AIBU in worrying that my son’s trip with his “friend” isn’t so innocent

[JosieMay1970]

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

Why are you speculating about your 26 year olds sex life? I've got 2 sons in their 20s. I try very hard not to think about their sex lives.

Sadly OP hasn't been able to post again, as she's had to pop down to London - just to keep an eye on things...

Good grief!

Is this a wind up?

Pile up here. Hope OP understands what 99% means.

Golly OP, you sound unbearable. Your poor DS

First post says it all!
He's 26 for crying out loud 😁 I'm confused - what exactly are you worried about?

What are you worried or concerned about if they are more than friends?

At 26 him having the entire cast of cats over for a kitty kink fest in his hotel room would be none of your business...

Are you the reason he never leaves the house at 26? Cause it sounds like you are.

Ffs!! 🤦‍♀️

@JosieMay1970 where have you gone?

They might be planning a platonic weekend in galleries, they might be planning a shagging marathon. Either would be fine. Not sure why you are interested. Feels unhealthy on your part.

Seems weird to be that worried about it. I'm sympathetic if you're concerned he could end up getting her pregnant when you don't know her or believe even he knows her that well, but at 26 he has to make his own decisions.

What specifically are you worried might happen?

FFS what a disturbing post

OP sounds worryingly jealous

"He's never talked about a girl before"

I bet he hasnt😂

I like it!

You say that he's never talked about a girl before. Maybe it's a man he's meeting but just using a girl's name as a decoy!

Is the age correct or a typo?

I was married with two children at 26 - give it a rest

Chill out mum. He's an adult.

Surely this is a typo and he's actually 16?
Or it's a joke post?
Nothing else would make any sense..

OP, I think you’re afraid to lose your DS to a woman. He is an adult now, and it’s perfectly possible to have a good relationship with your son still. Of course we see MIL hatred on here, but not everyone is like that. My son’s partner is lovely, and yes I’m no longer as important in his life now he has her, but I love to see him happy, and this is the natural order of events, we raise our children, but they grow up and have their own lives.

Joke post, and a thumping good one too!

Are you worried that it might not be a girl he's going with or maybe somebody that he's met online - have you asked him who his friend is? Do you have conversations with him or does he just not engage with you for some reason? Has he ever had a relationship?