AIBU in worrying that my son’s trip with his “friend” isn’t so innocent

[JosieMay1970]

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

Did you mean 16?

I was married with a child at 26… and I’d had plenty of experience before then, I can assure you 🤣

It wouldn't matter if it was a man
It's not illegal.

Does it matter at his age? I could understand you being worried if he was 16 but Christ he is old enough to do whatever he wants and why would he lie. You couldn't stop him even if you wanted to.

Are you ‘worried’ the friend is male?

What has it got to do with you? Nothing

hes an adult, leave him be and keep your nose out

🤣
Surely you are joking??
If not your son will drop you like a stone unless you stop micro parenting him - he’s 26!!!!!

He’s 26. He could be shagging his way round London (and I hope he is) and it would be none of your business.

Good grief, OP, if he wants to share a room with two other men and a llama, that’s his business. As a matter of interest, just how old do you think your DS needs to be before he can have some sort of private life - without his DM poking her nose in? I pity any girl or boy he does go out with - you’re setting yourself up to be the MIL from hell.

What does it matter? It's his business. He is an adult and not even a very young adult.
I don't understand what you are worried about.

Even with special needs, he still deserves a private life.

This is a joke surely?

Did you type "26" by accident? Is he 16? Even then, I don't think you need to be quite as concerned as you appear to be, a candid chat about condoms and consent should cover the bases with a 16 year old, I'd have thought.

You sure it's a woman?!
Anyway, none of your business. Sad he can't feel like he tell you about a love interest though.

Seriously Op? 🤦‍♀️

He's 26, it's none of your business. If this is serious you are way too involved

He’s 26. Leave him be.

Unless he's a vulnerable adult, I'm not sure you should be probing into this.

Let him have some fun. I'm assuming he knows about contraception?

Like hell have they booked single rooms! I hope they have a great time.

It’s got to be a typo and he’s 16- surely…

You said he never goes out. So why aren’t you happy that he’s made a friend and is socialising?

As for sharing a room – it’s none of your business! I’d be happy if my 26yo found a nice girlfriend or boyfriend. Isn’t that what most people want for their children?

Ye gods and little fishes he’s 26!!! Leave him alone !

Wow. He is 26!

2/10.
Try harder, OP.

I think it’s weird that two young guys travelling for a night out would book separate hotel rooms. At that age, Dh and his friends were definitely sharing rooms and probably a bed, as just needed a place to crash. None of them are gay if that’s what you’re worried about!

What have I just read? I hope you mean 16 and not 26 (not that that makes it better) jeez mate!! Do you need to hold his hand when he goes to the toilet too?

I predict this op will not be back