AIBU to consider a boob job after my boobs have given up the ghost…?

[Thatpastalife]

Debating a boob job… haven’t been to see a surgeon yet but would love to hear others experiances.
I DO NOT want porn star breasts, but breast feeding two children and losing alot of weight, I feel like all the tissue has gone from them and their mostly empty now. A sad state of breasty affairs. I’m 38 so not young particularly but they’re getting me down. I just want a bit more fullness and a natural shape. Would love to hear from others in the same boat or that have gone through it.
So AIBU -
do I consider this and see a surgeon
or Yabu- no surgery is not the answer…get a grip.

The OP should do what she wants and ignore insecure ladies trying to shame her for caring about her appearance. Nothing to do with me. I’m very pleased with my looks and I hope the OP is pleased with whatever she decides.

Oh, absolutely! But no one is shaming her, just sharing their own experiences, as asked. Glad we're on the same page.

ETA: In fact, you appear to be the only one making digs here, so perhaps you should reflect on that. Anyway, I've given my thoughts.

I debated this over the years after having my first 2 dc when I was quite young. I’ve since had a third dc and put on weight and lost it again and am very glad I didn’t ever alter them.
My boobs were always small but they quickly became small, saggy and empty. I felt crap when naked and in swimwear.
At my largest weight they felt so out of proportion to my body but now I’ve lost it my frame is small and a balconette bra gives what I have a nice shape and small boobs suit me. Yeah I could have them lifted and filled out a bit but actually I’ve grown to embrace what I have.
All that said, this is YOUR body and YOUR choice and going and having a consultation to get some options of what could be done for you is a good starting step if you want to go down this route, you don’t have to commit to anything but it might help you come to a decision.

I had one at 18 (pcos and my boobs were AA, literally just nipples).

Never regretted it and love them. I had no self confidence before and refused to be intimate as I was so embarrassed by my natural ones. They’ve sagged slightly over the last 10 years after 2 kids but look more natural now.

Go for it. Never heard of fat transfer. Wonder if its safer?

I had mine done about 15 years ago. I found a very reputable surgeon through the British Association of Plastic Surgeons. I have really subtle implants because i always had small boobs anyway and I’m very small framed. I am really pleased with them, no regrets here.

I wouldn't, but it's no judgment about wanting to have them done - I researched it in the past and decided against it because of the number of women who have reported illnesses which they believe are linked to having implants. Also realising that you have to get them redone (I can't remember how long they last but it was less than I thought!)

@Runningswanker you don't need to get them redone now

Ah ok, it was a good few years ago that I was looking!

I find it quite sad that people do this to their beautiful bodies

And I was quite sad when I looked in the mirror and hated what I saw... much happier now. Each to their own

Absolutely not, it’s your body and some women get a lot of joy out of them. But, there are a number of women who regret it due to adverse health effects that often don’t manifest for several years.

You may well wish to research this before you proceed.

https://www.breastcancer.org/treatment/surgery/breast-reconstruction/types/implant-reconstruction/illness/breast-implant-illness

I had mine done at 39 after breastfeeding 2 babies for a total of 35 months. It left me with very saggy B cups with no volume and all bras fitted awfully and gaped. I went to a 32D. I am a size 8 and don't want to look ridiculous and in fact nobody has even noticed, although I don't keep it a secret. I went for teardrop shaped implants and they were inserted under rather than over the muscle, both of which make them look more natural. Going under the muscle is more painful though, I won't lie I was in quite a bit of pain for a couple of weeks. I had mine done by Mr Lam at the Thornbury at Sheffield, he also specialises in reconstructive surgery. He immediately put me at ease when I met him and completely understood what I wanted to achieve.

And I have never regretted it for a second.

Yes you do. Implants aren't lifetime devices unfortunately.

Im due to get my breast implants in 3 weeks. I have talked myself in and out of it for so long ! I am having one last consultation next week to be 100 percent sure and im also going to ask about fat transfer if it would be a better/safer option for me . Im petrified of going under.

Why would vanity be stronger than a surgical procedure where you could die? Each to their own but I just don’t understand it at all.
would you feel the need to cut your breasts and fill them with stuff if you lived alone on a desert island?

I had mine done over 12 years ago and still love them and think they look great. Research a good surgeon in the UK, my surgeon wouldn't do anything too big for my frame. I had over the muscle, I BF after having them done but theyre still so perky, it honestly gives me a little 😁 when I see them every morning.

Obvs BI illness is a worry, and you need them redone. The only thing is there is no more front sleeping again haha

If you genuinely want it, can afford it, and will feel better about yourself as a result then go for it.

I mean I literally have them and was told very clearly that you no longer need to replace them - in fact I have the lifetime guarantee documents still for the implants themselves so....

You only need to have them replaced if they rupture or you’re unhappy with them.

Fat grafting is expensive and doesn’t have a great success rate. My surgeon said I could do this as, where I’ve lost 4 stone, I don’t have much breast tissue left to cover the implants. However, he said it would add around 2.5K to the cost of surgery and only 50% of the grafted fat actually stays in place/takes. The other half is wasted. He suggested I see how I get on and it’s something I can come back to.

I would go for the fat transfer. No implant illness then

I was told the same, also had the lifetime guarantee documents and I had to have them replaced. Very naughty of any surgeon to say that but I didn't know any better at the time. They physically don't last a lifetime unfortunately due to CC, bottoming out, rupture, pocket deformity, implant recalls etc lots of reasons. This should be clearly explained but some surgeons don't incase it puts women off.

I’d say go for it. I had one done when I was 42, so not spring chicken. I’m 52 now and I still get such a rush oh happiness when I look at them, after longing for having it done for as long as I can remember. Don’t listen to horror stories, it’s the same as birth stories, some don’t go to plan and end in death, but the mayority have happy endings. Good luck! And my surgeon said they won’t need replacing , only if problems arise.

Do it.Make sure your surgeon on registered under BAAPS and ideally does nhs work too.
I used Mr Morritt at Claremont Hospital and he was amazing.