In-laws: giving child choking hazard sweets!

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I’m sure I’ve made a post before with in-laws giving my 3yo mini eggs. This is after we have told them in the past that these are choking hazards for under 5’s after we found out they were giving them to our, now 8yo, when she was a toddler.

following this I hoped that it has stopped. However they have just brought both DD’s home from school and both were eating a boiled sweet, which again is obviously a choking hazard for young children. What is worse is that it was while they were in the car. And then they come home running around with the sweet in her mouth, luckily I was working from home today and made her spit it out once I realised, AIBU? How do I approach this issue once again? We do, unfortunately, rely on them with picking the girls from school then staying with them for 30-60mins until DH gets home. This is around 3 times a week. I just asked eldest DD how often they have these sweets and she has said every time 😫

also, in-laws stated years ago in conversation that they would not know what to do if DD choked while with them and that they would panic! So why do they give them known choking hazards!

I would print off some of the latest guidance and information. They won’t know about it.
And are doing what grandparents have often done. Given their grandchildren sweets.

Head would be stopped by back of car seat. Sweet stopped at back of windpipe.

Actually, just being in the car minus the boiled sweets is more dangerous. Over the last 5 years around 60 children have died in car crashes, whereas there have been around 15 deaths by choking.
So statistically, the grandparents should not be driving the children to and from school at all.

I don't know?? We grew up in a different time where 40 kids out of billions wasn't really something to get worked up about. Anyway, the questions been answered, so I appreciate you taking the time.

Umm, right!!? Anyway, I said I'm leaving because I lack the understanding of it all and have nothing constructive to add. APART from, neurotic or otherwise, I think grandparents should try to honour mums wishes (even if they are a bit...) out of respect for the relationship which I guess should be pointed out.

Those people sneering at this post are clearly fortunate enough to have never witnessed someone choke to death! Let me tell you it is a horrific experience for them and everyone involved. I am team absolutely no lollipops, boiled sweets or unsliced fruit and veg for my child and any in my care. I have read up on the different choking methods for different ages/sizes but it’s also well known most parents etc panic/freeze when it’s their own child. Be honest with the in laws tell them it’s your rule no choking hazard foods, show them some of the stories etc and ask them to learn the basic first aid steps x

I choked on a boiled sweet in the car as a child and I still remember how scared I was
my mum was pulling out of a side road and had to brake heavily and it went to the back of my throat and got lodged. She thumped me on the back heavily several times and it flew out
haven’t eaten one since

People who say "there are worse hazards" every time anyone points out a hazard are idiots.

Most decent parents and grandparents try to reduce risks to their children/grandchildren rather than playing russian roulette with some boiled sweets and a three year old.

There are loads of sweets and snacks that aren't a choking risk so why wouldn't the grandparents give those to their three year old grandchild?

Any age can choke but it's highest in the under 5's. Lollipops and boiled sweets can be dangerous for young children, but then they can choke on anything. A two year old choked on a single pea and died in a creche.

The grandparents should respect the OP's decision though it might be a good idea for OP to give suggestions on what the grandparents can give their grandchildren if they want to treat them.