To finally feel happiness!!!!

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Im happy!! After worrying I never would be, I finally am. I was abused throughout childhood by my mum (verbal abuse and neglect) and I’ve had a really troubled life after that. But I am now married with children and today, I feel so much joy.

I spent the day with my DD aged 9 (my youngest). It is a total rarity for it to just be me and her. We did lots of fun things, and at one point, we were painting together. She looked at me and said “mum, we’re having so much fun today, aren’t we?” I know that for others, this might not mean so much. But this is everything I ever hoped for. To be able to give that joy to my own child, and to share in it with her.

I was putting her to bed one night and we had read a story featuring a ‘wicked stepmother’. She said “some people actually can have bad mums, did you know that?? I’m lucky”. I literally welled up. She doesn’t know, and probably never will know, what I have been through, and how much these words have filled me with joy. Yes, I am sad that I never got to be that girl, who felt that way… but being able to be that person for her, it’s all I could ever want.

I know this isn’t an AIBU, but it’s something I can’t share irl, as I don’t tend to discuss my childhood. I hope you don’t mind me sharing.

for those of us who have suffered as I have, there can be true joy ahead! ❤️

I am so happy for you .
As a mom i absolutely cannot get my head around how any mother can abuse the most precious , important thing they will ever have.
You sound like the kind of mom any child would love to belong to.
She is lucky to have you as her mother , you are lucky to belong to each other.
I wish you and your family the very best you deserve it ❤

Yay!!! This is a lovely story 💚 you can let your little girl (yourself) free now! And I totally agree its those little things with our kids that makes life euphoric! Well done OP xxx

That is so lovely to read xx

You deserve every bit of love and joy your children bring. I’m sorry little you didn’t have that, but I’m so glad you have it now ❤️
Dont just be grateful, be proud of yourself for being the mum little you deserved xxx

This is such a lovely post 🥰

That is so lovely. You created that loving and safe childhood for the kids. The safe part is you OP.

This is so lovely and warming to read. I think you became the mother that you needed when you were a child. Thats a huge gift to your children x

That's beautiful, I'm happy for you OP. Making your kids feel safe is amazing.

This is so lovely 🥺❤️

Congratulations to you, op, on a beautiful life

That is really lovely. I know what you mean when you realise that your children are having a great time - because of you! And the fun days painting orwhate er are the nice memories we carry with us to adulthood.

You sound like a wonderful Mummy. Enjoy your happiness.

This is really lovely, thank you for sharing xxxx

Brilliant. You are obviously an amazing mother. Thanks for sharing your lovely story.

Happy that you are happy, OP. Wishing you all the very best.

Awwww OP. You sound like you have given your children a safe, emotionally secure and happy childhood. A lovely nurturing mum. Well done xxx

I am so pleased for you.

I read once that parenting can be incredibly healing for your inner child. In parenting your child in the way that you wish you had been raised, you also meet the needs of your inner child who has waited your whole lifetime to be mothered that way. By meeting the needs of your child, you also give your inner child the love and security they craved. I'm not generally one to believe in that sort of thing. But it really resonated with me.

I am happy. I'm being treated for breast cancer, I'm old and decrepit, my husband has prostate cancer (luckily not needing treatment at the moment) and we don't have much money because I had to retire before I got my state pension. But I'm happy. I live with the love of my life, in a comfortable house with no mortgage, and I am happy.

Nothing comes close to the feeling that you are a positive force in someone's life, especially your children. You may not have been that little girl but being able to be part of your daughter's happy little world will help with your own healing. Well done you, you deserve all the happiness and your daughter is a lucky little girl. Xx

You broke the cycle op. You’ve been able to behave in positive, loving way, even though this was never modelled or shown to you. That is HUGE and an enormous achievement. Enjoy every moment of your well deserved happiness xx

This is such a lovely post! Thank you for sharing.

The world can seem full of doom and gloom, so this was lovely to read. I'm glad you've found peace and have a family full of joy and love ❤️