To think some Facebook group admins think they are gods?

[MrsRyan2b]

I’m part of a group on Facebook called illiterate Britain. I liked it and would post the odd photo of spelling mistakes. Tonight I posted a photo of Stacey Solomon as she had spelt ecstatic exsatic. My post was removed as “the rules are you can’t identify anyone who are normal members of the public” so I reposted and said I’ve removed the name even though this celeb isn’t a member of the public as per the rules, she’s a celebrity? All the admins jumped down my throat saying have you seen the admins decision is final in the rules and have you also seen the rules about flouncing. They were all like bullies. Telling me my post won’t last long and neither will I, this was after I had changed the post to what they had asked for. All I did was simply question one decision as to why they decided to remove my post as Stacey is not a general member of the public who would feel “shamed”. I edited it without the comment and they posted a screenshot saying we can still see your edits as though I had said something really shameful and they were outing me by posting the screenshot. I said yes as it’s not worth the hassle for myself and they replied that ship has sailed. I deleted the whole post. I’ve just gone on hours later and I’ve been blocked from the group

Don’t you think they are a bit OTT in some of these groups? Good lord, it’s Facebook not something under oath! I also realise I’m not perfect when it comes to spelling and grammar!

That's good information to know, actually. I am supposed to have support via FB for an eating programme I've joined but it is just so dead there. The admins only post advertising and you're not allowed to actually say how you're doing on the diet i.e. struggling or whatever because they take the posts down!! It's infuriating and put me right off FB. But, I had read many places that FB was part of a bygone era so maybe that's why no one is there in the first place, apart from the admins!

Apology accepted although I can assure you that my self esteem is no way linked to whether people use Facebook or not.

Don’t really understand why you posted your original comment if it wasn’t to sound superior as clearly the OP clearly uses FB. Doesn’t really add anything.

I think you've misunderstood me so we'll just leave it.

So a group has rules which include not humiliating a person. (I'm guessing it's more road signs, shop signs etc)
You put up a post to humiliate someone. They take it down and you kick off.
YABU. It's their group - you broke the rules.

A few years ago I was on a local group where people sold and swapped baby equipment. One time one of the administrators put up a post asking if anyone had any buggies for sale. 7 or 8 people responded with details/photos of what they had and she just said "no thank you"to all of them.

I commented suggesting that she could add a few details giving an idea of what she was looking for, so posters wouldn't waste their time. Was told this was a "personal attack" and was removed from group.

My group of bullying FB mates think my bullying went too far how dare they we need a compo face to round this tripe off.

This.

Agree absolutely.
You sound as bad as the bullying admin

On a separate note, as an admin of a group for parents at a particular school - I don't get paid for it. I have a very full time job and a busy life. So yes I set a fairly low bar for deleting posts etc because I don't have the time to be policing big dramas

I welcome vigilant moderation. Because some people are dicks and need to be moderated.

A little bit of power can go to people's heads - and often, the more trivial the power is - like moderating a small FB group - the more ridiculous the results can be.

The premise of this group doesn't sound very pleasant. Misspellings/typos that are funny - where an amusing meaning is unintentionally created - are OK, but posting mistakes for the sake of it doesn't seem to have any point other than to be sneery. You're better off out of it, OP.

That sounds like a group created to promote the eating programme. You might find a support group set up and administered by programme users, or if you started one, people might be very glad to join it.
I have had amazing support from FB groups when recovering from surgery and going through other difficult life events; they can be like the best advisors and supporters in Mumsnet.

Thanks but they specifically say it's for the support of users and individual groups are not permitted.

So, if someone says they've lost x amount of weight and praise the virtues of the programme, no problem. If someone says they don't like the taste of something or they are struggling due to sizes of meals or whatever, their post is removed.

People can PM one another, I suppose, but they don't because no one is using the platform due to the excessive rules and advertising.

I meant that there may already be another, independent FB group set up by users of the programme who moderate their own site and allow all comments, positive and negative. If not, you could very quickly set one up and hope that users of the current site gradually find it, because you certainly won't be allowed to post a link!

3 billion world wide or something. No need to cry

Keep up with the posts and not just the one you choose to be outraged by.

What gives your group the right to mock people, some may have dyslexia some may have other learning difficulties and let's face it none of us are perfect. I think a bit of Facebook power can make some people big headed and bullying.Seems like a simple typo can get a mention on your group and there's a whole realm of difference between that and being illiterate. The word illiterate means cannot read and write so I think your group needs to change it's title,.

Oh i read all your posts, chose the funniest one

Super.

That’s the issue for groups. If it’s a free for all, some really nasty stuff is said, ‘nice’ people stop using it all and it spirals into nastiness. If it’s too tightly moderated or too narrow, there’s nothing left to say and it does a death.

A good group tiptoes in the middle with enough moderation to keep it civilised and relevant. But some people will argue the toss. If you are unfortunate enough to raise a small issue just after someone’s been going hammer and tongs at the mid team, you may get a curt answer!

And the mod team are all going to have slightly different interpretations of the rules. One person is very literally ‘the word thank you has been omitted, delete!’, while another is ‘that’s a courteous post, thank you is implied, pass!’.

Who still uses Facebook?!

Yes their is a group I was on can't remember what its was called but it was a universal credit group and everytime someone asked a question this one specific admin woman would answer it (wrongly half the time) then disable comments so nobody else could say anything

I remember a selling group in the city I was born in

It was run by 4 of the most nasty women I've ever had dealings with-all local women and well known for being nasty

I was just a member,I never posted anything (I think I bought some perm rods from someone via pm) but a few friends got caught out over nothing and where banned-I saw what they'd written and didnt see anything wrong with it

Anyway,one lady had set up selling pumpkins for Halloween to raise a few quid for her dc at christmas

She'd done this every year for a few years via the page and all had been good

One of the admins had seen her arse over this non offensive post and deleted it and blocked the lady who then couldnt fulfil her orders (and people had paid her)

Cue a massive row between this lovely lady and the 4 up-their-own-arses admins

The lovely lady then set up her own group,lovely admins and a well run page and everyone moved across while telling nasty group why

I've never seen such snarling from the other women-they attacked and it got personal (I think the police got involved)

They where threatening to sue lovely lady,threatened to 'come to your house and batter you' and 'we're talking you to court' (over what?)

Pumpkin lady did all her orders and the other group sank but the drama kept me going for about 7 months

I left my home town in the end so came off the group but god,the drama was hilarious

4 women who where full of hot air,spite and empty threats-if lovely lady had been 'battered' then she had about 4 thousand witnesses on the internet and god knows how many screenshots

Yes, lots of people do.

@PrizedPickledPopcorn
That’s the issue for groups. If it’s a free for all, some really nasty stuff is said, ‘nice’ people stop using it all and it spirals into nastiness.
This - for sure.

My experience is that FB groups are echo chambers run by people with little else to do. The group becomes their identity.

If you are one of the sensible ones calling for calm, you get tarred and feathered online. Life is too short to waste your energy in places like that.