewrinklesnewname · 07/06/2026 09:55

Is this something ACAS could help with?

Hi, as in my original post, ACAS are supporting to an extent but won’t read the grievance prior to my sending it, it is not the way the process works, they’ve just advised me to follow the employer process and then once grievance etc has been taken into consideration they can get involved.

I can’t ask CA because we work together an it’s a small town, word gets around, bosses are friends and I know how this works.
sadly not in a union, I was naive and believed everything I was told, a case of be careful what you wish for…

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Holidaymodeon · 07/06/2026 10:00

Lovesacake · 07/06/2026 09:56

In my experience the longer a grievance is the worse it is. It’s best to keep the main body of the grievance as succinct as possible, ideally using bullet points to make it clear what your specific complaints are. Then attach any supplementary information/evidence as appendix items. Also be very clear about what outcome you are seeking, I.e what steps can your employer take to resolve this for you.

Thanks, I think part of the issue is a don’t know what i actually want. Even if they did make all the promised adjustments recommendations from ATW, I don’t think I can continue with the boss, a real nasty character, big fish small pond, high staff turnover but talks a good talk to the board and all looks good on paper.
people are scared of the boss but none of them have disabilities so can get through.
Senior manager has ignored my request for support.

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Holidaymodeon · 07/06/2026 10:01

Lovesacake · 07/06/2026 09:56

In my experience the longer a grievance is the worse it is. It’s best to keep the main body of the grievance as succinct as possible, ideally using bullet points to make it clear what your specific complaints are. Then attach any supplementary information/evidence as appendix items. Also be very clear about what outcome you are seeking, I.e what steps can your employer take to resolve this for you.

In terms of length, what would you say is ‘too long’?

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ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 07/06/2026 10:03

What support and adjustments are you asking for ?

rwalker · 07/06/2026 10:05

Inmysportsmumera · 07/06/2026 09:33

join a union - they are normally only around £7-£10 per month. They will help you

No they won’t absolute piss take to join just be you need them
it like insuring your house after it’s burnt down and trying to to claim

they won’t deal with existing issues and rightly so