AIBU to feel rage over tupperware?

[westmommy]

DH has a wildly irritating way of emptying the dishwasher...

When it comes to tupperware and fiddly little things to put away (eg. toddler cup lids, lemon juicer, food processor compartments etc.) instead of putting things back in their appropriate cupboard, he just creates a mountain of mess on the drying rack and leaves it "for later" i.e he can't be arsed to finish it properly and instead creates an impossible mess and extra task for me to do before I can tidy up all the other mess leftover from meals/general food cooking/dishes!

We have had the discussion (argument) about this many times. I've asked him to stop doing it, literally leave the stuff in the dishwasher instead of just creating another immediate task that must be done before everything else can be cleaned up. It's SO annoying first thing in the morning to start the day with this big pile of plastic mess and something to do simply because he can't finish the task. His response is if this is my biggest problem with him, aren't we lucky. He's worried if the dishwasher is open too long our children might hurt themself on the door?! It's simply not that big a deal etc etc.

But I am so fed up with him blatantly doing something he knows really fucking pisses me off, plus he's literally going out of his way to create a whole other bigger task for later and me to do than just doing it all quickly in the first place!

But those things never dry in the dishwasher, so you do need to put them out to dry before putting them away?

Sorry I'm with your dh. We place all the plastic bits on the drainer to dry.

Ooooh think how petty you could be. Put the pile of stuff in his bed, or in his sock drawer. 🤣

His reasoning about the door makes no sense, as he could just leave it in there and shut the door?

I'm with you OP. Rage against this awful system. Every time you do something for him, do it half arsed and then say if that's his only problem with you he's so very lucky 😇

I put them on the drying rack too!! The water catches in the lid bits, I empty the dishy in the morning and leave them to dry all day and put them away in the evening if DH doesn't do it first.

Jesus this would infuriate me. My DH opens all packaging as if he is a grizzly bear - cereal boxes torn in half etc - and I find that maddening enough.

I would just stop doing the clearing up then if he asks why I’d say “because I need the drying rack, as mentioned a million times”. Lather rinse repeat for the rest of your life.

Yeah they're too wet, they need to go on the rack. I hate it too, but 🤷‍♀️

So for context - we live in a little flat with not much worktop/sink space. I often just empty everything form DW first thing in morning with a teatowel after it's been on the evening before and everything's mostly dry in it overnight. Everything isn't totally soaked, anything that is a little damp could surely just be tea towel dried to get the job done there and then instead of creating an eyesore and mess in our little kitchen...? Although annoying I am laughing at a few PP's agreeing with him and the one about putting it all on his side of the bed - v petty but that exact thought crossed my mind earlier tonight - HA!

I tend to dry items like that while coffee is brewing in the morning. If I cba then I toss all the containers into the side of the sink with the drying rack and ignore for a few hours.

FWIW The thread title is misleading. The "Tupperware" isn't the source of the rage. 🤔

i do this too! The water doesn’t evaporate off plastic so all those bits go on the drainer when I empty the DW. Sometimes I dry them with a tea towel but not normally.

Snap!

Ha we have the box thing going on here too drives me mad

Totally. There's always a pile of half-dry plastic on the counter right by our dishwasher. He's being really normal.

Oh come on gals. Life is too short. Just put the wet cups in the cupboard. Life your life!

I am quite a neat freak and we always put the plastic stuff on the drainer to air dry whilst all the other stuff gets put away. The plastic stuff seems to hold water more than everything else and who has time to dry all the nooks and crannies in the morning rush? Things would end up being put away damp which isn't ideal.

About the dishwasher door being left open… I read a book when I was 13 about a lady who tripped over the dishwasher door which was left open by her husband and became a quadriplegic. 😬

@westmommy

There I book I picked up from on here called this is how your marriage ends by Mat Fray.

It maybe worth buying him a copy. It’s a good read for a fella

The vote is a bit odd, as most of the comments are agreeing that your dh is the normal one and YABU to get the rage over your dh doing the same thing that we all do.

I use the drying rack for plastic too. They can be hard to get properly dry with a towel- water gets caught in the corners and then when you go to use them water drips.

Sorry, OP. I can't relate. I have stacks of plastic on the island, which I let sit for an hour or so, because if I try to put it all up straight from the dishwasher, water trapped in the lids etc goes all over the floor, down the sides of the cabinetry and into the cupboard. Nightmare. I don't want to stand there and dry the gaps of the plastic lids, either. I'd rather drink coffee and let it air dry and come back when nature has done the work for me.

How is putting it on tea towel different from putting it on the drying rack??
and why do you need to immediately clear it away preventing you from doing anything else?
do you have OCD? You are sounding very rigid

Slightly off topic, but I NEVER put anything made of plastic in the dishwasher. I'm very sensitive to smell and taste and I find that any plastic item that has been put through the dishwasher comes out stinking, and then anything that has been stored in it is disgusting.

When my DH washes up by hand he just stacks everything on top of each other in the drying rack - there is no method at all and it is really difficult for things to dry properly and even more difficult to get things out of the pile without things falling everywhere. I HATE it. I will not, now, ever empty the drying rack of he has stacked it. Therefore I will not, now, ever do the hand washing up unless he has taken off everything that he has stacked on the drying rack first. I can get 3 times the stuff on it that he does, simply by washing up in a logical order and by putting things on there neatly. For instance - I don't wash a big saucepan first and then try to play plastic container Jenga on top of it. I am autistic, and probably have an element of OCD, so this is something that REALLY bothers me!

Don't get me started on the piles of stuff that get left on the kitchen worksurface instead of being put away. I frequently have to ask him if things are clean or dirty because they have just been left in random places!

So now everything he moans about forever you can say 'arent you lucky that's all you have to moan about '

I'm with the pile it on his side of the bed team.

I find weaponized incompetence extremely unattractive.

I always put plastic bits like this to drain as I empty the dishwasher… they are too fiddly to dry up by hand… then about an hour later when it’s drip dried I put it away.

I find weaponized incompetence extremely unattractive.

It's not "weaponised incompetence" though. If you've read through the replies, the majority have pointed out they do the same as it is logical and more efficient.