AIBU in worrying that my son’s trip with his “friend” isn’t so innocent

[JosieMay1970]

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

He's 26.

He’s 26: untie the apron strings and leave him alone. He’ll be fine

He is 26. It isn’t any of your business!

None of your business, respectfully.

26!?

He’s 26! Loosen your apron strings, for God’s sake.

Does it really matter? He's 26 not 16. Leave the poor man alone, let him have a bit of fun.

WTF are you worried about? He's 26! Keep your nose out!

And what's the concern if they are shagging exactly? He's 26 ffs.

I'd hope so at 26!

Sometimes, it's better to not know what your adult children are up to.

Unless there's a massive drip feed and he has a disability that makes him vulnerable to being taken advantage of, I don't get the issue

What is it you’re worried about?

Even if they were sharing a room, what exactly is it that you are worried about?

Does he call his Mummy and ask for silk pjamas to match his friends Tarquins?

Christ alive. If you're worrying about this I dread to think how you treat him in reality. He's 26, not 15!

Is there any reason why you’d be concerned at his age?

It really is his own private business OP. I hope he has a great trip. Please direct your energy elsewhere.

He's 26. It doesn't matter who he goes away with, or what room arrangements they have. Let's face it, if he lived away from home, OP, you wouldn't even know he was going.
This mature adult man is entitled to have a private life, FFS!

Unless he has mh issues, or seriously mentally impaired, it is none of your business. He can do, go, meet up, with anyone he wants to. Keep your nose out of his affairs.

Maybe there's a good reason he's not mentioned anyone to you before....

Leave your grown adult son alone to live his life, he's going to London for the weekend, a perfectly normal thing to do.

Whether it’s a platonic friend, a potential FWB situation or a fledgling relationship, be happy he’s getting out and doing something, spending time with someone and potentially having a lovely time. Presuming no SEN, he will be fine, he’s old enough to be aware of contraception and consent issues and even with no prior experience, has presumably been chatting online with this new friend. Leave him be and let him grow up! I was married with a kid on the way at his age ffs.

Intermittently 😂

Wtf have I just read!!!!

phone the hotel and demand to book the room between theirs so you can chaperone with a cup pressed against the wall. Who knows what grown adults might get up to otherwise.