AIBU in worrying that my son’s trip with his “friend” isn’t so innocent

[JosieMay1970]

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

Ah OP you’re going to get eaten alive on here.
i just had a quick look at your username and seeing your other posts you seem maybe an anxious thinker?
if this situation with your adult son is genuinely worrying you then I honestly and kindly suggest you seek some therapy to help make your life more manageable. You won’t be doing anyone any favours with this level of inappropriate interfering in your sons life, there is probably a reason you feel the need to seek some kind of control over his actions.

None of your beeswax. 🤷‍♀️

I’m hoping the 1% reasonable was a mistake!
He’s 26, let it go!!

I wondered that. Who pays for them to act like perpetual children?

What, and I cannot stress this enough, THE FUCK are you posting this for? He's an adult man. I bet they will be fucking like animals, I certainly hope so, because that's entirely normal. Lucky devils to have a night of fun and escapism.

At that age I had a house and kids 😂 (Unless there's a huge drip feed, and he's developmentally delayed, or you are abusive and controlling to him?!)

You can't be serious. I had a mortgage at 26.

Omg he’s 26??! Does it matter if he’s in a room with them or not, he’s a grown adult and unless there is any underlying issue with him, he is free to do as he pleases!

He is an adult!

Sorry? He is 26??

It’s really non of your business what they may get up to.

sounds like he is gonna have a great weekend no matter what happens 👍

I can totally see your utterly valid and galvanising concern here. In your place, I should be donning a full-face Boris Johnson mask, hiding behind a ficus in the hotel lobby until they arrive, slipping the receptionist a fistful of Euro to get me into a neighbouring room, and stealthily listening through the wall with a copa de balon. Happy sleuthing!! 😎

I think they meant 16

In what universe is this any of your business?!

Not true. I have an 18.5 year old son. Next month I'm leaving him at home for 5.5 weeks while we go to Mongolia and China. He doesn't want to come as he wants to spend the summer with his girlfriend before he joins the Navy.

At 26 I'd already lived with an ex for 3 years, got engaged to my husband, had a toddler and had bought a house. Without my parents flapping about.

Being worried about your offspring is normal, but this is not normal behaviour.

*assuming any problems/deficits would have been mentioned.

Why are you concerned that your 26 year old son might be sharing a hotel room? Surely, by now, you’ve had the ‘talk’ with him about where babies come from, that safe sex isn’t just about birth control, that STI’s can be passed on by an individual who might not know they’re infected, that woman can get pregnant the first time they have sex, that he should respect his partner and have equal self respect????
FFS OP, get a grip! Not denying that you love your son dearly but set him free…….or lose him forever!

OMG stop being a dick and delete this post!!!

What exactly are you “concerned” about?

Can you think of any reason why he might not have mentioned any relationship details to you before? It’s pretty obvious from your post why.

Pop along with him to show him what to do if you're worried?

Did you mean to write 16?

If you meant 26 then you need to back off. At 26 I had traveled the world with my gf and already lived with her for 4 years. We got up to all kinds of things and wouldn’t have taken kindly to our parents butting in.

Is this a joke?

Has to be a wind up

Seriously?? He’s 26 if he wants to gang bang with the whole hotel, it’s non of your beeswax!!

If this is genuine and not a bridge lurker...we are witnessing the birth of the MIL from hell.

He is 26 @JosieMay1970

He is a fully fledged adult. WTF are you on for this to be an issue????

He's 26, none of your business really what he gets up to.

He is 26 for god sake. He can do whatever he wants with whoever he wants back off this is unhealthy

You sound like another one who needs to cut the bloody apron strings! Do I worry about my 27 year old, no because she is a capable adult!

My mum never worried about me as I too am a capable adult!

I hope both my kids have happy fulfilling sex lives - me and their dad have!