AIBU to think a birthday scratch card win was harmless fun?

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It was my daughter’s birthday this week, and I got her a scratch card just for a bit of fun.

She ended up winning £100 from a £5 card.

I mentioned it to a friend, but she felt quite strongly that she’d never let her child do anything like that, as she sees it as gambling.

It felt a bit over the top to me, to me it was just a harmless bit of fun for a special occasion....

Is she being over top?

you really think if you essentially gave one kid 100k for her birthday and theo there one got a losing card that their relationship would be perfect, your son would just sweetly shrug his shoulders and declare he's just happy for her?

I think of you have more than 1 kid, the issue is the possible disparity. your Mom buys two raffle tickets, your sister gets a book or some toiletries or a toy and you get nothing. your sister gets 100k and you get nothing.
even with op giving the kids £200 pocket money a noth, that's gonna create a huge difference in their lives

@Fidbdfbhonestly these replies some of them need to get a life yes buying your daughter a scratch card for any occasion is fine. It’s a bit of fun. And well done to her For winning 100 quid that’s a story she’s going to remember forever at Christmas we always buy random scratch cards or put scratch cards in our Christmas crackers and for all the children too usually the £1 ones they all love it the thrill of it and I doubt they’re gonna grow up to be a regular at gamblers anonymous either! How amazing for her have won that money hopefully she decides to use it to take her mum for a nice lunch when she can spend it out at the shops and as for your friend maybe she should keep her opinions to herself. Everyone raises their children differently and if she feels quite strongly that shouldn’t never let her child do anything like that then maybe she should let her angel 13 year-old out with a spy cam to see what she really gets up to.
Some people are very precious about their children honestly if I was you stop asking for opinions and enjoy sounds like right fun and I bet your daughter can’t wait to go and Brag to her friend she won £100 on scratchcard good luck to her! Also sidenote your grandad won the lottery. She might have that good luck charm too! 😉

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We were doing the local council scratch cards in the 1990s. So I must have been 5 or 6. Our crazy mother did snatch the card off us when we won £50 once. These were 50p scratchies were 50p each.

When we came of age, my parents bought me and my siblings a scratchcard for our birthday. We loved it. We didnt win anything but i remember thinking ill do that with mine and i will. Its fun. Your friend sounds jealous tbh and maybe the fact your daughter won £100 helped fuel it. I hope she enjoys her winnings. I was waiting for you to say that your friend thought your daughter should pass the winnings back. Dont let anyones judgement interfere with your life and decisions. You helped make her birthday even more wonderful.

My Nan used to get us lotto tickets and scratch cards for our bdays as a little extra! I’m not a raving gambler now. Jeez your friend was well over the top imo! What if someone bought her daughter one, and she won big.., Is she saying she wouldn’t take the money? I think not!

I’ve bought scratch cards for all my kids since they were small (always in their Xmas sack). It’s a bit of fun in my opinion

I think it's great OP and I hope she enjoys her win. The pearl clutchers are out in force today!

She didn't need to think it through because it didn't happen.

Basically you bought the card, therefore officially you have won £100. Therefore there is no issue whatsoever. If you give her £100 it is just a gift from you to her. Ridiculous to suggest you may be encouraging gambling 🙄

I wasn't given scratchcards but I do remember putting 20p bets on the grand national with my family when I was mid teens. I don't play the lottery, but I've been to bingo a couple of times and sometimes I like to play roulette at the local casino. I usually come away with slightly more than I started with because I prefer to quit while I'm ahead. The most I've ever lost in one night is £50, but as I'm a member, they recently gave me a free £20 bet. I walked away with £63 that night. I'm sensible with my gambling. I often see men handing over hundreds of pounds to the croupier. That's not sensible!

Next posters will be suggesting your DD will demand a huge birthday cake for every day of the year just because she got one on her birthday. The people I know who gamble also drink and smoke. They have addicted personalities. I don’t think a one off birthday treat will hurt.

It's harmless. Your friend is over reacting. My parents would always let us do the lotto growing up for our birthday. It's pretty common. All my friends parents did the same.

she is being so far over the top, she can probably see the Great Wall of China from space.

its how children learn about winning and not winning.

Ignore all the posters being pains in the arses

it’s just a bit if harmless fun

My Grandad used to put a get in the Grand National for all us Grandchildren when we were younger. None of us are gamblers.

Some really ridiculous posts on this thread

sorry Op

Friend is just jealous!! It’s just a bit of fun and I bet your daughter was over the moon. Your friend sounds odd

It’s called life
life isn’t fair
they will learn about resilience and that they can’t all be winners
bet you buy your non birthday child a present in their siblings birthday just because you don’t want them to feel left out
you will do your children no favours

The difference is you don't lose your stake on premium bonds.
(General financial advice re. premium bonds is the return is low)

The rules are here - scratchcard-winners.co.uk/player-guides/buy-scratchcard-age/

Too young, sorry. Fab present for an 18th though. These things can be addictive. It's really not a good time to start introducing them.

To my mind it is not leading them to gambling, but towards life where enjoyment of little bits of joy is everything. Gambling to destruction is an addiction. We used to take ours horse racing maybe a couple of times in a few years. We gave them the lowest stake for each race, one of them one 4 out of 5 races, the other won 1 or 2 races but the odds were higher. Neither of them gamble regularly, only when at the races, or for the Darby or Grand National.

Of course 13 is far too young to gamble!

Your friend is being ridiculous, as are many posters on here. Brilliant that she won!