AIBU to consider a boob job after my boobs have given up the ghost…?

[Thatpastalife]

Debating a boob job… haven’t been to see a surgeon yet but would love to hear others experiances.
I DO NOT want porn star breasts, but breast feeding two children and losing alot of weight, I feel like all the tissue has gone from them and their mostly empty now. A sad state of breasty affairs. I’m 38 so not young particularly but they’re getting me down. I just want a bit more fullness and a natural shape. Would love to hear from others in the same boat or that have gone through it.
So AIBU -
do I consider this and see a surgeon
or Yabu- no surgery is not the answer…get a grip.

Of course YANBU. If you want a breast augmentation, get one. It’s your body. You don’t have to ask anyone for permission or their opinion. If it will improve your self esteem and confidence, go for it.
You could get a fat transfer and lift or full silicone implants.
Meet with a surgeon who will tell you your options and which would suit best for your wants.

Not same but similar to you. Had a breast reduction last year. Life changing. Go for it if you can afford it.

Go for it! Do your research and get recommendations but largely, if its done well by a well respected surgeon, it’s very safe and with brilliant results.

I had it done 15 years ago - have never regretted it 😀 I would just recommend making sure you get a Plastic Surgeon (rather than just a cosmetic one) - an NHS surgeon who does private work on the side.

I'm in the same boat and similar age, and honestly...I wouldn't bother were I you. After finishing breastfeeding a few years ago I was initially a little self-conscious of my breasts, but they look fine in a bra and my husband loves them without one, so who cares? What do you actually want it done for? Just so you like how they look when you're naked and looking at yourself? And why would you like them better if they're fattier and firmer? Because they'd look more like the breasts of a young woman who hasn't breastfed? More sexually appealing when displayed? It's worth unpicking that before you decide.

There's the tiny possibility you could die on the table and your children could lose their mum, the risk that it may turn out badly and not give the results you want, and the short term pain and discomfort, plus risk of noticeable scarring, numbness, or very rarely losing nipples (or 10 to 15% of the time, a permanent loss of the sensation in your nipples). You'd also need to plan for a second operation to potentially replace them in 10 to 15 years.

Additionally, you may well end up putting a lot of fat on your breasts during menopause, as 1 in 5 women do, and wish you hadn't bothered.

Invest in some good bras and give it a year or two before you make a decision, is my advice.

If you want it do it! But research thoroughly!

I had mine done eight years ago after breastfeeding and zero regrets - bloody love them!

I went subtle as I’m slim anyway so they’re not huge but full and look fantastic!

I am in favour of anything that gives you the ability to be more confident in your life. If this is something that plays on your mind, takes us too much thought and brain space, and makes you self-concious in your clothes which stops you being present at special times, then go for it. I'm saving up for a facelift at 60!

Id be wary because so many women are getting implant illnesses and having explant surgery now.

Apparently now there are more breast reductions than augmentations for the first time.

Go for it if it’s what you want!

After losing 10st and pregnancies I have recently had a breast lift and augmentation. I am thrilled with the results!

just research thoroughly.

If I wasn't so afraid of surgery I'd have given the twins a bit of TLC years ago. I'd say go for it. Just not in Turkey! And they will need redoing at some point. When I was looking into it they said every ten years. Donknow if that's still the case. But absolutely look into it. Boob jobs (normal ones) are the one cosmetic procedure that I think usually have fantastic results.

There goes my pocket full of sunshine . .

It depends on your finances. If you're rolling in money and the few £1000s it will cost won't impact life and fun with the kids, then if you want to go for it, then do it.

But there is more to life that whether your boobs fail the pencil test. Nothing wrong with getting old, and there are loads of decent bras out there. No one worth knowing will judge you on how pert your boobs are...

When did you stop breastfeeding? I only ask as after my youngest was born I felt the same but then about 3/4 years after they seemed to improve: i had also started going to the gym and that seemed to help.
Having said that if I had the money I would still have a boob job and I have looked into it but the recovery time is not feasible for me as I need my annual leave for school holidays

My best friend works as a personal injury lawyer and most of her customers are people who's boob job went wrong. There is a whole industry around it. Clearly this is a biased view, but:

• It's not without risk
• Long term follow up surgeries are common
• long term effects are still being researched

I wouldn't personally (despite also having much less full breasts after BF), because:

• I would worry about the long-term health implications.
• I would fear the small chance of dying during surgery, and leaving my children motherless merely for the pursuit of a more conventionally attractive body.
• the 'confidence' you think you'll get from them is not real self-esteem. You would still be allocating yourself worth based on appearance. Confidence should be based on the knowledge that you are a valuable human of equal worth to every other human. Your body is just a shell which houses the valuable part of you.
• I want to be one of the women who stands up to the beauty "standard", and helps normalise less-full breasts, grey hair, and so on. The more women that do this, the less other women will feel pressured to alter themselves to fit in.
• I can think of much better things to spend the money on.

No not worth it. Breast implant illness is rising and you have to keep having them done throughout your life so more surgery, recovery, expense. I've had 3 from age 18 to 36.. and used top surgeons. So much can happen to need more surgery, implant recalls, CC, bottoming out, pocket deformity, rupture etc aswell as breast implant illness. Don't do it

YANBU. I'm early twenties and have breastfed one child, but my boobs were already very saggy beforehand, despite not even being large.

I'm planning on a lift (no implants) when I'm done having children. Probably about 10 years from now!

Haha, apologies! It seems, just like breastfeeding, I'm great at deflating 😅

I haven't had kids and nor will I but I got a boob job four years ago after I lost too much weight due to a breakup. Put the weight back on but my boobs still looked like empty sacks.

I only had 200cc implants which although tiny is the biggest the surgeon would do due to having a really small frame. It took me to a 32DD which is what I was naturally before I lost the weight. Also had a donut lift. Not one single regret even after four years.

Fully recommend Mr Molajo who used to work at MYA in Preston - he's moved on now but if you google him it will tell you where

Yeah, that poster’s message felt quite shamey and judgemental. Glad “Otter”s husband likes the look of her breasts (ooookay, didn’t realise a man’s opinion should bear much weight in terms of what a woman does with her own body…) but I think the OP should make her own mind up for herself.

From my own experience and that of others I know, I’ve been surprised to discover that although what’s currently there may look “empty”, there is often enough tissue remaining to craft the shape you’re hoping for once the excess skin is removed and the breast tissue and nipple lifted into their original place. Before deciding, I would speak to a surgeon and see if an implant would even be required. A lift may be all that’s needed to achieve the look you desire.

I would ignore judgy mc judgypants posters… it’s your body and you have the right to do whatever you want with it. Those who are taking jabs at you likely are not as satisfied with their own appearances as they’d like to pretend they are, so they feel better to think other women should also make do with a body shape they aren’t happy with. It’s similar to the ladies who ‘don’t want you to get too skinny’ when you lose weight, etc. Misery often wants company but that’s not your problem, it’s theirs.

Did it? Why? What was shamey, or judgemental? OP asked for opinions, and I gave my thoughts on why I haven't done it, despite being in a similar situation. OP can, and should, do what she likes!

I mention my DH's opinion, because frankly, his opinion is the only one I care about. I don't care how my breasts look to Joe or Sue on the street - they can think they're awful, for all it matters to me. But I do like that my DH finds me attractive (I think we all prefer our significant others to be attracted to us). Obviously women shouldn't get surgery because their DH thinks so, but the fact that my husband loves my breasts made me wonder, 'who would I be trying to please, by getting surgery'? So yeah, again, just sharing my experience, as OP asked.

I mentioned some things to think about, the risks (which a lot of the time are downplayed, and while small, aren't so small if you're the unlucky one affected!) and said to wait a while before deciding - as if OP only finished breastfeeding recently, her breasts may regain some fullness over the next couple of years.

I think maybe your own feelings are leading you to feel judgement where there is none.

I am researching this currently. My breasts are one of my least favourite features now because they’re so empty now. I want to wait until I’ve reached my target weight though before doing anything about it so I know what I’m working with.

Like you, I don’t want Katie Price boobs but something natural and actually there would be nice.

These are mine ‘after’ it is helps, I don’t think they look particularly unnatural at all

I had a breast augmentation 17 years ago. No issues whatsoever and loved them. However, I am now 41 and I have gained and lost four stone in that time. I am now a size 6-8 and my boobs are far too big for my frame and have sagged slightly due to the weight loss. I am booked in for an uplift and new implants in November and I cannot wait. I did have 410cc and I am going to 270cc so they will be much smaller to suit my shape. I need an uplift mainly because I am having a smaller implant, so the skin needs to be removed and the tissue reshaped.

I didn’t really factor in having to get them redone at some point (it doesn’t need to be every 10 years, contrary to popular belief. I wouldn’t have mine redone if they weren’t too big for my body). My uplift and re augmentation is going to cost 12.5K here in the UK, so make sure you factor in they may need redoing at some point. I am now frantically saving!

Do it!
but do not go abroad and research your Dr throughly.
I had a lift and implants in January, best thing I ever did.
I’ve had 2 children and lost 7.5st so my boobs were saggy and deflated.
They now look completely natural and pert. Exactly what I wanted.
Go for it OP